How to meet men Silicon Valley

This Week in Perspective

It’s been extremely busy at Linx HQ. I am still blown away that January is officially over. Have you noticed how some people still have Christmas trees in their windows and lights still decorating their homes? Did they not get the memo that the holidays are over? Hilarious. There is a home in my neighborhood that is still all lit up at night…right out of National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.

This past week was filled with tons of client meetings over breakfast at the Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel, coffee in SOMA, and in the privacy of our historic offices. We admitted new members this week…a quick snapshot includes a handsome 32-year old 6’0″ guy who is passionate about surfing in his free time, a witty 33-year old male with a devilish smile and wildly impressive career (who has been a vegetarian his whole life), and a 50-something real estate professional who loves travel, his kids, and Bay Area living. We also had a lovely visit with a young mid 20’s MD female member who was so sweet to bring us the most decadent homemade cupcakes (flourless chocolate w sea salt and carmel and a coconut tropical unbelievably fabulous concoction!) As you can see we hated them. 😉 vscocam1571

We spent a few hours conducting an in-home closet consultation for a vibrant, mature, and gorgeous 24-year old female. She hired us to edit her wardrobe, help her create looks (looks for work, work into dates, weekend wear, dressy styles etc). The great thing is that our client already has such an impressive wardrobe and everything she pretty much needs…it was just a matter of figuring out what works with what and helping her streamline things. Also her request and wish was to get her wearing color…not so much black all the time.

In working with our client, we also removed items that she has had since high school (yes high school..including her old prom dress…ok ok, she is only 24 years young!) and will be donating four huge garbage bags to Goodwill as a result. We put tons of looks together she already had in her closet (black 7 skinny jeans, silk Joie tank, paired with a tight Vince leather jacket zipped up accentuating her TINY waist and model physique, punchy colorful pashmina, black patent leather Louboutin pumps, and a great tote to top off her modern and very versatile look (so easy to transition from day to night). She was so impressed by our hard work, she’s hired us to come back this coming week for more wardrobe work.Christian-Louboutin-Pigalle The famous, highly coveted red CL soles…

My assistant (who is a very skilled photographer among many of her talents) has been snapping pics of our client in her various ensembles and will be creating a beautiful look book to keep in her boudoir for when getting ready. VINCE-WO127_V1 Vince leather jacket on a model

It’s been busy with creative projects as well….speaking to lots of media folks from all around the globe…including entertaining folks up from LA and showing them the Silicon Valley life. Beyond this, lots of matchmaking and presenting clients with our match ideas. This week alone we’ve done a ton of really good matches and are excited to hear how those first dates go. I’ve learned so much from my clients this past month- fascinating trends we are seeing in Silicon Valley and lots of interesting stories.

Here’s to an exciting February ahead for everyone. Stay focused on your New Years resolutions and don’t start slipping now. I have just completed my annual health “cleanse” I do every Jan for 31 days (major cardio, super green diet, no diary, no bad carbs, no alcohol) and I feel GREAT. Even though I am looking forward to a glass of wine (or two!) tonight with friends in San Francisco, I am making sure to set strict rules for myself to stay focused and very disciplined as I enter February. Healthy living is a LIFESTYLE and in order to be at my best in my life, I know I have to do certain things (sufficient sleep, lot of good clean eating, restricting my so called vices (e.g, drinking ,sugar, cheese) working out with my trainer multiple times a week, and taking time off from the daily grind to reset).

If you want more information about my cleanse ping me. This is my 7th year doing it…and I’m hooked! I’m not the only one either- when I interviewed a young CEO on Thursday, he is doing a 90 day cleanse. He said he sleeps better, has total mental clarity, is happier, and much more balanced.

Fun and funky old school workout song for you to load onto the trusty ipod.

Women in Linx | Types of Women We Represent

I am often asked from men what type of women we represent at Linx and when we recruit for these guys (as a VIP client) what the structure of the so called castings are.

