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Linx Testimonial from 50-something Male

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“Amy has considerably exceeded my expectations – and that is rare.

Contacting Amy, I was interested in meeting someone special to have a family with. Until then, my dating life was active and enjoyable, yet seldom in a relationship likely to lead to marriage and children.

Before becoming a client, I recall discussing the “leap of faith” new clients make – having never worked with a matchmaker before. I vividly recall all concerns about becoming a client evaporating as soon as I met the first match.

Through Amy, I met accomplished, attractive, vivacious women I would not have met on my own.

Matchmaking is an art, not a science. If it was science, combining 50 handsome men and 50 beautiful women would create 50 adorable couples. As a matchmaker, Amy is a very talented artist.

Amy is conscientious. She personally knows me as well as the woman she is introducing me to – so it’s more like meeting someone through a mutual friend. We both know each other’s backgrounds, interests and aspirations. So the first date doesn’t seem like a first date. Our first conversation is much more interesting about what matters to both of us, on a deeper more intellectual level.

Amy is encouraging and insightful. Encouraging when there is future potential in a match and insightful when there isn’t, allowing me to better understand what I’m looking for in a person.

If you are accomplished, selective and interested in meeting someone special, I suggest meeting with Amy. Expect to be surprised by her capabilities and quality of match she may have for you.

Amy greatly exceeded my expectations. She might exceed yours, too…”

New Year Q & A with CEO of Linx Dating

New Years is right around the corner. Make 2014 YOUR Year to find the love of your life. I spend a lot of my days talking with prospects about Linx and answering questions about the business. Since there are so many inquiries coming in with 2014 on the horizon, I thought it would be helpful to post a basic Q & A about the Linx network.

Q: It sounds like you work mostly with men who need help dating, true? Can you generalize about your clientele and what they are looking for—long-term relationship, or something more casual?

A: Linx is an offline dating and social network created for the commitment-minded… professionals looking for a hookup or a quick fix are not our target and we have an extensive screening process for all candidates that weeds out those who are not “in it for the long haul.”

Though we do a lot of date coaching work with some of our clients to help them be successful in the early stages of dating (getting past date one, to date two, three, and so on), we are doing this to nurture budding relationships that, projecting ahead, could be perfect matches and ultimately marriage.

Of course, not all Linx clients are on exactly the same timeline, but all of them are seeking, and comfortable with, commitment.

Linx is one of the few matchmaking networks that represents BOTH men and women as clients and, depending on the type of membership, either or both will pay fees.

For example, we represent many females who are struggling as they try to locate a match for marriage. This typical female client is healthy inside and out, feminine, very well-educated (often Ivy League caliber), over-achieving, and has an impressive career. The dating background on such a candidate is usually binary – either (1) she has dated too many eligible, yet emotionally unavailable men, who cannot commit to her and has been repeatedly burned, so now it’s GAME ON, like RIGHT NOW; or (2) on the other extreme, she has not dated that much at all, is not really sure where to turn as she refuses to do online dating (or is highly skeptical of it), has zero interest in dating colleagues from work, and has severe time constraints. We work with all ages of women and represent many women who have been married before and have children (often children in their teens and even out of the house).

And, just like the women, my male clients also have it all going on! When people think Silicon Valley, they think all the men are like young Bill Gates clones running around with “coke bottle glasses” and pocket protectors….sort of like out of Revenge of the Nerds. My clients are anything but socially inept. Like any other guys out there, they have dated in varying degrees.

My typical male client has a graduate degree, a great job, exudes confidence, and now it’s all about finding the right woman. It’s like a light goes off in his head and there is no stopping him. This type of guy settles down and game playing is simply not in his DNA. Even if I gave him a guide to be a player like the schools for PUA (pick up artist), he wouldn’t know how to do it. Many of our male clients are very presentable, polished, and are perfectly social. We represent a lot of male clients at companies such as: GOOG, CSCO, FB, ORCL, Palantir, Box, AAPL, LNKD, eBAY (including lots of hot smaller VC backed start-ups) in the tech space and countless VCs on Sand Hill Road and savvy angel investors who remain pretty off the grid and are pretty private sorts of guys.

