Is She Ready to Commit? 7 Questions to Ask Yourself

 

She might be interested, but is she willing to commit? To know for sure is a time-consuming process. Standing by until she’s ready or doing every little thing to change her mind will challenge your patience and sanity. Those loving feelings you have now can snowball into frustration and resentment if your partner’s intentions stay ambiguous. To avoid pursuing a woman who isn’t ready to commit, ask yourself the following questions:

 

1. Is she emotionally available?

 

Intimacy begins with trust, and wounds of the past can make trusting someone new very difficult. If your partner struggles to communicate her feelings, she might be protecting herself from another heartbreak or letdown. If your partner constantly rehashes stories about her ex, she’s not ready to commit emotionally. As long as she fixates on the demons of her past, she’s still living among them. Over time, she’s more likely to let go of the anger or sadness, but as long as she’s processing, give her time. Your efforts to be her knight in shining armor are impressive, but they won’t be fully appreciated until she’s moved on from the past.  Keep in mind that this one is all about degree – though you don’t want write someone off too quickly, you should also move on if the wounds seem too fresh.

 

2. Does she want you to be the best version of yourself?

 

Everyone has blind spots; does your partner take time to help you discover and improve the ones that are problematic? If so, she’s showing a willingness to invest in your well-being.

 

Maybe you’ve slipped back into workaholic tendencies. Maybe you’re struggling with aging parents. Whatever it is, it’s a problem you can solve together. You’ll notice her feedback doesn’t feel like criticism. Instead, she spends time figuring out the root cause of the problem in a calm, non-judgmental way. If she’s looking for the best long-term fit, she will want her partner at his best—even if it involves tough conversations.

 

3. Does she make an effort with your family?

 

Everyone has a couple challenging relatives but, no matter how much we may wish otherwise, they’re still family. A woman who’s interested in a long-term relationship will take them as they are. She’ll let your overly political father vent, she will let your perpetually unemployed brother crash at your apartment, and she won’t hold it against you.

 

If the relationship is casual, she’ll avoid intertwining herself in your life. She might meet your friends, but family requires a different type of effort.

 

A woman who is ready to commit will do her best to make a solid impression. She will help your mom figure out FaceTime. She will spend 45 minutes talking to your dad about his fishing trip. She might have 100 more interesting ways to spend her time, but she wants to cultivate relationships with the people who’ve known you the longest. Because your family is an extension of you, she will make them a part of her life.

 

4. Does she allude to a future?

 

If commitment is on her mind, she’ll start gauging your interest in future plans. Testing the waters about kids or marriage can be too forward, so listen for softer cues. She might want your thoughts on pet ownership or ask about your lease. If vacation days are numbered, she might ask about holiday plans well in advance.

 

If she’s trying to make long-term plans, she sees you in her future.

 

5. Does she introduce you to friends?

 

Meeting the friend group is another way she will integrate you in her life. If you’re playing a bigger role in her life, she’ll want her leading ladies to know you. Watch for invites to group outings or impromptu meet ups where she’s already with a close friend. If she’s inviting you to high exposure events like company outings, family gatherings, weddings, she’s also publicly acknowledging that your relationship has legs.

 

6. Does she want to impress your friends?

 

Just like family, your friends are an extension of you. Because these people are important to you, they are important to her. If she believes that you are the best long-term partner, she’ll want your friends to see her as your best match. Their opinion of her is not something she’ll take lightly. To make a good impression, she might make an extra effort to befriend a colleague’s wife or take initiative to plan a couples’ trip.

 

7. Does she demonstrate willingness to compromise?

 

When the relationship shifts from an “I” to a “we”, your partner will make decisions differently. Because she’s focused on what’s best for the relationship, her needs are best met when both of you can come to an agreement, even if the outcome is not exactly what she had in mind. If she’s only looking for casual fun, there’s no reason for her compromise. Without a future, there’s no need to make sacrifices.

Princess Proposals Visits Cavallo Point

I am very excited to introduce and share all the amazing details about the newest princess proposal: Mark & Rachel.   

As it had been raining the day prior – I was a little worried about the weather for this outdoor proposal but we arrived at the historic Cavallo Point and it was a gorgeous day, perfectly sunny and crisp. The location was the perfect romantic backdrop for the big day with the Golden Gate Bridge spectacular in the background! 

Princess Proposals worked behind the scenes setting the stage in the most luxe modern suite on the property. Our client Mark shared ahead of time her favorite colors were hot pink but she also loved turquoise. We were all set with candles, fresh flowers in vases, rose petals galore, precious photos of the couple to string across their room.  

Team Linx was  ready to work our magic in decorating their room & dinner table – followed by expert ninjas lurking behind curtains and bushes to capture every moment of the actual proposal!  I know, I look like Jack in The Shining below. 

They arrived at 5:00pm. She thought they were doing a night away and was so happy with that. He had explained they would be in a basic room and budget permitting, enjoy a dinner at Murray Circle too. The proposal occurred before they were seated for dinner at a quiet hilltop location overlooking the Golden Gate Bridge, with two chairs set up with blankets and a fresh red rose hidden beneath the blanket – (this being Mark’s cue to pop the question as she discovers the rose). Dinner followed set by a cozy fireplace and later, they happy couple strolled off to their suite decked out to celebrate the once-in-a-lifetime occasion.

Though this proposal was phenomenal, extremely special and luxurious, we suspect she would have been just as happy with a twistee tie because they’re THAT in love!

Congratulations Mark & Rachel and for allowing princess proposals to be a part of the first day of the rest of your lives!