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The Dog Days Are Over | Guest blogger, 30 year old female, San Francisco

2012 was a turbulent year. It started with my college best friend getting engaged. Yes, I was insanely happy that my soul sister found what she was looking for in a spouse. But that and the collection of seven other weddings that I was attending over the next twelve months were starting to get to me. I was 29, hopelessly single with a string of dysfunctional casual relationships, and trapped in a job that was not challenging me. I felt like Bridget Jones – except I did not have a hunky version of Hugh Grant or Colin Firth in the picture.

I had never been one to judge myself against others – but I found myself questioning who I was and what I wanted. I didn’t need marriage – but I was starting to believe that happiness and real companionship were unattainable. I wanted more.

For a few months, I cried daily. I tried retail therapy, nights on the town with my girlfriends, marathon dating on eharmony and OKCupid and midnight food fests to distract myself. When I confided in my (married) older sisters – they gave me seemingly canned advice, “be open”. I laughed at them and pushed their words away.

Then I found out that a man that I once dated and still harbored some strong feelings was marrying someone else. I did not cry because of or over him – I cried because the fantasy that I constructed in my head of some planned future was shattered. And that’s when I really hit rock bottom.

But hitting rock bottom also made me find my truest self. My mother once told me that the only person you have to answer to is yourself. I looked in the mirror and did not like what I saw.

So the next month, I quit my job, started working out regularly (I wanted to train for half marathons, but kept postponing because of excuses) and spent two months in Europe. I literally took off. I needed to reset.

It worked. I turned 30 with a renewed sense of purpose and happiness. I did not love myself fully before. Like many women, I put up with female friendships and male relationships that were not good for me. It took time for me to recognize and change the negative patterns in my life.

Life is not always fair. The plans we construct in our youth or even in our twenties do not pan out. I’ve learned – through both my chaotic professional life at start-ups and in love – that you have to be open (yes, I hate that phrase but I am using it) to what comes your way.

And enter Amy Andersen….I met Amy during one of her VIP searches in 2011 and she has set me up over the past two years with various clients. Several of the connections were very good – some were lacking chemistry – but I gave all of them a shot.

In late 2012, I met my current boyfriend at one of her Linx events and he has changed my life. I had been toying with a business opportunity for some time – he was a major force behind me pursuing it with full force. My boyfriend has taught me so much about friendship, healthy relationships and what I am capable of. (He is also a year and a half younger than I am – so do not discount the younger man!) We are intellectual peers. Though we are enjoying the connection, we have our share of dating pains and candidly I do not know what the future holds for us. But I am sure that this relationship serves a purpose for me – to teach me respect, self-worth and that I can achieve anything I put my mind to.

This has been the most challenging and rewarding year of my life. I took a risk, changed the direction of my life and started to love myself.

So have faith and good luck on your journey! (And thank you Amy, for being a part of mine:-)

Are you a Match? | Recruiting!

This week we are looking for eligible candidates for the following clients of Linx. This is a random sampling of a few male clients we are currently focusing efforts on.  If you might qualify and/or know anyone who is eligible and searching for that elusive chemistry, ping me asap amy@linxdating.com. Please mention the profile that sparks your interest and why you might make a perfect match.Stanford-by-gellert.varga-at-Flickr

CLIENT ONE:
 
Our client is in his late 30’s, Caucasian, 6’0″, athletic and very active working out at least 5 days a week. He is very cute, fit, and has a full head of brown hair. Extremely well educated (including post graduate), he is a leader in his field. As an executive at his company and serial entrepreneur/investor, he works a lot and throws his passion into running his ultra successful tech company. Confident, charming, optimistic, happy, well rounded, and social best describe this Silicon Valley based gentleman. He is a total monogamist and is ready to find the love of his life. Religion wise, he is Jewish and while he embraces all religions, would love his match to be open-minded to embracing Judaism in marriage (not to say his dream girl needs to convert for love). 
 
Our client needs someone who is truly ready for a relationship and a non-game player. This client works a lot and at the end of the day wants to come home to someone who will pour her all into building a loving and passionate relationship. She is not someone who can only see her man every other week because she is on the road for work 24/7 or dating like 15 other guys. You are in your 20’s to 30 max. Why the age range as such? He wants a few babies and to not have to rush into planning for this with pressure. You are petite/slender, fit, pretty, natural, keep healthy, and radiate a wonderful happy aura about you. You are warm, social, classy, sincere, optimistic, generous, very loving, and family-oriented.  
 
Our client loves the Silicon Valley and desires living here. Although he considers himself a citizen of the world (traveled to over 65 countries!), his entreprenrial roots are here and hopes you will build a happy life with him here as well. tumblr_le7ozxYeOl1qbvoj8o1_500
 
CLIENT TWO:
 
Our client is in his late 20’s, Caucasian, stocky (buff) in his build and works out with a trainer to keep active and balanced. He’s super cute, stylish, and Italian in heritage. Extremely well educated from a top university for undergraduate, he was an early employee at a well known tech company. What we admire so much about our client is how down-to-earth, fun, and the sort of guy’s guy who is up for pretty much anything, anytime. He’s quite social and loves maintaining great friendships with a lot of his college buddies. He enjoys entertaining, travel, concerts, sports, football, and much more. Although he is young, he is looking for someone to compliment his already amazing life and establish a loving relationship where good communication is paramount.
 
