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FOR SINGLE WOMEN AGES 40-60

Our client is 57, but looks 47, 6’5”, 225, mesomorph without a workout fetish. He’s follically evolved, has kind green eyes, and a dazzling smile behind his Italian lips that masks the PTSD he experienced as a child with an army of metal wires in his mouth. Midwestern to the core, he still lives and dies home state sports and travels back regularly for games and to visit family. A man’s man, he always counseled his sisters never to trust an American who didn’t like football or a European who didn’t like football (the real kind).

He is overeducated. B.A (yes A) Mathematics, MS and PhD with a four-syllable major from Stanford. Tenured at a very prestigious university in the Bay Area. His motto is “Those that can do, those that can’t teach, and those that can’t do either become administrators”. He has compensated for his faculty salary (he told us “it’s good for the soul”), by founding successful startups and advising major corporations in technical intellectual property.  He’s also stepped in same, advising VC’s and Hedge Funds for over two decades.  Currently he is advising/BOD member of 4 startups in series A and B rounds.  La ti da.

But that’s not all. He plays jazz piano (and actually gets paid to do it) at venues in the Bay Area. He received his music education from a well-known music conservatory in the last century and often waxes poetic about the past (he’s truly an old soul). He also is an accomplished ballroom dancer, having won dance contests in dive bars over the years.  And there’s more yet. He also played D1 sports in college. His passion now is golf, holding a 3 handicap. However, don’t worry, he only plays about once or twice a week. He’s almost always the life-of-the-party and can regale you with life experiences such as searching for buried treasure on three continents.

He’s a grateful empty nester. He was married for 14 years, and is devoted to his son who is a college sophomore in southern California focused on baseball, study and girls (but not necessarily in that order).  He’s anticipating the next stage of his life and would love to find his muse. He’s looking for someone who is a yin to his yang. His ideal woman would be 40-60 years old, have humor, kindness, and be down-to-earth. She’s honest, adoring, fun, compassionate, and has sex appeal–perhaps a cross between Madeline Kahn and Sofia Vergara.

If you or anyone you know might make an exceptional match for our dynamic client, please email founder/CEO Amy at: amy@linxdating.com

Thank you and have a great holiday weekend! ❤️✈️😘✨

Intangibles

This year has absolutely flown by at such a ridiculously fast pace that, at times, it is very hard to keep my head above water!

I feel like I say this every year but this truly has been the busiest year ever for us at Linx. So many happy couples, countless new clients (quite a few high profile individuals), incredible press (generated proudly with no publicist or PR agent), fascinating creative projects, and much more.

This week we are conducting screenings for one of our Silicon Valley VIPs and are super excited to be meeting a select handful of lovely women who have qualified. Our client wants us to be able to really determine if each “finalist” has that “it” factor and obligatory intangibles that are required for the long-term.

We help our clients define their list of intangibles when we first talk to them about their ideal match. To give you some sense of the depth we go with our clients, I want to take you through a simpler but illustrative exercise that aims to prepare you for 2014 regarding your hopes and personal goals. Start now and get ahead of the curve. tumblr_lvj0spreen1qhz76vo1_500

Take an hour in the next couple of days to write down (on a piece of paper) the top 5 intangibles that your dream match would have.

You might now be googling “intangible.” Go ahead and Google it to see what comes up as step one. Step two in my exercise is to think about people that you have met in your life that really just STOOD out and nearly *zapped* you like a thunderbolt because of their chemistry/energy… their magnetism that drew you in, somehow, some way…for whatever reason. tumblr_m8twxeTdbR1r4d8ljo1_5002

As you start to think about this person, do not limit my exercise to be about someone towards whom you have necessarily felt romantic. Instead, create a neutral slate where this person could be literally anyone you have ever had the pleasure of getting introduced to whether for business, academics, friendship, through your travels, family, volunteering, etc. For the purpose of this exercise I do think it is helpful to choose someone of the opposite sex. So if you are a female think about any man who somehow impacted you even on the smallest level. And for the men reading, think of any female (again this does not have to be romantic) who left an indelible impression (even if a very distant one). If your mind is leading you to your mom or dad, that might be telling.