A very first step in our admission process is the vetting. I would want to make sure that a prospect of Linx adheres to the standards that Linx represents. Our clients are: well educated (75% have post graduate work completed from top universities), they are all professionals across a very wide range of industries, extremely well-rounded in their hobbies outside of career, dynamic, physically active (keeping healthy, fit, and balanced), and most importantly are commitment and marriage minded. These women are all ages (a huge populations in their 20’s and 30’s, followed by 40-60’s generally). girl5

Just like Stanford, Harvard, or CAL rejects even the most brainy and accomplished applicants, we do have to filter out people who simply are not a good fit for this network.

Those who are not “good fits” could be based on them not being comfortable with the concept of a commitment, not liking the protocol, not leading a healthy lifestyle, or me sensing that she is not ready for true love. Sometimes candidates possess an extreme anxiety about wanting to meet “the one.” If we sense that their energy is too intense and their expectations totally unreasonable (about what they seek in a match and general timeline of getting matched, engaged, and married), we simply won’t work with them. If we did work with that person, she would be supremely unhappy and our magic would be dampened by stress and stifled by pressure.

It should be noted that we are one of the only matchmaking firms that represents females as clients. We have a huge demand for our services with attractive and brainy women. In Silicon Valley and metropolitan regions such as San Francisco, New York City, and Los Angeles, there is no shortage of extremely accomplished professional women who are looking for love and needing help in their personal lives.

Many women also submit their information everyday to meet our VIP clients. We do regular screenings for these hundreds of women who want us to screen them to see if they have that je ne sais quoi that many of our successful VIP gentleman look for in their dream girl.

The structure of the castings is what we call “Mini Meet and Greets.” These are individual appointments that a female who has qualified for the in-person session makes with our team. We do a short in-person screening with her getting to know the candidate and seeing if she is not only adhering to the overarching standards that Linx represents (per the above) but also is importantly very OPEN-MINDED and flexible with her ideal match criteria since she would simply be in the database where matches/introductions occur opportunistically and flexibility is key in order for her to be matched. 09-09-testimonial

The women who submit their info to meet the VIPs can differ from those who are premium clients with respect to career. Some are not “as” successful, “hard charging”, and “Type A” as many of our premium female clients. Our premium female clients (just like the guys) want the exact same success they have achieved professionally yet now in their personal lives. The women who submit info to meet VIPs who qualify are not always MDs, corporate attorneys, and C-level execs. They might very well be teachers, nurses, in PR/marketing, assistants, and a wide range of other careers. That said, there are definitely less ambitious females who are premium clients and alpha females opting for a passive way to participate as well. In conclusion, the Linx network is extremely diverse with respect to every metric involved.

The Pros and Cons of Online Dating

I‘m often asked if my clients should continue with online dating when they start their Linx memberships. If yes, what I feel is the biggest drawback to trying to find love on the Internet?

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he biggest challenges are twofold – (1) the labor and time involved sifting through thousands of profiles; and (2) unverified information.

At the end of the day it is exhausting to have to sort through all of these profiles and to deal with the long, drawn out communication process of winks, emails, nudges, pokes, etc. But I think the bigger challenge is the fabrication of information on the site – you might be entering the online market with honest intentions of wanting to couple up and reach monogamy for the long term but you have no idea who is really on the other side.

It can be extremely disappointing not having the data and true insights into the person with whom you are communicating online and potentially to then meet in person. Is he/she as commitment minded as you or is he/she on the site to just “hook up” and be “super causal” where “sex is so easy” to get?

Online has helped create awareness for an offline, old world business like Linx but, on the other hand, it has caused people a lot of stress from the labor involved, fabrication of user profiles, no authenticating “who is who”, and often feeling online chemistry but offline when you meet is a whole other story.

At Linx, I personally get to know every new client and sit down with each member really delving deep so I can best help him/her…..at this stage in the game I’ve met thousands of people.