One common thread I see, from both my male and female clients, is that they have extraordinarily high standards in what they seek, and they absolutely should, when they come to a service such as Linx. No one is telling them to “settle.” But there is a difference between being discriminating and being picky – the latter connotes an attitude of being unproductively critical and not ever quite being satisfied.

More often than not, when clients first approach me, it is a “needle in a haystack” match that they want in terms of endless objective characteristics. I really work hard to determine what is MOST important to them and to go after those characteristics. For example, what if a woman says she won’t date a guy shorter than 6 feet tall and I manage to locate a man with every other important quality she wants and he is 5’ 10”? She is likely eliminating a huge portion of the population by not being flexible with that…

Not surprisingly, in Silicon Valley, my highly educated and analytical clientele often apply the same methodology to their dating that made them successful in their careers, and that does not always work because here we are dealing with matters of the heart.

Q: A lot of employers like Google strive to give their employees everything they need—food, entertainment, even massages—mostly so they’ll be happy working all the time and never leave. Does that make it more difficult for some to go out with a stranger and work for something—a kiss (or more) and maybe a second date? Since people work all the time, office romances are not unheard of. This happens in other businesses too, obviously, from Washington to Wall Street, but are there particular dangers, or advantages to the office romance here in Silicon Valley?

A: Well, with the kinds of perks that Google or Facebook or Palantir, for example, offer to employees, it is easy to see why an employee, on the margin, might stay at work rather than venture out. Google really started this trend a decade ago as the first startup company that tried to preserve a startup culture – like a fun, innovation playground – as the company grew, and that has become more of an expectation now amongst typical young talent qualified to work at these companies.

If you think about it, the culture at these companies for 20 and even early 30-somethings is not unalike the dorm experience at a top university – project teams bond over what they do all day… it’s more about living to work than it is about working to live, and so you do everything together. The movie “The Internship” might have been fiction and was probably a bit exaggerated but it was pretty much on target. With that in mind, it is not surprising that this culture (like college dorms) would lead to inter-office dating. When you have lots of smart, eligible people around that can empathize on each other’s current life mission, it is very attractive, casual, and convenient. At Facebook, for example, it is known to be very common.

All of that said, most companies, of course, frown upon their employees dating one another. And many of my women clients (and some men, too) tell me that they do not want to do this primarily because it could jeopardize how hard they have worked to get to where they have gotten at such young ages and thus harm their reputations – it often is not worth it. Others have even said “you have one shot” if you do this and it had better be “the one.” This statement is very akin to the clients we have at Stanford University GSB. Otherwise, you could get a reputation that sticks with you.

Reputation is everything and only you can control this. Once you start dipping the pen in the ink at work, the problem can be that people talk, gossip, and the spotlight can be on the person you’re dating and not what you are really meant to be focused on – which is work. So it can be a calculated risk.

This Week in Perspective

It has been so busy lately without time to blog practically. Last week I flew in from Asia and was thrown straight into a very cool TV project (details stealth for now) all day last Thursday. 8 people arrived from the production company, office had to be camera ready, and I had to be really ‘on’ (despite jet lag). The first part of filming lasted 2 hours straight on camera no breaks! At this stage I am really comfortable with TV/media so I had a lot of fun with this project. Little time in between and then headed up to San Francisco for more filming with the star of the show. Once I get approval, I can share more about this but let’s just say it is going to be a pretty amazing new show airing shortly (and I will be episode 6 in mid to late Jan 2014 or so).

This week has been really non-stop catching up with current clients, old clients, interviewing new clients, and meetings with prospects. Lots of calls with phenomenal prospects too (some great guys ladies) and matchmaking in between.

Next week we are preparing for a huge week of client interviews and then another series of in-person screenings for women who wish to meet VIPs. We have full and exciting days ahead.