If you are having trouble thinking of that person, take a break and come back to the exercise. Frankly you might have your “a ha” moment when you are least expecting it….driving to work, shopping for weekly groceries and all of a sudden you have your person. Excellent! Once you have selected one or maybe more than one person take the piece of paper and pen and begin to write down what you think were some of the qualities that impressed you the most. Why has this person left an imprint on your life? Was it that he/she was particularly gregarious? Compassionate? Curious? Sharp? Tender? Loyal? Devoted? Analytical? Ridiculously funny? Creative? Spiritual? Family oriented? Tenacious? Decisive? Nurturing? Stocksy_txpc00193e7nd1000_Small_23845

Once you have penned your list of, say, 5 adjectives that stood out, you are well on your way to creating the core ingredients that you need to find in a dream match for the long haul. These essentials are most likely the intangibles most key in your dream match. Even if you didn’t realize it until now, this could be what you have been missing in the search for the love of your life. It is very hard to find all of those qualities in one person so I’d like for you to extract just TWO that you cannot live without. Once you have two intangibles, keep those super glued to you as you date.

This exercise is also designed to focus you a bit more to better vet the men/women you date (especially if you are doing high volume online dating in conjunction to everything else you are doing to meet people). If you can tell he/she does not have those TWO intangibles from the start…move on. In conclusion, by doing this exercise you will start dating with a heightened perspective and keen awareness that most do not have. You are officially ahead of the curve and on a fast track to a bright 2014.

New to the City | Ways to Make Friends & Attract Lovers into your Life!

Dear Amy, 

I‘m 34 years old, in tech, and recently moved to San Francisco from the Mid West. I’m a pretty simple girl with honest values- think cornbread, apple pie, and balancing my checkbook every night before bed! 
 
Being new to the city and a city in general (always lived in pretty small towns), I signed up for a few different online dating sites. What I seem to keep running into is that I struggle feeling the chemistry with these guys but overall, they are really nice yet not for me. The good girl Mid West part of me hates to let them down after a date and share I’m just not feeling it. Is it OK to keep some as friends and how do I do that? 
 
A:  Welcome to the Bay Area. I am huge into telling friends and clients to always do at least 2 dates to really see if that chemistry can develop. My question to you is, are you giving each of these chaps a fair chance or writing them off too quickly. Remember that chemistry can grow in all sorts of funny ways and in order to see if there is something there, you need to go out a couple of times. If you follow my plan and do two dates and still feel nothing, by all means you can keep whomever you like as a friend. The question is, will he want to?! Rejection on whatever level is a sensitive subject and not easy for guys to handle with their ego in the way.   
A girl who is new to the city can never have enough good friends in her life, so one way to go about this is to pay him the biggest and most genuine compliment you can after your second date. Do this in person and not over email and definitely not text.
After the compliment, pose a question to him, inquiring if he is feeling the chemistry. Maybe he is and maybe he isn’t. Get a conversation going. Then go in with the “I’m not entirely sure if the romance thing is there for me 100% but being new to the Bay Area, I’d like to keep you around, even set you up with a friend at some point. What do you think about that?” 
After you do this, your plan of action to not only keep him as a new friend but instantaneously get your name on the social map in the city is to be hostess with the mostess.
 