This week alone I have interviewed fascinating men and women (a venerable Silicon Valley techie, CEOs, and many other hard working dynamic types- in fact I am hoping to do a new blog entry about the SV legend asap). Something online cannot necessarily predict is chemistry. I understand human behavior and what makes two people mesh. Clients who have been doing a lot of high volume driven matchmaking online find the Linx approach and methodology particularly appealing and extremely personalized. This is after all about SLOWING DOWN and focusing on one extremely solid match at a time. I emphasize slowing down!

With the obvious perils into the world of online, I WOULD encourage you to keep your profiles up BUT the absolute key is to evaluate IF you have been getting the traction you desire. Are the “right” types for you landing in your inbox and if not, you should strongly consider doing a massive profile rewire to reboot yourself towards success.

We offer a lot of assistant as one of our many auxiliary services for clients at Linx to provide powerful insights into online dating. What will attract the man of your dreams and how do you hook them? What is a turn-off to women and a turn-on with profiles? Once you discover lots of emails in your inbox, what next? How to bridge online into real-life dating?

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my Webb did a hilarious Ted Talk about hacking OK Cupid. The takeaway from her TED talk is that there is an algorithm for love, in fact it is something you write yourself. All you really have to do is figure out your ‘own’ framework and play by your own rules. Enjoy her talk below…insightful, funny, and provocative.

This Week at Linx

Just in…a nice little testimonial from a client of Linx…

I had a great experience with Linx & Amy. She listened to me very well in the interview, & within a year, she had 2 good matches for me. The first one in September; the second one in June. One match was so close that we dated for a year, & we have remained wonderful friends.I have recommended my friends to her. Match-making is not a science; it’s not a sure thing to find a match. But the odds are better than other services where there is no screening (other than by yourself) or going out to advertised “singles” events. Her pricing is steep but life is like that at times.

This week has been super crazy busy at work especially with the mention in the Sunday style section of The New York Times. LinxNYTLots of great inquires from all over have been landing in my inbox. I’ve received so many emails from prospects- especially really young movers and shakers in tech (think FB, Twitter, Palantir, Box) and a lot of folks in the VC and angel investment community as well. From San Francisco, to San Jose, Atherton, to Manhattan, and Newport Beach. Funny how the NYT mentioned LinkedIn as a resource for me scouting talent. I haven’t logged into my LinkedIn profile in probably twelve years. No offense Mr. Jeff Weiner. wink wink.

With Halloween right around the corner, why not head out in true Silicon Valley style with your own chic personalized dress-literally. 1380312_674503142569152_654454838_n
Wearing your Facebook profile as a dress takes social media to a whole new level. Talk about an ice breaker!

I‘ve seen a funny trend in the past two weeks with multiple couples coupling up who share the same name. For instance three male clients named Mark who were matched to three totally different girls named Sally and now each new couple reports back that they are going exclusive. Mark + Sally couple #1, Mark + Sally couple #2, and Mark + Sally couple #3. I haven’t seen that one ever actually. Had some great meetings today with clients and prospects and the rest of the week is about matchmaking, client calls, and some fun work related projects. That’s all for now.

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New Linx Testimonial ! 30-something exec female, Ivy League educated marries incredible man!

I originally was introduced to Amy in Summer 2010 and heard about Linx from friends who had met and worked with Amy and were very impressed with her and the quality of Linx matches. Living in San Francisco I found it difficult to find the right match who was looking for the same long-term goals as myself. I had had long term relationships with great guys but ultimately the common theme was there were missing pieces for discussions of marriage or they simply where not in the right place to contemplate getting really serious.

I met Amy in June 2010 and the experience was surprisingly great. Her approach is straight forward, honest and she seemed to really get me. I knew this was a leap of faith and I felt in trusted hands and that she could increase my odds and what could I lose in doing this? If anything meet some nice new guys and make a few new friends. Linx placed me across from a few great guys that I would not have met otherwise. Even in the brief amount of time Amy spent me with in her office, she really hit the nail on the head of identifying good guys for me who shared the same goals, background, etc and I would never have met these guys in my normal course of life. Young couple

On match 7th, I met my husband. We shared our first date in San Francisco and I felt that he was interesting, cute and really easy to spend time with it just felt easy. We starting spending large amounts of time together very early on and it felt like things evolved very naturally without any stress or different goals he really seemed to understand me and loved me for me quirks and all.