I will say reflecting on my short trip to Hong Kong last week- what a vibrant, dynamic city filled with powerful movers and shakers. I am super familiar now as I go every year (sometimes twice a year). I got to attend a fabulous dinner with Eric Schmidt at The China Club alongside Sir David Tang. The event was to talk about Schmidt’s new book The New Digital Age: Reshaping the Future of People, Nations and Business. Lots of incredible networking amongst the “who’s who” in HK and beyond. Schmidt signed my book “To Amy…from Menlo Park…Thanks…Eric.” My husband made so many great connections on this trip he is flying back in a few weeks. People don’t waste time there getting deals done. When it’s hot, professionals strike and ink deals not wasting a second of precious time.

Tonight and this weekend if you don’t necessarily have dates lined up or major plans who cares. Do something for you. Take a new fitness class you’ve been wanting to try, make a healthy meal, call a friend you haven’t seen in ages for some quality time catching up. If you want to go out with the hopes of meeting someone, don’t place those expectations on yourself. That is what can lead to disappointment. Go out with the attitude of “I’m going to have fun and that is it” and if you happen to rub elbows with a cutie…most excellent. Just be content with YOU and when you are content with yourself and happy in your life that right there is a major attractor. Confidence speaks volume and just being in a good place in your life. So bundle up and do something for you in the days ahead. See what happens.

Linx in Newsweek | Beware of Geeks Bearing Gifs

By: Sean Elder

It’s Saturday night at The Sea (“Home of the $57 halibut!”), which is perched on the border between Palo Alto and Mountain View, and anyone new here might think there’s a big gay scene in Silicon Valley. Guys outnumber women about five to one at this high-end restaurant tonight and many of the men are dining together. But they do not seem together in that sense: Most are looking or tapping intently at their Androids or iPhones – both are in equal evidence, given the restaurant’s proximity to both Google and Apple headquarters. The work never stops here, which in the high-octane world of high-tech start-ups is the same as saying the fun never stops: Work is fun in Silicon Valley. Unless your idea of fun is dating.

“The odds are good, but the goods are odd” is the lament of many single women here. Kate Greer, a Stanford grad who lived and dated in Silicon Valley for many years says, “I love to watch women who would have never looked at these guys in high school or college” suddenly circling the big fish in the tiny tech pond. “It’s sweet to watch [them] falling in love with the biggest nerd in the room – that guy who looks like that little chicken with the big glasses in the Foghorn Leghorn cartoons.”

Of the countless success stories in Silicon Valley none looms larger than Elon Musk: PayPal co-founder, electric car inventor, lunar travel entrepreneur. Director Jon Favreau says Musk was the model for Robert Downey’s Tony Stark in the Iron Man movies and the enigmatic South African certainly works and plays like a superhero, if not a movie star. According to a Bloomberg Businessweek profile he has had one vacation in four years, taking time out to divorce his second wife, the actress Talulah Riley, in August 2012. “I would like to allocate more time to dating,” Musk said before asking the reporter. “How much time does a woman want a week? Maybe 10 hours?”

The environment of many tech companies is still notoriously frat-like and not necessarily conducive to what most people consider grown-up mating rituals. “The culture at these companies for 20- and even early 30-somethings is not unlike the dorm experience at a top university,” says Amy Andersen, founder and CEO of Linx Dating Service in Menlo Park. “Project teams bond over what they do all day…. It’s more about living to work than it is about working to live, and so you do everything together.”

Andersen came to her calling after a disastrous date with a very eligible venture capitalist 10 years ago. When she asked her date why he was scoping out the other women in the place, he said he was looking for “the BBD” – the bigger, better deal. While you can’t necessarily teach people class, she does try to enlighten her clients (for a fee that ranges from $20,000 to $100,000) about proper dating behavior. Andersen recalls a 20-something coder at a gaming company with extreme social anxiety: She had to coach him on hugging, and she suggested a car service for his first date, rather than having him show up on the bike he rides to work.

Some liken the atmosphere, and the romances that blossom in it, to that of a film set – though with a much longer shoot. “There’s a sort of youthful exuberance in Silicon Valley,” says Greer. “The youthful exuberance is what makes you think you can do something out of nothing. To know that you can take code and make beautiful things that change the world, you have to have youthful exuberance. If you want to have a serious husband with a suit on, go marry a biz dev guy.”

