Our client is a 41-year-old intellectual and dynamic gentleman of Russian heritage. He stands 5’9” with inviting blue eyes, a fair, clean-shaven complexion, and slender, yet strong build. His looks range from stylish to nerdy, favoring eyewear and leather jackets with eclectic designs. Growing up in St. Petersburg, he has been shaped by the endless trips to museums with historic paintings, biking, fishing, disassembling electronics, and fixing things for classmates.
Though the first few rubles he earned were from selling strawberries at the market with his grandfather, our client is a software engineer by trade. He spent half of his life building startups and co-founding one of the major technology companies, and he always strives to do well in his work. His projects have led to incredible experiences such as the creation of virtual reality worlds, stepping in and being the first to perceive them in breathtaking ways not conceivable before, celebrating public product launch with a small team of friends, and collaborating with the legends of the software industry.
In recent years, he has developed a growing passion for biosciences and investing. He sees aging and frailty as some of the starkest causes of human suffering, but he finds hope in the emergence of technologies aimed at improving these facets of humanity. He feels strongly that this is one of the most impactful and challenging problems facing humanity, so he spends much of his time running a fund focused on extending the human health and life span.
A relentless brainiac, he’s inherently curious and enjoys intellectual discussions. From reading scientific papers, attending startup incubator gatherings and AI conferences, or taking it up a notch and crossing the ocean to explore the Tanzanian wilderness of the Ngorongoro crater, he takes every opportunity to learn and grow. Though he values strong and reasoned opinions, he is happy to consider different sides, understanding that life is rarely black and white and there is always room to grow. He’d love an open-minded partner who is willing to approach life in the same way.
On weekends, he enjoys exploring new trails, loving the crumbling pebbles under his feet and the scent of fresh air. Upon arrival, you can expect him to unroll the blanket, give you a long hug, and settle in with a good book to enjoy with the peaceful view of the oceanside behind the hills. On other days, he enjoys being social, which might look like checking out a comedy show or simply grabbing lunch or a drink with friends. Looking forward to the day we resume normalcy, he’d love to take you blues dancing or to a salsa club. He is also up for biking, skiing, yoga, jogging barefoot on the beach… all in all, combining an active lifestyle with downtime for oneself through reflection, note-taking, and meditation.
His dream match is brains and beauty personified, but not necessarily in the conventional sense. She is 25-33 years old, between 5’3”-5’8”, feminine, active and physically fit, and embraces her own unique sense of style. Her heritage might be European, American, or Mixed race. Physically, our VIP will be drawn to her natural beauty and warm smile.
Rather than the “partying” type in college, his dream girl was occasionally social, spending most university nights coding, learning bridge, or putting in extra hours in the lab. Colleagues would describe her as determined, sharp, creative, and always curious. Her contemporaries would describe her as warm and engaging, happy, humble, secure, independent, and open-minded. Her empathy and intellect enables her to inspire her team at work to push the cutting edge in her field and attract the brightest minds from across the world.
Maybe she spends her days in biotech, tech, medicine, business, or the sciences. Regardless, she is incessantly analytical, but also has an animated creative side. She loves reading new books, working on DIY projects, appreciating the great outdoors, pushing herself through a healthy lifestyle. On her slow, lazy days, she loves playing or listening to music, or calming her ever-agile brain with yoga or meditation.
Although our client has not been married before and does not currently have any children, he envisions both in his future and plans to take this role very seriously.
If you or anyone you know might make the perfect match for this VIP, please submit your information. There are NO fees for qualified candidates to meet our client.
We are looking for single females who are based in Silicon Valley. She should be single and completely unattached.
She is between 28-38 years old, physically fit and leading a healthy active lifestyle.
5’0″-5’5″, preference for 5’3″. She is natural in her appearance. Little to no make-up or emphasis on designer logo clothing and such.
Must have been born and raised in Russia. Our client wants to be able to relate to his partner- culturally, language, shared outlook, and mentally.
Friends and family would describe her as: positive, easy-going, kind, compassionate, logical, smart, humorous, curious, erudite, and open-minded.
Professionally, she is passionate about her career and someone who’s reached success in her life. Ideally she works in the sciences, art, investments, tech, etc. Maybe she’s a bold entrepreneur or founder.
Some of her hobbies and interests might include: the arts, sports, science, innovations, history, travel, reading, social impact, ecology, family, cooking.
She’s been waiting to meet her dream partner and wants her own biological child(ren).
Turns offs for our client- lazy, materialistic, not curious, not kind, doesn’t want children.