He proposed on a ski trip, the site of our third date on our one year anniversary! He feigned exhaustion one night to stay at the hotel, he had shipped the ring to Colorado (without insurance, thank you FEDEX!) and was in a panic trying to hide it and conceal the surprise. I came back from the spa and the room was decorated with rose petals and my favorite food. When I asked why I was such a lucky girl he said it was to mark our one year anniversary together and then he proposed and ended up putting the ring on the wrong hand. So cute. It was amazing!!!

We married in summer 2013 and lived happily ever after (just kidding this is a true story!)

Linx is great as it opened up my horizons to meet people I would never normally have met, Amy is very professional intuitive and a joy to work with. I highly recommend her service!”

Announcing our latest VIP

Linx is excited to announce another VIP search.

Our client is an adventurous and intellectually curious gentleman in his early 50’s.

He is Caucasian, 6’0″, fit, attractive, stylish, and with a contagious smile.

Our client is new to the Bay Area, having just moved to the Bay Area from across the United States.

He’s an independent spirit who is searching for the love of his life and has retained Linx to help him find her.

He’s a successful executive, very driven, a leader in his field and well educated.

Yet when he’s not working…you’d never know he’s a tough guy at work.

He has a capability to dial it back, reveal a fun and playful side to him, and create a glorious work-life balance in his down time.

He is a unique blend of many traits — kind, serious, irreverent, quiet, but never at a loss for words, thoughtful, yet quick to make decisions,patient but not one who suffers fools gladly, if at all.

His playlist runs from U2, to Beethoven, from Lucinda Williams to Verdi. He is a good listener and an astute observer of people. He has an inquisitive mind and loves to learn about new things.

His passions outside of the scope of work are wide ranging but a short list includes: his big dogs, his adult son, NBA basketball, photography, travel, his new home he built, wine, and keeping active. Another significant hobby for our client is flying. Piper Matrix PA-46-R350T

He’d love for his dream match to be comfortable flying with him in his airplane.

Our VIP desires Sexy, Smart, Stable, and with a Great Sense of Humor! She is between the ages of 35-45, Caucasian, 5’6″ plus, stylish, fit, and naturally attractive. His match is witty, easy to be around, fun, comfortable with herself, adventurous, and doesn’t take herself too seriously!

She’s looking for a true gentleman through and through and will embrace a man who is chivalrous. After a long work week, she’d love to
have a quiet night in by the outdoor fire grilling and sipping a glass of wine as she would be jetting off to Santa Barbara or Tahoe with
her match.

If you or anyone you know might qualify to meet this extraordinary client of ours, please contact amy ASAP. amy@linxdating.com

This week at Linx and Out-N-About

Another busy week here at Linx. We are gearing up for a huge week next week with a zillion fab candidates meetings seeing if they have what is takes to meet some of our clients. As we only have 20 minutes or so with each candidate, we need to come up with some super targeted questions to quickly capture if they have that secret sauce that makes up our next sort of Linx member.

I‘ve helped some clients out who are in tough situations this week. One in particular where her Linx beau is under a lot of stress. His stress is causing their relationship a lot of friction and it is definitely putting significant tension on it. We discussed how to remedy this in an effective manner. They’ve been together a long time now and are a beautiful match that is absolutely meant to be. I feel this “test” of the relationship will only make them so much stronger in a marriage. No relationship is perfect. Everyone experiences crap. It is how you deal with it, talk openly and honestly about it, and manage to get past it as a couple. Don’t bottle things up. At some point you are bound to “boil over.”

