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What Goes Into a Successful Linx Match?

I’ve been getting a lot of clients asking me lately “Amy how did you know we would hit it off like this?” That to me is really one of the kindest compliments I could ever ask for!

It’s hard to say exactly how a great match actually works. Yes, there is a science but so much of what I do is art….it is that 6th sense…a gut instinct and pure intuition. Remember I take huge pride in personally getting to know every member in Linx. I take copious notes, I try not to miss a beat, and I really pick up on the little things often in our client meetings & new client interviews that they might not even know themselves… in other words, the nuances. THAT is one of the major aspects of what makes joining Linx so special compared to the slew of online choices. il_340x270.518019736_gmub

With that being said, matchmaking is a leap of faith. It is about having my new client put trust in me that I have carefully listened to who they are and what they seek in a match and on the flip side, having trust in my client that he or she will best represent my network when dating in the real world. I wish I could be a puppeteer orchestrating the perfect outcome for my clients. Unfortunately, I am not a magician, nor can I promise marriage.

One of the downfalls to this business is when clients put tremendous pressure on themselves to find someone. The bar can be so high but the clock begins to tick at such an accelerated speed that everyone senses the intensity prevailing. That can lead to disappointment and expectations that are simply not realistic. On the back end, behind the scenes, we can feel a sense of a ship that is slowly sinking….like a Titanic feeling where the air starts to run out, weights are tightened on our ankles, and slowly…slowly…we submerge into the depths of the ocean. Sorry for the visual.

On a happy note, what I can promise for a client is access to a narrowly tailored pool of individuals whom that person wouldn’t have the chance to meet otherwise, thus increasing the chances of finding love. There isn’t an exact science to this process and, for some overly analytical and risk averse types, it becomes impossible to offer them any explanation that will be satisfying. At the end of the day, how do you make sense of all of that?

Linx travels to Denmark

I just got back from a glorious trip with my family and husband to Denmark. The trip was about coming together as a family and celebrating my Dad’s 70th birthday (which is technically in October.) My Dad is 100% Danish and so off we went (zillions of suitcases later) to see lots of relatives and embrace the Danish culture for ten days. As a family we collectively took over 1700 photos and as much as I would love to post all, I have selected some favorites to enjoy. I learned so much about the culture and will share little snippits of information along this entry…as we step back in time a bit.
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We landed and were surprised at the Copenhagen airport by my cousin Mie (doctor, mother of two, and all around amazing young woman!) and her two precious children, Maise and Storm. Little Storm was so excited to see our family and waived the Danish flag proudly. It was an emotional moment for all.i-tCHD9jN-XL
We stayed in the heart of Copenhagen at a wonderful hotel right on the harbor. The breakfasts were incredibly indulgent (countless fruits, excellent fresh breads, yogurts, dried fruits, wienerbrød , eggs of all sorts, cold and hot meats, fiske (fish), creamy cheeses of all varieties, salads, and pipping hot coffee in nice thermoses at each table in the restaurant). I am a herring (marinated fiske) addict so I actually enjoyed this at breakfast (amongst everything else of course). i-VvLFqhM-XL
Part of the breakfast selection each morning…
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Walking around town with cousin Mie, Storm, and my little sister Ashleyi-9xKWL9S-XL
Biking is a huge part of Copenhagen life. Hundreds of commuters line the streets in Copenhagen each day cycling through town to get to their respective destinations. The streets are marked very well and cyclists have designated lanes that are very clear and make biking seamless, easy, and a functional part of life. Notice the gorgeous church behind us (right near the royal families home.)i-KfDM5nP-XLi-QVjvQRM-X2 i-Cd2Rk2z-XL
My Dad channeling his days having worked at a famous Danish beer factory “Tuborg” when he was very young (legal drinking age in DK is 18!)
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This is what happens when you drink too much Tuborg…I snapped this pic of these Danish guys near our hotel…sun was out…nice way to ease the pain I suppose.i-4H5bnnJ-XLi-wC9MDdq-XLi-5Rz6kMp-X2i-xTF7xw9-X2
Or I suppose this is what happens…hazing witnessed from my sister who snapped these pics of “Vikings” in the center part of the city. Not to worry, it was red paint on his face. i-BBBXNV7-XL
Gorgeous boats everywhere along the harbor in Copenhagen
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Selling fresh fruits along the infamous Nyhavn (a 17th century waterfront and canal district in Copenhagen)

