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Ten Bay Area Date Ideas for May…

Blog written by: Linx staff member, Michael Norman

Even though summer has yet to officially start, the Bay area social scene is already hot with options for shaking up the status quo. Whether you want to step out with someone special or just grab a friend and step out of your comfort zone, the month of May is ripe with opportunities for making new memories. Check out ten of our favorites below: iStock_000038766014Small

Save the Bay… and Save Room for Dessert

Oysters have long been thought an aphrodisiac, so taking your date to the Bubbles and Bivalves benefit on Thursday, May 8th could make you seem sexier in more ways than one. Enjoy offerings from Epic Roasthouse, Domaine Chandon, Lusk 25, Speakeasy Brewery and others while you support the Watershed Project and its Living Shoreline program.

Sail Away, Sail Away, Sail Away…

If your preferred Friday night activities involve a DJ and a dance floor, but you’re still looking for a bit of variety, consider a Midnight Cruise from SF Nightlife on May 9th. Depart from Pier 40, boogie the night away on a luxury yacht with a crowd of strangers dressed in their Friday night finest, and spend Saturday reliving the dream (and recovering).

Hurray for Bollywood!

Take advantage of the Bay area’s multicultural flavor by spending May 10th at the Nonstop Bhangra dance party at Public Works. After months of headliners and big name talent, this month is a “Back to Basics” event, with lessons and instruction that make it perfect for beginners and Bollywood buffs alike.

Get Over Hump Day with… a Blunt?

On Wednesday, May 14th, recording artist James Blunt will be performing live at the legendary Fillmore in SF. The British recording artist and heartbreaker will be singing songs from his latest international smash album, Moon Landing, as well as other highlights from the past decade of his career.

Get to Know a Gallerina…

Slated for May 15-18 at the Fort Mason Center, this year’s ArtMarketSF promises to deliver the best of the contemporary Bay area art scene in the confines of one historic building. Along with local standouts, galleries from London, New York, Idaho (yes, Idaho) and even Tel Aviv will be present. With so many options in one place, something (or someone) is bound to get your attention.

Dress for Excess…

Surprisingly, Bay to Breakers is actually the oldest consecutively run annual footrace in the world, and the 102nd edition will take place on the morning of May 18th. Participants have been known to dress up (and down) in all sorts of ways for this 12k race, so while we can’t guarantee that your date will only have eyes for you, we can safely say that the dress code for this is event is No Jacket Required.

Exercise Your Eye for Fashion…

On the evening of May 18th, check out Midnight Metropolis at Ruby Skye where students from the Fashion Department of City College of SF showcase their creations while competing for a scholarship to attend the Academy of Art. This year’s inspirations include Braveheart and Burning Man, among others, so consider this a glimpse of life on the Playa.

Set Some GOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAALLLS!

From May 23-25, take part in Carnaval, the largest multi-cultural celebration held on the West coast. This year’s theme is a celebration of the World Cup, so be part of the fun as the spirits of soccer and samba take over eight full blocks of Harrison St. in San Francisco. More than 400,000 visitors are expected; you may want to bring your own ball.

Look Out For Giants…

On May 24th and 25th (and most weekends over the coming months) take a ride aboard the Salty Lady to the Farallon Islands where you can participate in hunger, seasickness, and whale watching! Warning: the hunger and seasickness are actually optional(plan ahead for both cases) but the seafaring and tight quarters are not.

Spin the Bottle at Bottle Rock…

A great fit for the culinarily curious and the culturally omnivorous, the annual BottleRock festival in Napa takes places May 30-June 1. More than sixty acts (from Smash Mouth to Howie Day, Outkast to LL Cool J) provide the entertainment while restaurants and wineries like Morimoto, Il Posto, Rombauer, and Clos Du Val provide nearly everything else. Pick a day of preferred entertainment, take a date, and make a toast to bon appetit… for two!

Announcing our latest VIP

Linx is excited to announce another VIP search.

Our client is an adventurous and intellectually curious gentleman in his early 50’s.

He is Caucasian, 6’0″, fit, attractive, stylish, and with a contagious smile.

Our client is new to the Bay Area, having just moved to the Bay Area from across the United States.

He’s an independent spirit who is searching for the love of his life and has retained Linx to help him find her.

He’s a successful executive, very driven, a leader in his field and well educated.

Yet when he’s not working…you’d never know he’s a tough guy at work.

He has a capability to dial it back, reveal a fun and playful side to him, and create a glorious work-life balance in his down time.