The biggest challenge in the Silicon Valley dating game may lie in the personalities that dominate the field. Left-brain Spock types can’t so quickly channel their inner Bones and let loose with a barbaric yawp. “My highly educated and analytical clientele often apply the same methodology to their dating that made them successful in their careers,” says Andersen, “and that does not always work, because here we are dealing with matters of the heart.”

As more women become engineers, the dynamics of dating in Silicon Valley are bound to change. Adam Hertz, an engineer at Comcast, has “been off the market for a while,” but his kids, in their 20s, are in the demo: His son, who works at Google, met his partner at a SantaCon event in San Francisco. “They both work really hard,” he says. “Once they are together, they have to work at the relationship.” His daughter is in the next wave: She is in a program studying to be a “great software developer,” 70 hours a week. Her boyfriend is in the food business, delivering produce in the Bay Area’s booming restaurant business. “They never see each other at all.”
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Palo Alto Event | Wedding Registry, Decorating Homes, Gift Giving

We got word of this fab event at Neiman’s next Tuesday. If you can sneak out of work, you might find some treasures (and network, shop, sip something tasty, and did I mention shop?) Ideal for registries for the chic couple, or decorating your home, and always for gifts (especially with the holidays sneaking up!) Jonathan’s luxe designs are fueled by various sources of inspiration: Mid-century modern, art and global pop culture to name a few.

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Linx’s fav Jonathan Adler picks perfect for your chic home- avail at Neiman Marcus!

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Black-and-White Bargello Pillows

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Gray “Nixon” Dinnerware

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“Channing” Desk

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Ladies Night in Palo Alto | Pampering & Bubbly

On Thursday of this week, Linx co-hosted a fabulous evening at Drybar in Palo Alto. Around 40 friends of Linx received complimentary blowouts, endless glasses of bubbly, mini cupcakes, and lots of mingling with a fun group of professional ladies from all around the Peninsula. IMG_1005IMG_0139IMG_0086

For those who are unfamiliar with Drybar….it is a “blow dry bar” concept created around a very simple idea: No cuts. No color. Just blowouts for only $35.00. The perfect place to go pre-Linx date to get all glam- feeling feminine and gorgeous…and oh so date ready! IMG_0971IMG_1009IMG_0098IMG_0109

Upon arrival, guests at the Linx event (and in general) are greeted with a glass of wine or bubbly and an hour of pampering follows. There are set hair styles to choose from such as the “Mai Tai” or “Cosmo.” We had a great time and everyone loved getting so spoiled by the fabulous stylists.

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he salon is super chic, modern, clean, and high-tech. Flat screens show girlie films (Mean Girls was playing in the background when I was getting my hair done), docking stations are at each chair should you need to charge your ipod or phone (gotta love that!), and the decor is in a soft calming palate of whites, yellows, and accents of black. IMG_0112IMG_0136IMG_0146IMG_0998IMG_0982

Lots of ladies from our party headed to the infamous Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel in Menlo Park afterwards for some testosterone action and surveying the wild Thursday night scene there (side note ever since Vanity Fair’s story on Linx was published the scene at the hotel is even more crazy and happening!) All in all a great night!IMG_0997IMG_0978IMG_0988IMG_0117IMG_0133IMG_0996IMG_0999

Recruiting Silicon Valley Guys!

JP Mangalindan of Fortune Magazine wrote about Linx stating, “she’s fashioned a reputation among tech executives, entrepreneurs, investors, and publicists as a modern-day Silicon Valley yenta. Her 750 “active” clients — individuals who have signed up just within the last two years — include employees of companies such as Apple (AAPL), Facebook (FB), Google (GOOG), Amazon (AMZN), Oracle (ORCL), Salesforce (CRM) and run from early twenty-something entrepreneurs to retired tech execs and investors in their sixties.”