If you or anyone you know might make a match for our mystery VIP, please email Amy at: firstname.lastname@example.org
There are no fees for this opportunity.
My good friend, Michelle Pender, over at Compass, who is a top real estate broker in San Francisco, sent me this email which I think is terrific- especially during the pandemic. Michelle shares….
Stress is a constant factor for many people. However, with the right tools, those who feel stressed can create a better mentality in just a few minutes. While five minutes may seem like an insignificant amount of time to reduce stress, these activities can positively impact mental health.
- Crank the tunes. Take a brain break and blast your favorite feel-good song as you walk or go for a drive.
- Go outside. A few minutes of fresh air can help clear your head and give you a new perspective.
- Try something new. Shake up your routine; this can be as simple as walking down a different street, anything to get your mind off autopilot, and be present.
- Spend money. According to Harvard professor Mike Norton, the trick is you have to spend it on someone else to get the ‘feel good’ perks. (My Favorite)
- Text a friend. Reaching out to someone and telling them how awesome they are will make you feel fabulous.
- Make plans. Having something to look forward to, like dinner with a friend, can make a person giddy. Remember, anticipation is a secret weapon of happiness.
- Help someone. A quick way to pick yourself up is to do something kind for someone else. It’s a bonus when it’s random and not expected of you.
- Do something. Whether it’s sending an email or clearing out the clutter, getting one thing off your to-do list gives you a huge mental sigh of relief.
- Say, “thank you.” A small act of gratitude goes a long way and will boost your positivity.
- Think positive thoughts. No matter how bad things may seem, always be grateful. Warm water on a cold day? Amazing! Coldwater on a sunny day? Incredible! You are fortunate when you get right down to it.
These ten quick methods can help bring positivity to a person in a relatively short time. Try one or more to recharge and lift your spirits the next time you feel overwhelmed or sad.
For anyone who is looking for a new, happy home in San Francisco, Michelle Pender is your resource! Not only is she incredibly personable and friendly but she is a Bay Area native. She knows the city beyond well and especially caters to the quaint neighborhood of Noe Valley. Her Instagram is wonderful and she does these unique videos sent to her followers on Fridays with tailored tips for first time home buyers and insider ideas about the real estate market in general. Her Instagram can be found here.
Dating a man in his 40s is an exciting experience. He wants to provide for a companion and has the means to do so—unlike many younger men, he’s usually established in his career and rather self-assured about his place in the world. In fact, studies like this one from the Atlantic show that a man’s desirability typically peaks around their 40s and 50s.
On the other side of the coin, there’s also a higher likelihood that he’s been married and/or has children. Though this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it may be daunting for some women.
So, what are the top 4 essential things to know about dating a man in his 40s?
(1) He likes clarity and honesty
A man in his 40s is more discerning and direct about his dating life—and expects you to be the same.
Playing games like intentionally delaying messaging back for a few days, playing hard to get, or talking about other men to entice jealousy doesn’t sit well—for a man in his 40s, this behavior is more likely to be interpreted as a lack of commitment, and he may simply assume that you’re disinterested.
He’ll appreciate you clearly expressing your interest, and he’ll also appreciate an honest and direct conversation if you’re not interested. With life experience behind him, he’ll more than graciously accept a thoughtful rejection, rather than a slow, time-wasting denouement.
(2) He needs his space
A man in his 40s is serious about keeping up with his responsibilities. You’ll have to respect that he may be preoccupied during the day and may not always message back immediately, or that he might want to get to bed early in order to wake up early.
The good news is that you’ll have more time to focus on yourself, especially when you have your own business, friends, and hobbies.
(3) He may want a family
While every situation is different, it would be wrong to assume that every man in his 40s wouldn’t be interested in starting a family with you simply because he is divorced or has kids already.
If he has kids already, it is also important to understand that he may take his time to introduce you to them—this is normal as he’ll want to be assured things are serious before he takes that step in intertwining your lives. Again, give him the space to do this at his own pace.
(4) He’s not a fixer-upper
Lastly, studies like this one by Costa and McRae have shown that personality traits remain relatively stable in adults after 30. This explains why it is incredibly challenging—or nearly impossible—to fundamentally change a 40-year-old’s personality, and it is important to recognize that trying to do so will most likely only lead to frustration for both of you.
So, for example, if he’s consistently not interested in an outdoor hike on your favorite trail, then chances are slim that he’ll ever be.
A man in his 40s has been shaped by his life experiences, both good and bad, and he’ll have a much stronger sense of self for it. The major benefit for you—if you have the chance to be with someone who truly knows himself—is that this illuminates a clearer path to connection.