We screened a great candidate yesterday and are conducting interviews today. One guy and one female. Just found out about another super successful Linx match. Both relate to one another as they each have children. The children and commonality of shared background are the necessarily pillars that cement this sort of potential relationship. Some people who have kids feel very unsure of how or when to bring up such an important part of their lives in the dating game, especially if their match doesn’t have kid(s). This sort of makes this extraordinarily easy from the start. They both “get” it and “understand” one another. The trials, joys, happiness, frustrations, and responsibilities that make up being a parent.  San Mateo-20130129-00816

We love how clients transform at Linx. Today we interviewed a young software engineer who is quirky, intelligent and came to Linx to help him progress with his dating life. When he initially came into the office for his screening, we felt he needed some date coaching and he agreed. San Mateo-20130129-00812

Fresh gorgeous flowers this week at Linx. 

When we first met him he could hardly even calm his nerves being in female company. He was struggling noticeably trying to focus on our meeting.  Since then we have really helped our new client on several other occasions for date coaching. His transformation has just been amazing. What we admire so much about him is his commitment to self-improvement. He wants to find the right girl and wants to fall in love. After date coaching we decided the next natural step was to become a client.

Seeing him today was like meeting an entirely different person! He was so relaxed, at ease and just so excited to get out there and start dating! I can’t say enough how excited I am for him and so proud of his willingness to take these steps in learning more about himself and being prepared to date. The only thing left is a little wardrobe consultation we’ve set up for him next week and then he’s all set! Way to go!

We continue to get a boat load of girls submitting information to meet VIPs. Just tonight alone, my inbox is flooding. Men of Silicon Valley and beyond do you hear that? To the single gentlemen out there, email us! Linx is a hotbed of incredible, high caliber members.

Random topic. So tonight after work, I ran to Staples in Menlo Park off of El Camino. I make mental notes of crappy customer service in life and those folks who really “go the extra mile” when shopping. I’d like to give a shout out to the hard working guys at Staples. Thank you for helping me tonight! I brought in a paper shredder (yep we are big into shredding documents at Linx as you can imagine!) that failed on me today and started making terrible noises and then went kaputt on me. I rushed over there to exchange it and one of the operations managers at Staples took time to repair it on site for me. He plugged it in, he somehow managed to pull the stuck papers out of it like the incredible hulk and then cleaned it out. Who does that…especially when he could of pressured me to just buy a new one for $59.99?!

Another manager raced around the store looking for these special clear folders that we are obsessive about in the office. These folders store Linx client information neatly and after many attempts, I simply couldn’t find them. I asked for help and this manager came to the rescue. He couldn’t find the ones I needed but did manage to find a style that was a close runner up. Only caveat is the packet was rainbow colored and I needed all clear. When I expressed my disdain to this runner up being multi-colored, he literally took it upon himself to open many multi-color packets in order to remove the one clear folder in each 6 pack. Who does that? Thanks Staples for being so helpful!

It reminds me of the times when there is absolutely no customer service. There’s one women’s clothing boutique on Chestnut Street in MP that gave me the utter heebie jeebies with hands down poor service. I had never been in there and a best friend of mine always raves about it. Randomly a few weeks ago I walked in and I was the only one in the little high-end ladies boutique. Not a single customer but me. The lady at the cash register looked me up, looked me down (yeah ok… ok, I was in my workout gear and hadn’t planned to shop) and she didn’t say a peep. I looked at the price tag on some of the items, 1K fur bolero, 2K this, 4K purse. I was thinking, child, in this economy AND with online shopping so totally efficient, you best be friendly to those who enter your store. I have no time or interest in thus I will not return there. Or the one time….(no no, not at band camp) in Palo Alto 4 (yep 4) of the sales girls were TRYING ON CLOTHES and parading around admiring themselves in the mirror. Really? Eeek. Not good. So I like to acknowledge those special folks like my new friends at Staples who stand out from the crowd!

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Marshall….the Linx mascot…can this boy be any cuter? Marshall is going to be passing out special puppy Valentines to his best guy and girlfriends at the puppy park soon and mommy is making his friends pumpkin and peanut butter homemade biscuits as Valentine gifts. Yeah I know, I’m totally obsessed!