He is a unique blend of many traits — kind, serious, irreverent, quiet, but never at a loss for words, thoughtful, yet quick to make decisions,patient but not one who suffers fools gladly, if at all.

His playlist runs from U2, to Beethoven, from Lucinda Williams to Verdi. He is a good listener and an astute observer of people. He has an inquisitive mind and loves to learn about new things.

His passions outside of the scope of work are wide ranging but a short list includes: his big dogs, his adult son, NBA basketball, photography, travel, his new home he built, wine, and keeping active. Another significant hobby for our client is flying. Piper Matrix PA-46-R350T

He’d love for his dream match to be comfortable flying with him in his airplane.

Our VIP desires Sexy, Smart, Stable, and with a Great Sense of Humor! She is between the ages of 35-45, Caucasian, 5’6″ plus, stylish, fit, and naturally attractive. His match is witty, easy to be around, fun, comfortable with herself, adventurous, and doesn’t take herself too seriously!

She’s looking for a true gentleman through and through and will embrace a man who is chivalrous. After a long work week, she’d love to
have a quiet night in by the outdoor fire grilling and sipping a glass of wine as she would be jetting off to Santa Barbara or Tahoe with
her match.

If you or anyone you know might qualify to meet this extraordinary client of ours, please contact amy ASAP. amy@linxdating.com

Match Me To!

If you could meet anyone in Silicon Valley or San Francisco whom you consider to be one of the hottest bachelor or bachelorettes, who would it be? You know there is someone out there that you either think would never go for you, or who might go for you but you don’t have access to him/her, or you are too shy to put it out there that you have a crush on them!

Getting linked and matched to your sexiest crush just got easier! Even if you aren’t a client of Linx, email me your wishes and perhaps we can increase your odds. Did you know that hundreds of brainy and successful young professionals email me each week inquiring about our invite-only matchmaking and about ways to fire up the engines of their dating life? We have thousands and thousands of names in our proprietary database.

Our clients submit their wish lists of “Match Me To’s” when they join. Sometimes one of their names is a client or in the database. In other cases, if it is a Linx VIP client, I will recruit outside the network to try to make their wish come true. This was the case today in my email correspondance with one uber successful Silicon Valley male CEO VIP client of Linx. He reached out to tell me how he knows of a gorgeous Fullbright Scholar whom he thinks is quite the cats meow. Although this brainy babe isn’t in our network (yet), I’ll take it as a chance to leverage our brand and reach out to her. 07BACHELORVILLE-superJumbo Photo is from a New York Times article June 2013 quoting Linx.

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Who’s on your Match Me To list? Your secret is kept confidential with me: email amy@linxdating.com

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The Secrets Of Silicon Valley’s Dating Scene

BuzzFeed contacted me to introduce the journalist to a few of our clients who were willing to talk anonymously about the Silicon Valley dating scene. Here is what one young attorney in the Silicon Valley had to say….

There is saying amongst women trying to date in Silicon Valley: The odds are good, but the goods are odd. There are tons of guys, but they tend to be socially awkward, career-obsessed, and prone to a Peter Pan mentality.

What’s it like to try to find love in the Valley? This lawyer, in her early thirties and living in the heart of Silicon Valley, has tried everything: online dating, going to clubs, and even Linx Dating, a high-end Valley matchmaking service. On the condition of anonymity she agreed to tell all.google-520

They call it “Man Jose,” and it is so true.

If you are even an average or above average female, finding a date isn’t an issue. You have a lot of guys you can go on dates with, but what makes it difficult is finding a viable partner. Most of the men went to Ivy League schools, are ambitious, and came out here because it’s the mecca of the tech world. There’s a great mix of guys from all over world, and there are interesting types of people to meet. That said, not a lot of them are viable. And the men that are viable know it.

A lot of them are socially awkward. They are extremely smart and logical and think, “I can apply that to a relationship and be rational and logical and that will work.” They don’t realize that as women, we can be emotional — a lot of guys don’t have tolerance for that.

A lot of people in the Valley have started meeting people through salsa dancing — it’s really big — and so much social awkwardness comes up. I don’t think a lot of guys even interact with women on a consistent basis. You dance with them and some actually shake. They can’t look you in the eye. They act like, “Oh my goodness, there is a woman who I’m touching.” They get super nervous. It makes it difficult to date someone who doesn’t even know how to act in a social context; it’s just frustrating.

I went on a date with a 25-year-old who told me in the beginning, “You are the second person I’ve ever gone on a date with. Ever.”