If you find yourself searching for love but not knowing where to begin, don’t hesitate to get in touch—I’m here to help.
Wishing you love and good health,
FOR SINGLE MEN AGES 40-56
Our confident and classy bachelorette is a late 40s native Californian of Chinese descent. Standing at 5’6” (if you manage to catch her without her high heels on), she is slender with wavy black hair, a playful attitude, and a compassionate heart.
Professionally, she is a lawyer but before you instantly get put off by that, let’s clarify that she’s not your typical attorney. She’s a former engineer that gave up designing planes for patents, so she considers herself a mix of geeky, intellectual, and fun. Having a job that allows her to work from anywhere in the world, she has been fortunate enough to have traveled to over 40 countries and partake in some amazing adventures such as making the perfect pizza in Rome; exploring countless temples in Asia; spelunking in Australia and New Zealand; hot air ballooning over Cappadocia; cruising the Nile; dog sledding in the Arctic; and riding a camel into the Moroccan sunset. An explorer at heart, there are still many journeys that she would love to fill her passport with – perhaps with you.
Although our bachelorette is ambitious and driven in her goals and appreciate those qualities in a partner, she believes that happiness requires balance. When she is not working or traveling, you will find her unwinding on a different hiking trail every week, catching up with friends, or unleashing her creative side in the kitchen. Her ideal match should love or at least pretend to like carbs (and her cooking 😉).
While she has lived an amazing life, she believes it would be even better to share the fun and adventures with someone special. Her best suited match is between the ages of 40-56 and Caucasian in heritage. Friends would describe him as balanced and self-assured with a great sense of humor and strong core values. He can easily engage in a serious discussion or trade witty banter but can also appreciate a comfortable silence. Ideally, he’s established in his career, politically right leaning, and is looking for a fellow traveler with whom to explore life and the world.
Although our client is based in Silicon Valley, she can picture herself basking in the idyllic lifestyle of the South – you know, bucolic green lawns, scrumptious comfort food, Southern hospitality, and raising a family with you. Her ideal match has a bit of wanderlust to adventurous spirit and likes the idea of splitting time elsewhere or escaping the Bay Area entirely.
If you or anyone you know might make a fantastic match for our bachelorette, please email Amy directly at: email@example.com
There are ZERO fees for qualifying candidates. Thank you!
Our client is 55 years young, 6’1”, an athletic Caucasian gentleman of Scots-Irish descent currently living on Mercer Island in the Seattle, Washington region. He has been a pediatrician all of his adult life and taught at multiple universities, worked for a Christian non-profit, and traveled to Haiti and Honduras on missions. Originally from Pennsylvania, our client moved to the Pacific Northwest to be closer to family, teach, and enjoy the great outdoors and unparalleled rowing culture.
This gentleman is a unique and eclectic mix of knight in shining armor, athlete, adventurer, world traveler, kid at heart, curious academic and educator with a techie bent, part MacGyver, part naïve idealist, lover of good times, laughter, good food, old fashioned romance, all children, and especially Jesus. He’s all about having fun, laughing, crying, living life to the fullest and cherishing each and every day. You will find that he will also be your biggest supporter, advocate, lover, defender, protector and giver of amazing bear hugs and snuggles.
Hobbies and passions outside of his career take shape in the form of fitness and faith. He is a rower, triathlete, skier, hiker, and appreciates most forms of athletics- including his well-equipped home gym. He’s well-traveled and loves New Zealand, Canada, Iceland, and Scotland best so far, but has yet to explore places like Africa, the Holy Land, South America, and Japan that at the top of his list. You will find him to be well-read and appreciative of a wide range of genres. Beyond books, our client is fond of podcasts from Tim Keller, Ravi Zacharias, and Francis Chan.
Our client lives out his faith every day by his actions and life choices, not by extremes and pushing his beliefs on others. He is loyal, faithful, honest and sincere to a fault – caring and serving others by using all of the skills and talents with which he has been blessed, is one of his biggest life goals.
Our client is best suited for a match between 31 and 45 years old, Caucasian preferably of Scots-Irish, New Zealand, Scandinavian, or Canadian descent who loves children and would like to have one or two of her own. You have your own more natural beauty and don’t feel the need to wear much make up or to dress up unless the occasion calls for it. Freckles are definitely a bonus. You are athletic in build and enjoy most sports.