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Furry new friends along the streets of Copenhagen. I was amazed at how incredibly accommodating all the Danes were allowing me to not only take pics of their precious pooches but more so wait till I captured the perfect photo. The Danes are notoriously kind, gentle, and even-keeled people..friendly and very happy people. i-C7p2Lmz-X2
One furry older pooch carrying its owners tissues down the street. I couldn’t resist…
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I love this photo of a stately older man and his dog in a basket. In fact many Danes push their large and small dogs around in baby prams.
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Lunch always consisted of traditional smørrebrød (utterly perfect open face sandwiches on rye breads) i-7ngcs4m-XLi-PLWtntZ-XL
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Garden lunch at my Dad’s cousin Henrik’s home
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Lunch was served on slate plates. Very chic and minimalist

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Henrik serving lunch al frescoi-XdXbtcW-XL
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We spent an afternoon and evening at Tivoli Gardens (the park opened on August 15, 1843 and is the second oldest amusement park in the world)i-2CLRcMH-XL
My Mom and I on a ride having too much fun!
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Ashley and Storm on a children’s ridei-3WTnZs7-XLi-rTf7b7k-XL
Baby Maise and her papa Rune at Tivolii-PmSDW66-XL
Baby Maise and I at Tivoli….she is the best little girl ever. So happy and with the appetite of a lion!i-8dnP56m-X2
Many go to Tivoli at night as the lights are so spectacular. i-mCbhqqg-XLi-7nKHj2j-XLThis is a hotel at Tivoli…will run you 1K a night. Sleep tight!
i-v6LzgwS-XLOn Rutschebanen, or as some people call it, Bjergbanen (the Mountain Coaster), built in 1914. It is one of world’s oldest wooden roller coasters that is still operating today. An operator controls the ride by braking down the hills so it won’t gain too much speed.
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This ride lasted 2 minutes and 12 seconds flipping around. I absolutely hated it and called it the “ride from hell”. My eyes were closed the entire time as I screamed non-stop. And us upside down. Yuck. Never again! Can you spot the cousins in a row together with “thumbs up?” i-f4dKzjq-XLi-z56qCkH-X2
Happy Birthday Dad (Dad is “Far” in Danish)i-wXGdZRw-X2 Lights at Tivoli…so pretty! i-5tWg2w8-X2 The towns outside of Copenhagen are so very charming. Buildings date back to the 1600s in many cases and streets are all lined with cobblestones. This is the town my Dad grew up in called Helsingør. It was so special taking my husband to see this little town where I have many fond memories as a child visiting my Farmor (English for Father’s Mother…grandma as we would call it). i-B7BpWwD-X2i-ksp9mBN-XLi-vrvxJ2w-XL Look at how crooked this building is. It is hundreds of years old…my Dad’s tutor lived here I believe.i-7sd9tFR-X2
Many of the homes in Denmark are simply spectacular! This one was along the sea. If you can afford a home along the sea you are “penalized” with an extra tax which is essentially a water tax for the wealthy. i-GrMQbch-XL
Some grand building in Copenhagen that was next to our hotel. i-KFzGmT2-XL
Windmills on a coast drive
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Changing of the guards at the main Royal Palace in Copenhagen (Amalienborg). i-M9tczDr-XL
Kronborg castle in the town of Helsingør. Immortalized as Elsinore in William Shakespeare’s play Hamlet, Kronborg is one of the most important Renaissance castles in Northern Europe. The castle’s story dates back to a stronghold, Krogen, built by King Eric VII in the 1420s. Walking through it is a must-see experience. You can only begin to imagine how freezing it was for the prisoners (yes it was used as a prison from 1739 to the 1900s, soliders, and the royals. No boat could pass the strait near the castle without paying massive fees (the captain of every ship sailing through had to state the value of ship’s cargo.) Money that had to be paid to the King of Denmark was then calculated depending on the value of the cargo. Denmark became very wealthy as a result!i-Bc4Smh2-X2i-W5dLtQ2-X2
My grandma’s old apartment looked straight out to Kronborg…pretty amazing view! i-2nbFm7h-X2
Couldn’t resist this shot of a woman taking a brief moment of pause from her job at a restaurant. Red on red.i-Cktqwv9-XL
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Antiques market in Copenhagen….we bought a few small items from him…i-nXj9v32-X2
I am a Viking!