It was the worst date. It was clear he had never dated. He told me all these things that you wouldn’t ever disclose on a first date. It almost felt like an awkward high school setup; we met at this yogurt place. And that’s another thing — it’s not really typical to go on formal dates. Everyone does coffee for the first date. In other parts of the country, going to dinner is pretty standard; here, when a guy mentions dinner for a first date, it’s like, wow — that is shocking! Most people in the tech industry are very laid-back and don’t have a lot of time. The mentality is, “Am I going to invest in this or do sort of a pre-date?”

On dates, guys wear flip-flops, shorts, and jeans. It’s what they wear to work, so they think it translates to date attire — just wearing their scrubby clothes. I wear dresses when I met these guys. They don’t put in that effort.

Guys who are successful, who dress up, are good-looking, and who aren’t socially awkward are a rare breed. And they know it. They have a ton of choices. They’re the type that’s always looking for a better option. There are some like that in Silicon Valley, but I find a lot in San Francisco. I’ve been on dates with guys you would say are the “whole package,” and while they’re with you they literally look at other women as they walk away.Mark Pincus

Guys in Silicon Valley spend lot of time on their career and don’t have time to devote to relationships. I’m a lawyer and I work a lot too; most tech guys I meet put in as many or more hours as I do. Sometimes when they have a deadline or are pushing out a product, for instance, they put in 90 hours. They typically say they would live at work if they could. A lot of big tech companies, like Google and LinkedIn, make it conducive to these guys spending every minute of their time there, with great perks like food and showers and the like.

The companies where they work promote a bubble mentality. There is an immaturity level that prevails — like they are trying to promote the idea that they are still in college. At Google they have Nerf gun wars. At work, their food is provided for them and they can, essentially, act like they are still in college. A lot of guys, even in their twenties and early thirties, have roommates even though they are making well over $100,000 a year. It makes it difficult to have a serious relationship.

There are two groups of guys. A lot of them are 23 to 28. They are into their career, and most are quite immature. And then there are a ton of early-forties guys who never married. They have waited and were starting companies and then they hit their forties and realized,”Now I’m ready to get married and have kids.”

These groups are the only two we get hit on by. Where are the early-thirties guys? We can’t figure it out. We don’t know where they hang out or what they do. Especially online, if a guy in his mid-thirties messages me, it’s a rarity. My friends and I are done dating anyone not in their thirties, and we don’t know where these guys are.

I’ve heard that San Francisco is known to be the number one city for gold diggers, but I haven’t observed that at all. It isn’t realistic, because if you live in this area you have to be able to make quite a bit of money — it’s very expensive. It’s actually the other way around: There are definitely very accomplished older professional women here. Older women are just picking up the 28-year-olds because they can. It is totally cougar central, and it’s hilarious.

Everywhere I go, it’s 23- and 24-year-olds. I’ll say, “You’re too young for me. It won’t work,” and they tell me, “I’ve dated older women, and it is so much better.” It’s pretty common. They’ll latch on to us, and they think, she’ll take care of me. They’re being taken care of at work, so why not be in a relationship where they’re taken care of too?

It’s so comical — to the point where when I go out, the first question is, “How old are you?” These younger guys try to persuade you that they really are mature, but they’re not. Some of them just latch on and are very persistent. It’s flattering, sure, but at the same time, it just doesn’t work.

A lot of guys have the mentality that they’ll wait and they’ll find the perfect woman. They don’t realize that relationships aren’t about perfection. At work, it’s all black and white. They say they love their job because it’s about fixing a problem and there is always a solution. They don’t realize that this isn’t how it works in real life.

Written by : Justine Sharrock for BuzzFeed

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Entrepreneur Lessons

I thought this week would be sort of a chill one. My assistant is in Japan right now and with her being away I dialed back the typical high volume meetings we normally have for a little less intensity on the work front. Maybe a week off? Think again. This week has been one of the busiest ones in ages and I swear I say that each week to myself as I huff and puff in the bathroom getting ready for work thinking how could it get any crazier but really this one is major.

My days seem to start drifting into one another where I tell myself I need “more hours” in the day to get stuff done. When an email and call comes in I wish I had twenty fingers to quickly respond to the deluge of emails and calls. I used to never be a morning person, in fact growing up I had a true disdain for mornings. I was *that* kid in school who loved faking a tummy ache so I could sleep a little more.  I was also that kid who loved sleeping in and then mom making me ridiculously delicious stacks of homemade pancakes smothered in butter and rich Aunt Jemima syrup dripping off and playing a little hooky.  What’s wrong with a little vacation and play day with mom? Those were the days!