You are your own unique eclectic mix of whom God has made you to be, comfortable in who you are, how you look, what you do at home and work and play. Athletic and spunky, ready for adventures and to try new things and challenges. Intellectually curious, romantic, lover of surprises, lover of children and possessing a child like wonder of all the world has to offer. You have a good sense of humor and humility, and are energetic, nurturing and kind with a wonderful and natural way with children and everyone. Preferably a mix of Éowyn from Lord of the Rings, Merida from the Disney Film Brave, Ellie from the film Up, and Belle from Beauty and the Beast. More comfortable in stylish, but functional athletic and outdoor wear or casual clothes, but comfortable occasionally dressing up for more formal occasions. With a strong sense of who you are as a Christian and who you are called to be. Does this sound like you?
The right person will make the perfect match for our client. Together, you will be a dynamic, fun-loving, adventuresome Christian team that can do your best to dream up new and wonderful ways to help others and make the world a better place. Best friends, passionate lovers, belly laughers, mutual educators, nurturers, and supporters. You make each other the best that you can be and at the end we can both truly say when honors or accolades are sent your way that the two of you couldn’t have done it without one other and without your faith, the Lord and your family.
Our client shares, “If we are blessed with children we show them the unconditional Love between us and love them unconditionally as well. We are role models for them to feel comfortable emulating as they grow and develop. We truly Love God with all our hearts, souls and minds and Love our neighbors as ourselves.”
If you or anyone you know might make a match for this extraordinary client of ours, please email Amy directly firstname.lastname@example.org
There are zero fees for qualifying female candidates. Thank you!
As cities around the country and the world go into coronavirus lockdown, your search for love doesn’t have to shelter in place. In fact, being in quarantine is a great opportunity to look inward to ask yourself what qualities you really want in a partner and is a chance to prepare yourself for a relationship once the quarantine ends.
Cultivating solitude and embracing it to find love
For naturally social creatures, getting locked into our homes with no end date can be tough to navigate, even for those of us with high levels of immunity to loneliness.
To make peace with solitude, scientists recommend reframing the loneliness.
Reed Larson, professor of human development and family studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign found that solitude is like “a medicine which tastes bad, but leaves one more healthy in the long run,” that creates more positive emotions and less self-reported depression down the line. Susan Cain, author of the book Quiet, says “solitude is a crucial and underrated ingredient of creativity.” This time of social distance is the perfect opportunity to get close with solitude.
So, how is solitude relevant to finding a partner?
Researchers Christopher Long and James Averill write that time alone allows us to order our priorities according to what we need, rather than the needs of others. Solitude is a powerful experience that allows us to prioritize what we want in our relationships.
Start by asking yourself the following:
- Am I listening closely to what I want?
- How much do I weigh what my friends or family want for me?
- What story does my dating life tell?
If answering these questions feels confusing, you’re not alone; isolation can make it difficult to experience clarity, but hang in there and don’t let this opportunity slip away.
Sherry Turkle, researcher and the founder of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self talks about our apprehension towards embracing solitude in her Ted talk: “The moment that people are alone, even for a few seconds, they become anxious, they panic, they fidget, they reach for a device. Just think of people at a checkout line or at a red light.”
Turkle goes on to urge people to create sacred spaces to embrace solitude, where you don’t get distracted or reach for your phone—such as an hour in the morning or lunchtime in between your remote conference calls. It can be over a quiet cup of tea, a soak in a hot epsom salt bath, or whatever else might work for you.
That said, even once you’ve had a chance for solitude, your mind might still not be the easiest place to dwell. Past relationships and other noise can make it impossible to ask ourselves the questions we need to answer before continuing the search for a loving partner.
Consulting with a matchmaker can help bring focus into the equation. Not only can we be a sounding board to get clarity on what those relationship priorities are, we’ll be able to jumpstart your love life once social restrictions are lifted.
Building connection amidst quarantine
If you were already dating before the quarantine, you’ll need to get creative to build and sustain the connection.
- Host a remote movie date. Netflix just released their Netflix Party Chrome extension that lets you watch “Netflix remotely with friends, e.g. for movie nights with that long-distance special someone. It synchronizes video playback and adds group chat.” Should pair well with a quarantine.
- Take a (virtual) museum stroll. Google Arts & Culture has partnered with some of the world’s most popular museums to give patrons a chance to see art and exhibits through their computer screens. The virtual tour might not be the most ideal, but you’ll get some brownie points for creativity.
- Spend a night at the opera. The Met is live streaming their operas each day. Of course you’d be more inclined to watch from the first row balcony, but desperate times call for alternative seating.
- Try a new (love) language. With quality time and physical touch on hold, give acts of service and words of affirmation a try. Support your favorite local restaurant and get a meal delivered. Check in frequently with texts and calls—don’t skimp on showing appreciation.