We love our young Linx members who are at FB and GOOG – so many of them are insanely bright, eager, and humble. A trend this week has been the large number of females from FB writing to me – a common theme seems to be that they work a ton and refuse to muddy the waters by dating colleagues at work. I think a lot of AAPL, AMZN, and LinkedIn GUYS have exactly the same mentality but are less likely to hit “SEND” and enlist the help of a matchmaker… Not sure if this is shyness, shame, or simply lack of awareness that something like Linx is literally exactly what could help and is not one of those artificial airline magazine stereotype dating services.

If you know anyone who could benefit from Linx at one of these companies out there in Silicon Valley email me. We’ve been hitting some campuses this week recruiting talent and saying hi to clients in between. We love spreading awareness about connecting Silicon Valley men and women to the right type of match through our thoughtful vetting and methodology of “science” meets “art.” San Jose-20130722-01319 In between meetings and recruiting at GOOG this week…glazed, plain, sprinkles, no sprinkles…variety is the spice of life.

Weddding bells are in the distance here at Linx. We have a beautiful couple tying the knot this weekend. A perfecting matched very happy couple who I am just on cloud 9 for. Both mid 30’s, Ivy League educated, and so evenly matched on all fronts. Grinning ear to ear here thinking about them. More later….

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New VIP Search for a CEO in Silicon Valley

We have just embarked on a new VIP search at Linx. We are representing a late 40’s confident and entrepreneurial CEO in the Valley who exemplifies the caliber we love working with at Linx. Our client is a distinguished and athletic Caucasian gentleman who is over 6’2″ and with a full head of light brown hair. He’s a lifelong athlete and leads a healthy and balanced lifestyle and hopes that his dream girl leads an equally sporty, outdoorsy, and balanced life too. He tries to eat well and is a moderate drinker (if that.)

He’s Ivy League educated for both undergraduate and his graduate degree. He’s intellectual, loves philosophizing a wide range of topics, and would greatly enjoy sharing a novel together on a warm summer night. What stands out for me in particular besides his good looks and pedigree is that this man is at his core a really good person. He is caring, communicative, compassionate, and has a developed emotional intelligence.

He’s an inherently private gentleman who lives his life pretty under the radar. He focuses his time and energy running a fast growing venture backed company and maintaining buoyancy in his personal life. His anchors are his Christian value system and strong core foundation of trying to always do the right thing, while thinking of others.

Our client is a family man and takes tremendous pride in being a dedicated and very present father and role model to his children. His dream match has a very warm and nurturing nature about her. In fact maybe she has a child of her own and/or would love a baby! A household of rugrats running around, backyard BBQs, sleepovers, popsicle stains, and laughter…bring it on! 8346259699_4a5927bf8f_h

This VIP desires a woman who is in her early 30’s to 40-ish. She is a Caucasian, Asian American, or of Mixed heritage. She is a natural beauty and keeping extraordinarily healthy. Her physique is slender with gorgeous feminine curves. She is taller, no one under 5’5″ please, with high cheekbones and a nice sense of style. She is at her core: extremely sweet, down-to-earth (not interested in keeping up with the Joneses) kind-hearted, loyal, compassionate, and just easy to be around. No drama! In other words, his dream girl is emotionally stable, balanced, and happy. Locating a Christian would be the icing on the cake or at least someone who is agnostic or spiritual and willing to embrace some of his values would be lovely.

Our client has no plans to leave the Silicon Valley Peninsula area. So if you or anyone you know would ultimately want to move that is not a match for him. If you believe you make a strong match candidate or know someone who might be the perfect lady for our VIP, please email me at amy@linxdating.com. Thank you and truly…this is one upstanding man you won’t find online or at a bar. He chose Linx because of our scrupulous vetting, personalization, and utmost quality match we can offer him.

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This Week in Perspective

Honey child, it continues to be non-stop at Linx in Menlo Park. The demand is simply through the roof. The June and July events screening women who want to meet VIPs are already sold out yet that doesn’t stop the emails from pouring in. I get emails daily from fans who have read the Vanity Fair article and so many people interpret it as though I have a weekly happy hour at Rosewood. Sometimes people apologize to me for missing my happy hour. It is hysterical. I’m just enjoying it all and soaking it in!