Now with the demands of my job and Linx truly being on the so-called map in a huge way, my previous repulsion of morning has started to drift away as I evolve as a founder, small business owner, wife, and mother to our pup. It has actually been our dog who has helped shift my body clock to become more of a morning person. He wakes up at the crack of dawn stretching and giving us the sweetest little puppy kisses ever. It’s feeding time and game on for him!  While that is my husband’s job, I can’t help but sort of toss and turn by his affection and the fact that my two favorite guys are already wide awake. hopper.morning-sunMorning Sun by Edward Hopper

I used to do the majority of all client interviews in the later afternoon hours and evening hours. Bang three out in one night, last interview with new client ending wrapping at 10:00pm in my old office in Palo Alto. I’d do my personal notes from my assessment of the interview and then deliriously cruise home for dinner at 11:00pm most week nights. It just wasn’t healthy nor balanced in anyway. I had truthfully always believed my clients wanted evening hours since they were all busy professionals working during the day. I’ve learned in my business lessons of running my company, when it comes to matters of the heart people will do what it takes to carve out time for themselves at any hour of the day for a meeting with me. Morning. Noon. Night. It doesn’t matter.

My sacred time has now become the silence of the morning with the sun rising. The occasional car passing by, the birds starting the sing their songs, and Peninsula Cal Train’s faint horn sound in the distance. I actually now really enjoy doing morning meetings. In fact, I love wrapping my client interviews by 2:00pm so I can have time to reflect on notes and then get to emails in the afternoon. Ironically I find my mind is a ton sharper and I’m more “on” in the morning. I’m ready to go, excited for the day, and can hardly wait to get to start discussions with my first client. For an entrepreneur in Silicon Valley it is a complete rush of endorphins and a massive satisfaction of absolutely loving being a passionate and innovative entrepreneur here. 94.428_01_a02                   Coffee by Richard Diebenkorn

Last night I worked with a prospect by phone quite late as he doesn’t like computers and does everything he can to get away from them. I had sent him his Linx application and other materials to get started on weeks ago and in our call last night before today’s big meeting he admitted he was *that* kid at Stanford who waited till 12:00am to complete his homework for that day. Some things don’t change. I’ve learned that not every new client is the same on many fundamental levels. As a CEO you have to be nimble and adapt to what he or she might feel more comfortable with.

I had a very long day yesterday and luckily sweated it out some at the gym which I really needed (blog post on that coming soon) yet was not as nearly prepared as I always am for today’s meeting since my client had not sent me ANY of his materials. I acted quickly and responded to a way I knew he would appreciate. I took am hour and a half on the phone with him dancing through my database and application questions in an effortless way for him. He was more than happy to share everything on the phone and will do the same in person today but just having to fill out forms isn’t his thing. I get that. If I had been too rigid about my standard methodology and forcing him to do it my way, I would have absolutely lost him as a potential amazing client. In fact he texted me the other day saying “Are you sure you aren’t from New York?” I wrote back saying, “Why, cuz I work all the time?” He said, “No cause you are so persistant…and that is a good thing.” I smiled. As a former Wall Street financier he respects my drive and creativity too where sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to get the job done.

Luckily we went through all of the important points I need in order to represent him as a client last night. Now it’s a new day and the birds are chirping. The sun is slowing rising and there seem to be more cars buzzing by on this Friday morning. Maybe families are getting out of dodge at 5:30am before everyone else for the holiday weekend. As I reflect on this blog entry I can’t help but smile. I watch as my pup is asleep in front of me and laugh as my husband is at a kickboxing class right now (talk about a maniac..blog entry for later on that one too!). My stomach is starting to rumble. I can’t help but crave those pancakes with gooey and totally artificial fantastic syrup. 865339_com_pancakePancakes by Wayne Thiebaud

The artists selected here: Hopper, Diebenkorn, and Thiebaud reflect some of my favorite contemporary artists. Interestingly they each had an influence on one another.

This Week in Perspective

Holy moly….it has been non-stop here…been a little delinquent in my regular blogging. The phone is ringing off the hook, we’ve seen tons of clients and prospects at the office this week, and heard some great news about some of our couples…getting engaged in the near future and others… the faint sound of wedding bells in the distance with the wedding date set!