Our featured song for this entry is Sarah Vaughan Whatever Lola Wants by Gotan Project. This is a great song to get you into the party mood and to crank up at your soiree.
After your conversation with him, immediately get to work and don’t lose any momentum. Plan a festive and intimate party with him.
Have him invite 2 professional guy friends (if you are 34, their age is max early 40’s) and those guys invite 2 professional girls (ideally under 40) and those girls invite a friend each. Have everyone collaborate over email and each person brings an appetizer and bottle of wine under $20 from around the world. 
You host the party on a Friday or Saturday night and make sure your home is sparkling clean, candles lit, fun music on, and ready for your new friends party!  In doing this, you will meet new friends, possibly meet a cute new guy who you will feel that chemistry with, and feel welcome in your new city by the Bay!
The email invitation reads something like this: 
Who: Amanda Smith and Craig Baylor
What: Drink your way around the world and meet new friends for some networking, friendships, and fun
Where: Amanda’s new city apartment on Jackson street.
When: September 22nd at 6:00pm
Why: Everyone needs a reason to have fun after a long work week and I’m new to the city!
Please bring a bottle of white or red wine under $20 and it must be from out of the US. Think Australia, New Zealand, South America,
Iceland?!  Feel free to bring an appetizer too. I will be making my favorite artichoke dip and savory cheese fondue as well.
Please bring a friend of the opposite sex too!
Parking is grim, so cab if you can or roll the dice with parking.
See you soon!
Kindly,
Amanda and Craig
If you try this, you are guaranteed an entertaining night and to get on the social grid. You will be considered by these new friends to be a sophisticated catch, who is sweet, social, friendly, and smart.
The word will buzz around and next thing you know, the boys will be calling.  This social strategy for meeting new people could be applied to even those who are in graduate school programs at Stanford University. What a great way to meet new prospects for friendships and love!
And no concerns if you have a tiny apartment. At the end of the day, your guests will be thankful for the invitation and don’t care about a small space. You can move tables, chairs, stand around, ask the guys to help move furniture if needed. No excuses! Now get party planning and report back to amy@linxdating.com.  I want an invite too! 😉

Linx Wardrobe Consult

One of our newest summer bachelors’ has come to us after spending the last several years focusing on his career, traveling and enjoying time with his buddies.

After meeting him and getting to know him – we are thrilled to welcome a kind, intelligent and charming new client to Linx.
Our featured song for this entry is Digital Underground’s Humpty Dance 
We immediately began with the basics – a little wardrobe consultation to align his personal style with his quiet and confident personality.

I had him send over his measurements and clothing preference, from there I visited Neiman Marcus over the weekend and pulled some conservative and tasteful looks for him.
This week, our bachelor arrived to NM to a rack filled with looks (casual day date to a dressier night out on the town look). Guys don’t want to have to think about clothing. Our services make it so easy for them to simply show up and *magic* the work is done!
It’s amazing what a huge difference a few pairs of perfectly fitted jeans, nice button up’s, a couple cashmere sweaters, basic t-shirts, a gorgeous Armani sport coat, light
jacket, and Ferragamo drivers can do! And to top that…what some good tailoring can do! 
It was so much fun watching him transform before our eyes, literally and figuratively! With just a few tips and feedback on his attire – he was truly so happy and excited with his new looks.
A few fall fashion tips for any men out there who would like to get the inside scoop on what women think. 
– Layering is a very sexy look (especially for Fall and Winter.) A nice pair of fitted pants, t-shirt underneath, button up, a nice sweater/cardigan and coat.
– Get creative! Try new colors, patterns, mix and match for a fresh and stylish look!
– A pair of nice casual shoes and one that is dressier.
– Whatever you choose to wear, be sure you are comfortable and aim to look good effortlessly!
-If you aren’t feeling “it”, don’t buy it. You need to be yourself and feel good
about your new look.

Success! VIP Bachelorette Search Event Last Week!

Last week we spent July 10th, 11th and 12th at the luxurious St. Regis hotel in San Francisco searching for the perfect, needle in a haystack, dream bachelorette for a young 32 year old VIP bachelor client.

Our featured song is Jody Watley Looking For A New Love. 

My assistant, Aimi, and I checked in and literally hit the ground running for the next few days (in my typical style, I only left the hotel from check-in on Tuesday to departure at 1:00am on Saturday for 5 minutes mid week for a quick breath of fresh air!)  The style was individual private meetings with exceptionally stunning and brilliant women who had submitted their information as part of this search. In a few cases, my team recruited some women that we felt should be considered for the event. 