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Early one morning we biked throughout Copenhagen and witnessed this little girl in her PJs getting wienerbrød (pastries) with her friend. The bakeries smell so divine- even from down the street!i-dkpfdhR-X2
Frederiksborg Palace or Frederiksborg Castle is a palace in Hillerød. It was built as a royal residence for King Christian IV and is now a museum of national history.i-467pgd2-X2
The most impressive champagne “boat” on display in the palace made of solid gold and large enough to hold 10 plus bottles. i-GMhBZf5-XL
A bed in display in the palace. A heart shield in front of the bed (beds were much smaller and shorter back then)i-HPDKxwj-XL
500 years of Danish history, illustrated by portraits, history paintings, furniture and decorative art are in the palace. Here you encounter people and events that have shaped Danish history from the Middle Ages to the 21st century.i-j8k3JzS-XL
Christian V was the first king to be anointed, and he established the Chapel of the Orders, where shields depicting the coats-of-arms of knights were hung. I cannot even express how many hundreds of gorgeous shields were everywhere in the Chapel of the Orders and the spiral stairwell going up to the chapel. i-nk8hVdV-XL
Hot or Not? Ladies…comes on…he is tall and manly…no? I don’t want to hear you complain about height again if I match you to him!i-PGB4F2t-XL
Amazing gold ballroom. Imagine the grand parties that were once thrown here at the palace. Now visitors can walk through and enjoy the incredible art on display.
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Exquisite piano with the finest painted scenes i-QQ4MWrr-X2
There was something about this portrait. If I lived back then, I would have wanted him as my match. i-MrXbCwL-X2
My match in front of the palace!i-vtrcc2v-XL
Plaster-like casts of animals of all kinds adorn the walls in one room at the palace. Real animal horns add a three-dimensional element.
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We visited my Dad’s cousin one evening for a lovely meal. She made the most perfect hazelnut meringue with fresh whipped cream and perfectly ripe berries on top. i-H8wDgfq-XL
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This is a photo taken outside of a very popular new chocolate shop that is sprouting up all over Copenhagen called Summerbird. They feature
miniflødeboller and flødebollen (these are chocolate dome-like creations filled with passion fruit, whipped cream, marshmallow, marzipan, etc). Divine!
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It wouldn’t be right if I didn’t mention the kartoffel- Danish for potato. Looks like a chocolate potato but filled with fresh whipped cream and covered in thin marzipan and chocolate dust. It ended up being my husbands favorite dessert in Denmark. All bakeries carry these naughty desserts.i-q27Cw9q-XL
We had a wonderful evening at cousin Mie’s home for dinner. Spiderman made a guest appearance!i-NLL4WkF-XLi-qB2pdWx-X2
Mie and rune brought in sushi for our dinner. Sushi has become very popular in Denmark.
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We enjoyed a lovely home cooked meal and visit at our relatives home. Christian and his wife Trine were the most gracious hosts ever. i-3CzJjxL-X2
If you like shrimp, you would have been very happy at this dinner at Christian and Trine’s home. These fresh shrimp are only available in Denmark. Christian shows us how to remove the head of the shrimp. Christian prepared potatoes in their bed…an ancient method of cooking. They were delicious! Kids do not attempt this at home without supervision.i-WG52Jmx-X2
Generations of cousins….Christoffer and Sebastian- both incredible soccer players! i-r7sSWCw-X2
Mie was so sweet to take us to a very hip and low key bar one night completely off the beaten path. Interestingly, the locals knew my sister, husband, and myself were Americans. I asked the bartender and a few locals why? They said were were “extra happy” and “had an aura” about us. I thought with the blond hair we would have fit in…guess not. 😉 We met some locals from a startup that is like the Yelp of Scandinavia. We had lots of laughs and a great evening!i-v7VQczp-XL The guy on the right of my sister commutes daily from Sweden to Denmark for work. He is the “big boss” of the company who was taking out his colleagues for a fun night of dinner and drinks.i-Jk3VRDP-XL
A tree with private messages of all kinds at the Louisiana Museum of Modern Art. Louisiana art museum is located directly on the shore of the Øresund Sound in Humlebæk and is the most visited art museum in Denmark with an extensive permanent collection of modern and contemporary art.i-Dzdq7cP-XLi-RPBWzFW-XL
More to come….Linx visits Sweden!

It’s all about the necklace!