I‘ve had the pleasure of meeting some total dynamo new clients this week and prospects who are soon to be new clients. One prospect brought a lovely bottle of wine sharing that she felt she was arriving to “my house” and thus a little hostess gift. Sweet, thoughtful, and kind….

The energy around here is enthusiast, vibrant, and super positive. Linx clients are feeling energized and it seems like readier than ever to find love this summer. We are experiencing a high volume of women applying for memberships and have instated a wait list as such for new premium female clientele for a few months so we can focus on our current client base. The good news is lots of uber desirable men are knocking on our doors. A surge in quite attractive, mid  to late 40’s, very successful, and divorcees seem to be a current trend. That demographic makes a great new member at Linx for us! His blueprint is that of family and marriage. He’s been there before and desires that again! San Mateo-20130509-01096Getting ready for a new client appointment. Gluten free maple cookies on a silver tray. Heels off, running around the office. R & B streaming today.

The Silicon Valley remains a hot spot (despite lots talking about an exodus of people/companies heading from the Valley to San Francisco for living/positioning company headquarters there very reminiscence of the dot com boom) and I am contacted nearly every single day by production companies in LA to discuss my own TV show. I’m not saying never. I’m not saying yes either.

Is the Silicon Valley becoming the new Hollywood 3.0? Look at what the talented Randi Zuckerberg is doing with her production company Zuckerberg Media. Do you think Hollywood should infiltrate Silicon Valley? What becomes too much at a certain point?

I always learn so much from my clients. Sometimes I hear really depressing stories about my clients lives, other times stories that are completely inspiring. In one day it can go from a meeting starting with clients eyes welling up in tears speaking about their past, to another meeting filled with excitement and jitters about finding a new love.

My days are spent doing a lot of listening and trying to always be as empathetic as I can. It helps having gone through “crap” in my time and working a lot to further enhance my emotional intelligence. From commitment phobes, to cheaters, to plain mean jerks…I’ve experienced a lot in my many relationships prior to my marriage.  Of course, there have been some truly amazing good, genuine guys I’ve called boyfriends in between the occasional naughty black sheep. Relating to my clients and in many cases having been in “their shoes” makes this process much more understandable for me and comfortable for my clients. They like that I “get them” and that the Linx process is approachable and relatable.

One of our new Linx members wrote me something today after our client interview, “thanks so much for taking the time to get a good read on me. Your powers of perception leave me in awe.”

We have a very busy next week with a sold out casting screening women for our clients and a photo-shoot taking place for a European magazine (equivalent of Elle). The photog is flying up from LA on Weds so if you happen to be around University Avenue in Palo Alto, I will be there somewhere with him getting shots of quintessential Silicon Valley. Lol. Never a dull moment in the world of Silicon Valley’s matchmaker.

Announcing our latest VIP search

Linx is excited to announce a new search for a 31 year old Caucasian female residing in San Francisco. Perhaps you are eligible, searching, or if you are attached, know someone who might make the perfect match for our client. 

Physically, she is 5’6″, feminine with sexy curves, and keeps active with intense gym workouts. On the surface people might judge her as a whip smart, successful female in tech. For those in her inner sanctum, IQ meets EQ. Our client has a magnetism about her, coupled with being extremely down-to-earth, warm-hearted, open-minded, and funny too.

Although young, our client is ready for love now and wants to be able to connect emotionally with her match and build a life and family together one day. We’re not going to fabricate things, she works a lot. That said, she is ready to dial it back (some) and create a strong foundation with you built on monogamy, trust, and passion. Outside of work, she’s a true foodie and super knowledgeable about wine as well. Perhaps you would indulge her and share in this passion with her?  

Our client seeks a match who is between the ages of 25-45 of any ethnicity. You keep active, healthy, and balanced in your life. You’ve got a full life, amazing passions and creative hobbies that keep you stimulated and have so much to offer someone. Maybe you’ve done the online dating thing and perhaps have had a couple of serious relationships.
 
Like our client, this is “your time” to get serious. When you visualize your future, you can picture a true partnership on equal footing. You want kids, in fact…maybe you already have one at home (but would love another). You’re a non-conformist-type who has the courage to do what YOU want versus what society or family dictates. You lead your life with integrity, have a burning fire in your belly to excel at whatever you do professionally, are deep and not afraid of a philosophical debate, intellectual, and friends would say emphatic and caring. 
 
If you or anyone you know is interested in this very unique opportunity to see if you qualify to meet our client, please email me ASAP at amy@linxdating.com. There are zero fees involved. 
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