These women couldn’t have been more impressive, poised, fun to be around, and taking this process so seriously. I really am still flabbergasted at the quality of these women (think Ivy League education, young professionals, having it ALL going on, very attractive, family values, sweet, witty, and warm hearted.)

It’s been such an honor that our bachelor has brought us on board to help him find the love of his life and truth is, we had no idea (nor did he) what a successful turn-out this event would be. 

The stage was set in our luxe suite at the St Regis and our bachelor wanted each detail to be perfect. Every. Little. Detail.

Think – gorgeous suite at the St. Regis with sweeping views of San Francisco, multiple exotic floral arrangements, hand crafted chocolates as thank you gifts, French champagne, artisanal breads and cheeses, candles and soft music. The setting was super comfortable and environment conducive to open-up about love and potentially getting to meet this class-act of a gentleman.

The pièce de résistance was a collection of giclée canvases that our bachelor requested being showcased in the suite. What guy thinks of these things?! He is so creative and has such an attention to detail that so many do not. From a canvas about his passion for skiing in Europe, to a simple painting of a serene moonlit landscape, the idea was to inspire stories/ideas/thoughts from each of the lovely women that attended. 

We spent very long (15 hour plus and yes lots of coffee fueling us) exciting days personally sitting down and meeting each candidate asking them intimate details about their relationship history, family background, and what is the most challenging aspect about potentially dating themselves!  Aimi and I enjoyed a couple of late nights in our St Regis bathrooms burning there midnight oil! You can imagine that there were so many stories and personal thoughts we had to put into a document for our bachelor , that THIS part of the week was extremely labor intensive for us. I’ll tell you no other matchmaker anywhere would ever think to go to this length or desire getting every scrupulous detail to ensure a successful outcome. Every. Little. Detail. 

Candidate after candidate, conversation after conversation- we were so impressed at the underlying elegance and openness that these women brought to this cool opportunity. I think most agreed that this opportunity was just so hands down unusual. It isn’t typical for a guy in the Bay Area (San Francisco no less) to retain a company like Linx to help him in his quest for his dream wife (especially at his young age.) Most 32 years old are doing the Chestnut Street bar crawl. Tipsy Pig no thanks!

In my conversations leading up to the event, he really could not believe that these gorgeous and smart women were there to potentially meet him! He was so  honored and just really blown-away by the whole orchestration and overwhelming response. In a meeting leading up to the event the night before, he sat across from me, almost teary eyed at how blessed and humbled he felt. 🙂

As exciting and interesting as this entire journey has been – the hardest part is all the anticipation as to who our VIP Bachelor will choose. It just takes one girl and the reality is he is making some careful decisions currently. He might choose one or two to have dates with, maybe more, maybe less. In the end, these girls might realize they don’t want to meet him. It goes both ways. Something tells me this won’t be the case.

We will be doing more VIP events in the near future and possible an international search as well. Linx is always looking for the next VIP client to allow him or her to help with their dream search and making every little detail count!

 

 

This Weeks Featured New Clients

Our featured new clients this week: 

(1) A Caucasian, tall, slender, graceful, blond who is in her late 30s, very well educated and working in the internet real estate industry. She’s classy, soft-spoken, and feminine, while also dynamic and independent. She has a wide range of interests and prides herself in being an avid traveler – two of her recent trips were the Hamptons and Switzerland. This fabulous woman loves sports and spends time watching baseball, football, and tennis and enjoys live sporting events (her sports knowledge can probably rival any guy’s). Her ideal leading man is Caucasian, sophisticated, geeky, eccentric, quietly confident, and preferably tall. Deal breakers include: too Type A, aggressive, and doesn’t want kids.  