It girls everywhere know that being on-trend and current means standing out from the crowd with a showstopper necklace. I always advise my Linx lady clients to be bold and accessorize their date ensembles with a statement piece. A necklace doesn’t have to be expensive at all. In fact, you can browse ebay to discover fierce necklaces for under $10! Let the jaws drop…especially on a date!

Meet The Parents | What To Wear

The time has come to meet your honey’s parents.  You’re both thrilled and petrified. Although we’re sure they’ll love you as much as he does, you want to put your best fashion foot forward on this momentous occasion.  We teamed up with style experts Tog + Porter to show Linx readers how to look fabulous for this huge occasion.

The first step in deciding what to wear is to find out what the setting is. Are you gathering for a casual brunch?  Drinks?  Dinner?  One thing is certain, no matter the setting: keep your look polished and demure.

Tog + Porter stylist Camilla Basse says a floral dress with strappy sandals and a solid cardi or white skinnies with a silky top in a soft tone are winning combos for a brunch date. BrunchWorthy

For him:  jeans with a casual button up and blazer.forhim

For cocktails or a more formal dinner date, we suggest a lace dress with neon heels or classic black heels if you get the feeling they’re a little more on the conservative side. A flirty floral dress with long sleeves is another option for a more covered up approach. Pair back to striking strappy metallic heels to add some wow factor.Cocktails_Dinner

For him: a pair of slim cut trousers, a button up and blazer OR a killer suit, which like Clooney never goes out of style. (Yeah, we totally stole that line from Sex and the City)202.1540-navy-16For killer suit inspiration, have your man borrow a page from Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s GQ spread.For HIM Killer SuitsIf you need help prepping an outfit to meet your beaux’s parents or friends, you know where to turn. You can now book your face-to-face skype session with a Tog + Porter stylist online here.

Valentine’s Date Scenario One : Over the Moon for You!

With Valentine’s Day less than 21 days away (where does the time go?) we thought we’d remind you to start thinking about how you plan to spend the day.

We were delighted when our friends at Tog + Porter offered their help on coming up with feminine and flirty outfit ideas. In fact, they even took it a step further and asked me to come up with specific date scenarios for them.

Together, we’ll be posting three distinct dates, each with a different relationship status and of course outfit! They recently posted the first date “Over the Moon for You” in the style guide section of their site.

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Here’s the scenario I gave them: 

He’s a total romantic and rolls out the red carpet for his lady that he now calls his girlfriend. He tells her to dress up in a cocktail dress and heels for a night on the town. Her style by day is a bit of a risk taker, downtown chic combined with lots of patterns, textures, and obscure designers. She is the type to splurge on a few very pricey items each year and find fabulous bargains on others.

On Valentine’s, his driver arrives at her condo and he greets her with a stunning bouquet of her favorite flowers. The couple heads to Bix for live jazz and the perfect kir royales. Although she always says she doesn’t want one, he suggests her favorite “off the menu” mini truffled grilled cheeses for an appetizer. Is this guy a keeper or what?

Dinner follows and he surprises her with savory and sweet soufflés at Cafe Jacqueline in North Beach to share. The driver takes them back to her apartment where he walks her to the door. He pulls out a red box in his coat pocket. Not an engagement ring yet (too soon!) but a stunning Cartier gold love bracelet. She’s over the moon! He’s thrilled he lucked out on such a gorgeous catch!  An incredible kiss follows and an ‘I love you’ via text 5 minutes later.

So what’s a gal to wear on such a date? Here’s what Tog + Porter came up with: OvertheMoonOption1 copy

Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to wear a flirty red cocktail dress. This dress can be worn two different ways. First, it can be paired back to this Veda leather jacket (obscure designer), lace booties (texture/pattern), and a classic black clutch. Or it can be paired back to tone on tone black polka dot tights (texture/pattern), simple black pumps, and again the classic black clutch.

The second look, which includes a bronze peplum dress (textured fabric/on trend with the peplum) can also be worn two ways. It can be worn with opaque tights and booties for a bit of edge, or sans tights and just the classic peep-toe. OvertheMoonOption2

The studded heart bag is just the right amount of embellishment where it can stand on it’s own or easily compliment a lovely Valentine’s gift.

Need help putting together your Valentine’s Day outfit? Tog + Porter can help. Sign up for a style consult today. Need help coming up with date ideas, give me a ring. Also stay tuned for my two other dates scenarios: Adventurous and Quirky and Come to My House for Dinner. Coming Soon! XO