I know I haven’t done an event in a long time. I would LOVE your thoughts on a fun summer mixer. Do you want me to to host one at our beloved Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel or do you readers have other ideas? I need your input! I am thinking August or early September for this sizzling fun networking event. I haven’t “blasted” my database in a couple of years and now it is way past 20,000 of you locally who subscribe to events and updates. So with that in mind, this event might be seriously packed and oh so fun!

We’re seeing a lot of young professionals applying for memberships. Tons of guys who are in their early to mid 20’s who happen to be extraordinarily successful and mature. Love it. These guys will dabble with online dating but get burned out by the time sink and lack of quality inventory. It can be extremely difficult to locate the dream girl in a sea of thousands on these various sites who meets all the metrics that he desires from: brains, background, looks, personality, religion, etc.

I‘ve gotten word of another Linx couple who is exclusive! He was reticent to do Linx a couple of years ago. For him the timing was off and he wasn’t ready for this investment. As a matchmaker, as much as I want to work with these great sounding guys, if it is not their time, it is not their time. Fast forward a couple of years, it was “his time” to get serious…the so called cab light was on…very bright! Both are early 30-something professionals, both in tech, and share a common bond of having been married once before. To understand one another on a very deep level as such can be the bond that cements two people together. So happy for this new Linx couple.

Word on the street is that another Linx couple is getting some serious bling designed for the big proposal and another engaged couple just bought their first home together! And there is more…another match that is going very strong live in different places in Northern California. When they see one another the sparks fly in all directions….they have fancy meals together, jet around in cars and boats, and then go about their respective lives. Sometimes being apart allows for introspection while respecting one another’s independence. There is something said about really missing one another and being able to have your alone time, thus reflecting on the good. Richard-Lund-hollywood-sign-at-night

We’re interviewing a lot of new clients this week and having a prospect flying in from Las Vegas to meet us as well. There are a lot of LA prospects contacting our offices- quite a few celebs….these folks are humans too who desire love like anyone of us. Sometimes the idea of meeting someone out of Hollywood is a very attractive aspect for those in the middle of Tinseltown.

I‘ve been doing a ton of matchmaking last week and this week. Lots of hopeful new couples in the mix. In the last week, we’ve already been renewing some contracts with clients who have exhausted their set number of matches and wish to renew as they are still searching. People evolve and it can be a process to find “the one.” 820x421

Ladies are you watching ABC’s The Bachelorette? Who are you rooting for? I am bullish on Brooks, Bryden, and James right now. I like how shy Bryden is! I’m liking Des as the Bachelorette. She definitely can hold her own around these hunky guys and seems super chill and down to earth. Love that!

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Love is in the Air

I am off to the airport for a business trip till Friday and look forward to meeting a very successful and eligible gentleman over lunch tomorrow. It’s top secret right now and will remain rather hush hush. It’s to explore potentially working together and seeing if he likes the Linx approach and what we could offer him. I’m super excited! plane+val

This week has been extremely busy per usual. I just wrapped a great date coaching session with a bright and eager young woman. We chatted about artfully preparing for dates and subjects she can discuss with ease and passion. She’s super fascinating- very smart, super well rounded, and very warmhearted. We interviewed a family centric, kind, and super smart 32 year old female yesterday. She splits her time between Manhattan and the Bay Area. Really impressive.

This week the emails have continued to pour in at an astonishing rate. I get hundreds of inquiries day for matchmaking and keeping up with the deluge of requests is a new and fun challenge. The casting we are having in June for females who have submitted information to meet the male VIPs is officially sold out and the casting we are hosting July 11th and 12th is booking up quick.

Next week we have a very handsome VIP male coming on board which I am super jazzed about: CEO, good looking, Ivy educated, and much more. Stay tuned. Do you have have dating or love related questions? Email me at amy@linxdating.com I would love the chance to blog about your question and my response keeping it super anonymous of course.
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