 (2) An incredibly wholesome late 20s Caucasian woman residing on the Peninsula. She is a graduate of a top liberal arts school and also has a Law degree.  Physically she is 5’ 7” and naturally beautiful with fair skin, dark long brown hair, and a very sweet smile. Her interests include cars, entertaining for close friends and family, old films, the arts, and reading… she considers herself a voracious reader (favorites include The Power of One by Bryce Courtney, Love in a Cold Climate by Nancy Mitford, and most things by Agatha Christie)   Her ideal match is a dynamic gentleman of any ethnicity, intellectual, geeky, a good communicator, and family centric. Deal breakers include: life-of-the-party, apolitical, has kids, over 42.

(3) A thoughtful and inquisitive early 40s Caucasian gentleman, Ivy League educated for his undergraduate and postgraduate, he spends his time as an executive at a hot tech company.  He is funny, down to earth, liberal, and very kind-hearted. His passions include daily swimming, reading fiction, skiing, tennis, lots of laughter, wine and entertaining. This gentleman has lived all around the world. Including Canada, Europe, and the East Coast. He grew up Christian, appreciates Buddhism, and would like his dream match to have a spiritual core to her.  His perfect match is a naturally beautiful woman in her early to mid 30’s, any ethnicity, and ideally career driven and either in (or with experience having been in) a leadership role. Importantly, she is intellectually curious, has an unwavering happiness about her, is thoughtful, and quick witted. Deal breakers include: very traditional, conservative, moody, over 36, atheist. 

(4) A vibrant and athletic Caucasian guy in his mid 20s, Stanford educated, and now working for a very well known tech company. His best physical features are his contagious smile, football-like physique, strong broad shoulders and dark brown features.  Being a total guy’s guy, he loves sports, trucks, poker and BBQ-ing with friends and family.  He’s young and extremely goal oriented, down to earth, funny, and just an overall fun guy with a very cheerful and “can-do” energy who is ready for commitment. He is looking for this same positive energy in his match – someone who enjoys the little things in life, leads an active lifestyle, enjoys dining and entertaining, and can be equally comfortable in the city drinking fine wine or appreciating the country life kicking dirt around listening to a country music concert.  She is Caucasian, Latin or Asian American ethnicity under 30 years old, petite with curves, bubbly, sweet, and smart. Deal breakers include: curly hair, extremes with religion, has kids, doesn’t want kids, atheist, and someone who is too environmental.  

If you feel you make a wonderful potential match for any of these clients, please contact Amy today! amy@linxdating.com

Modern Dating

Today I received an email from a new client who really appreciated the document that we attach to all Linx introductions, officially entitled “Linx Dating’s Hints For Successful Dates.”

The number one point I make in this guide is “When you receive your Linx introduction, throw the idea of Googling your match out the window!  Why do you think we stopped sharing last names after all?! There is something very appealing about creating some intrigue and mystery in building up to the first date. If you know too much, it can spoil the fun!”

In reading this document, the new client (a female) emailed me saying, “You are a genius–saving us from the post-feminist catastrophe one match at a time. I love your guidelines for dating! I’m sure everyone feels this way. I was concerned about Googling; since my name is unique, it’s very easy to find me.”   

While she appreciated the simplicity of my date etiquette, I just had a male client text me after he received his Linx introduction asking me what his date’s last name was. Even though this is a VIP client of Linx, I wrote back and said “you know I can’t give that information out, it is private.”

Why would he need to know? What’s the point of revealing something like that? Isn’t a completely customized bio of whom you are going out with enough, including an attached mobile number? I think, in this era, that so many of us feel the need for more. More data = more better?! More data = more comfort in knowing whom you are going out with? Or more data = I will finally find evidence that makes me not want to date this person? What is the point?

It begs the question. What did people do without the internet when dating?  Did you go to the library? Did you call a neighbor? Did you meet at a coffee shop to find out MORE information about your blind date from your friend setting you up? To expand on that, what did people do without mobile phones when dating?

Has the amount of information and technology available hurt the dating scene or enabled more opportunities, deeper resources, and aided in the quest of finding the one? What do you think?