His match is in her 20’s, any ethnicity, petite, super bubbly, and feminine. Friends would describe her as sweet, family centric, confident, affectionate, and maybe a little traditional. Our client loves his job, so you should be happy what you are doing with your job. He’s not very tolerant of girls who hate their gig and never seem to do anything about it. If you are Catholic or Christian, that is the icing on the cake. Like him, his match is just a chill, fun, easy going girl with very low drama in her life. She’s independent yet ready for a leading, masculine guy to compliment her wonderful life. silicon_valley
CLIENT THREE:
 
Our client is in his mid 30’s, Caucasian, fit, toned, and 6’3″. He’s sporty and active, working out 5 days a week on average. His sense of style is a little more conservative…definitely not the Etro or John Varvatos type. He is very well educated including having his MBA from a good local university and he works in technology (like a lot of our clients) and is an executive at a public company. He’s a responsible sort of guy, living and working in the Silicon Valley and already planning for the future as a proud homeowner. He was raised Catholic and would like to bring Catholicism into his marriage and family one day. Our client is shy by nature and more on the introverted side. The right girl will have the ability to make him feel comfortable and relaxed to simply just be himself without any pretense. 
 
His match is Caucasian, cute, and active. She is late 20’s to early 30’s and family oriented. She can visualize getting engaged and married in the next 16 months or so! She has a job but her job doesn’t define her entire world and she can imagine not working one day and being a stay-at-home with the children. There is a feeling of fulfillment that our client would achieve in having the role of “breadwinner” and having his wife manage all domestic duties and responsibilities. His leading lady is social (would enjoy planning all social things ), be friendly, very nurturing, and have a loving heart. She’s a good girl, maybe had one, two, or three boyfriends but not a slew of ’em.
 
 


Silicon Valley Date Coaching

We are a lifestyle business and offer our clients and friends of Linx a wide range of auxiliary benefits beyond our core competency, matchmaking.

I get a lot of requests from Silicon Valley callus-thumbed engineers looking to get some assistance in techniques to get the girl.

This week we worked with one young gentleman who is such a sweetie and conduced a simulated date in a Menlo Park based restaurant. This mock date helped him with many techniques we had practiced at our office.

A lot of these guys  either don’t have the dating experience (so the thought of going out with a cute girl terrifies them) or they simply don’t know what to say beyond talk of Settlers of Catan, Rails, IRC, AI, and MUDs.

In SV geek culture, that talk is commonplace at work and amongst buddies over video games but when it comes to understanding women and dating them, we teach these guys to best position themselves to get the girl.San Mateo-20130109-00750The actual mock date in Menlo Park

The truth is these guys are exceptionally gifted and very smart. They just don’t always see that they are capable of interesting conversation beyond their comfort zone. Often, they are so knowledgable about a wide range of topics, it simply means helping them pick and choose from topics to cover in the early stages of dating so they are perceived as interesting and passionate.

We also help them with a lot of flirting techniques and commanding control of the date. In other words, not shrinking with doubt in their chair, instead maintaining confidence throughout the entire course of the date and being the so called man.

After 4 sessions in our office, our client was ready for his mock date this week. He absolutely rocked it and made such progress. He felt incredible about himself and those initial nerves that were extremely present in our office date coaching sessions were totally gone on the actual mock date. I moderated his mock date and provided a lot of feedback in real time. These services we offer are beyond invaluable. Where could anyone ever get ‘on demand’ feedback like that in real time?

I’m so proud of this young guy who is now going to totally breeze through his real-life dates and actually have fun! What a small investment for something so huge in life. He overcame jitters, doubt, pessimism, social anxiety around women, and not knowing how to flirt at all. Now he’s actually excited to start dating and hopefully meeting his dream girl.

Attention Silicon Valley Geeks

One of my favorite, quirky geek films in the 80’s by John Hughes is Weird Science where two high school, dateless geeks use their computer skills to create “the perfect woman” 

 
A lot of us obsessed over this movie but fast forward Linx has become a sort of step back in time allowing cerebral types with callused computer fingers spin out their perfect Kelly La Broc woman. 

In reminiscing about this movie I am reminded of the wonderful pool of guys that come to Linx searching for that “perfect woman.”

These men have just been nose to the grindstone, focused on their academics and career and are ready for love. They come to Linx in search of their life partner but aren’t so sure where to get started and sometimes they just need a bit of date coaching to learn to strengthen their hunter and alpha male qualities.

In the movie the boys create an insanely stunning woman of their dreams who also has magical powers which she uses to carefully steer the normally shy teens in directions where they are forced to be in-charge under pressure.  

I like to think of Linx as this female character in the film in that sense – where instead of magically providing a car, fake IDs and heading to a Blue’s club for some  Bourbon shots, we take the guys exactly as they are and help them own their qualities, polishing them up with excellent sound bytes. We might even go as far as wardrobe consultation, mock dates, and throwing them in simulated environments where we role play.  
 

We pride ourselves in representing such a quality pool of “geeks” because these are the men women are demanding! Women want men who are hard working, passionate about what they do, successful and quirky in their own special way, attentive and honest – the best thing about these men is that all these traits is what women find uber sexy and many of these men don’t even know it!

If you are one of these guys who maybe is shy and wonders what the heck women are thinking half the time, write us. We represent hundreds of good guys like you and can help you land the perfect Weird Science girl of your dreams. Dating is a skill and we are masters of helping our clients learn techniques to achieve your personal goals of finding true love.