And if you’re combining social distance with long distance, then be sure to check out my practical tips on making long distance work.
As always, I am here to support you! Consider scheduling a virtual matchmaking session to get the process started. Once quarantine is over, you’ll be ready to mingle with some of the most eligible singles from around the world!
THE KEY ECONOMIC TAKEAWAYS WERE:
-70% of Germany will contract it (58M people). This is the next most relevant industrial economy to be effected.
-Peak-virus is expected over the next eight weeks, declining thereafter.
-The virus appears to be concentrated in a band between 30-50 degrees north latitude, meaning that like the common cold and flu, it prefers cold weather. The coming summer in the northern hemisphere should help. This is to say that the virus is likely seasonal.
-Of those impacted 80% will be early-stage, 15% mid-stage and 5% critical-stage. Early-stage symptoms are like the common cold and mid-stage symptoms are like the flu; these are stay at home for two weeks and rest. 5% will be critical and highly weighted towards the elderly.
-Mortality rate on average of up to 2%, heavily weighted towards the elderly and immunocompromised; meaning up to 3m people (150m*.02). In the US about 3m/yr die mostly due to old age and disease, those two being highly correlated (as a percent very few from accidents). There will be significant overlap, so this does not mean 3m new deaths from the virus, it means elderly people dying sooner due to respiratory issues. This may however stress the healthcare system.
-There is a debate as to how to address the virus pre-vaccine. The US is tending towards quarantine. The UK is tending towards allowing it to spread so that the population can develop a natural immunity. Quarantine is likely to be ineffective and result in significant economic damage but will slow the rate of transmission giving the healthcare system more time to deal with the case load.
-China’s economy has been largely impacted which has affected raw materials and the global supply chain. It may take up to six months for it to recover.
-Global GDP growth rate will be the lowest in 30 years at around 2%.
-S&P 500 will see a negative growth rate of -15% to -20% for 2020 overall.
-There will be economic damage from the virus itself, but the real damage is driven mostly by market psychology. Viruses have been with us forever. Stock markets should fully recover in the 2nd half of the year.
-In the past week there has been a conflating of the impact of the virus with the developing oil price war between Saudi Arabia and Russia. While reduced energy prices are generally good for industrial economies, the US is now a large energy exporter, so there has been a negative impact on the valuation of the domestic energy sector.
-Technically the market generally has been looking for a reason to reset after the longest bull market in history.
Linx Dating LLC
This week has been another super busy one taking many meetings with mostly men who qualify to meet some of our female VIP clients (interestingly, all the men we met this week are from Europe!) We’ve even been doing house appointments to ensure complete discretion and privacy for some uber high profile VIP clients and prospects. In fact, last Saturday the Linx ladies arrived to a very high profile gentleman’s home in Silicon Valley to chat about matchmaking. We hear time and time again Linx Dating is the only matchmaker that well-educated, high caliber individuals would hire. Why? Due to our A+ reputation, scrupulous screening process, esteemed private network, and tireless dedication to our craft to name a few!
As the scope of our VIP client projects are vast and detailed, I’m hiring a highly skilled individual I’ve known for years to help with recruitment. She will leverage her existing networks and help source eligible individuals for us to add to our existing database and importantly, find people who could be that perfect “needle in a haystack” match for our VIPs. Following the Linx process, she will screen all candidates in person and cherry pick the best, weeding out the rest.
We protect our male and female clients all day long and serve as a giant filter for them. In the era of dating apps and dating “in the wild” on your own where you simply don’t know “who” you are dealing with, one can’t place a premium on the value we bring to our trusted clients.
We are also in the midst of planning a fabulous private Spring soiree in Silicon Valley. Linx events are always well attended and in high demand. Stay tuned for more on any upcoming events….
Next week is another very busy week with lots of matchmaking, appointments, and media projects. We are so grateful to our wonderful clients, match candidates in our database, and friends who provide such on-going support and love of Linx.
My dating advice for your upcoming dates this weekend is to always remember to be genuine! The worst thing you can do on a date is misrepresent yourself. Don’t pretend to be interested in things that truly bore you. Don’t bring up topics you don’t want to discuss. Don’t be silent about your own likes and dislikes because you don’t want to be judged.
Remember that, at heart, all Linx members are looking for the same thing – real and lasting human connections. So if you find yourself sitting across from a first date and neither of you knows what to say, start with the question that most single people would like to be asked more often; smile, take a deep breath, and open with “How was your day? ❤️
Have a great weekend ahead!