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This Week at Linx

Just in…a nice little testimonial from a client of Linx…

I had a great experience with Linx & Amy. She listened to me very well in the interview, & within a year, she had 2 good matches for me. The first one in September; the second one in June. One match was so close that we dated for a year, & we have remained wonderful friends.I have recommended my friends to her. Match-making is not a science; it’s not a sure thing to find a match. But the odds are better than other services where there is no screening (other than by yourself) or going out to advertised “singles” events. Her pricing is steep but life is like that at times.

This week has been super crazy busy at work especially with the mention in the Sunday style section of The New York Times. LinxNYTLots of great inquires from all over have been landing in my inbox. I’ve received so many emails from prospects- especially really young movers and shakers in tech (think FB, Twitter, Palantir, Box) and a lot of folks in the VC and angel investment community as well. From San Francisco, to San Jose, Atherton, to Manhattan, and Newport Beach. Funny how the NYT mentioned LinkedIn as a resource for me scouting talent. I haven’t logged into my LinkedIn profile in probably twelve years. No offense Mr. Jeff Weiner. wink wink.

With Halloween right around the corner, why not head out in true Silicon Valley style with your own chic personalized dress-literally. 1380312_674503142569152_654454838_n
Wearing your Facebook profile as a dress takes social media to a whole new level. Talk about an ice breaker!

I‘ve seen a funny trend in the past two weeks with multiple couples coupling up who share the same name. For instance three male clients named Mark who were matched to three totally different girls named Sally and now each new couple reports back that they are going exclusive. Mark + Sally couple #1, Mark + Sally couple #2, and Mark + Sally couple #3. I haven’t seen that one ever actually. Had some great meetings today with clients and prospects and the rest of the week is about matchmaking, client calls, and some fun work related projects. That’s all for now.

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What Women Are Looking For in Silicon Valley- one perspective

A Linx blog reader submitted this information anonymously about her perspective on what she is looking as she is dating in Silicon Valley.

Last Thursday, I went to the Rosewood after work for happy hour

Here’s what I am looking for in rank order:

1) A sexually attractive man. I don’t know that I would call it ‘beauty’. From the neck up, he doesn’t have to look like a model. But he MUST take care of his body – hit the gym regularly and not have a belly and be toned/have some muscle. When I was at Rosewood, I was amazed by the number of men who I just did not find sexually attractive. They may have great jobs, but they don’t take care of themselves. Men say they need to be attracted to a woman. Well I am no different, I need to be attracted to men.

2) Humble. Also, as I looked around, I was struck by the number of men who appeared to me to be self involved and arrogant. This is from observing their body language, facial expressions, and interactions. The true gem is the man who has an education and a good career, yet at the same time is humble. He is grounded. That tells me he has good values, is introspective, and is authentic with himself and others.

3) Mature. I went to a beer party at my tech company last week and I was struck that the majority of men at the beer event seemed like and looked like boys. From how they dressed, to how they groomed themselves, to their social skills. I know some executives in my department who are MEN, but they don’t go to these beer events. Maybe that’s why.”

Readers, what are you looking for as you are dating in and out of Silicon Valley? Do you agree? What might trump your wish list? Would love for you to send me an email and I can post anonymously too.

The Secrets Of Silicon Valley’s Dating Scene

BuzzFeed contacted me to introduce the journalist to a few of our clients who were willing to talk anonymously about the Silicon Valley dating scene. Here is what one young attorney in the Silicon Valley had to say….

There is saying amongst women trying to date in Silicon Valley: The odds are good, but the goods are odd. There are tons of guys, but they tend to be socially awkward, career-obsessed, and prone to a Peter Pan mentality.

What’s it like to try to find love in the Valley? This lawyer, in her early thirties and living in the heart of Silicon Valley, has tried everything: online dating, going to clubs, and even Linx Dating, a high-end Valley matchmaking service. On the condition of anonymity she agreed to tell all.google-520

They call it “Man Jose,” and it is so true.

If you are even an average or above average female, finding a date isn’t an issue. You have a lot of guys you can go on dates with, but what makes it difficult is finding a viable partner. Most of the men went to Ivy League schools, are ambitious, and came out here because it’s the mecca of the tech world. There’s a great mix of guys from all over world, and there are interesting types of people to meet. That said, not a lot of them are viable. And the men that are viable know it.

A lot of them are socially awkward. They are extremely smart and logical and think, “I can apply that to a relationship and be rational and logical and that will work.” They don’t realize that as women, we can be emotional — a lot of guys don’t have tolerance for that.

A lot of people in the Valley have started meeting people through salsa dancing — it’s really big — and so much social awkwardness comes up. I don’t think a lot of guys even interact with women on a consistent basis. You dance with them and some actually shake. They can’t look you in the eye. They act like, “Oh my goodness, there is a woman who I’m touching.” They get super nervous. It makes it difficult to date someone who doesn’t even know how to act in a social context; it’s just frustrating.

I went on a date with a 25-year-old who told me in the beginning, “You are the second person I’ve ever gone on a date with. Ever.”

It was the worst date. It was clear he had never dated. He told me all these things that you wouldn’t ever disclose on a first date. It almost felt like an awkward high school setup; we met at this yogurt place. And that’s another thing — it’s not really typical to go on formal dates. Everyone does coffee for the first date. In other parts of the country, going to dinner is pretty standard; here, when a guy mentions dinner for a first date, it’s like, wow — that is shocking! Most people in the tech industry are very laid-back and don’t have a lot of time. The mentality is, “Am I going to invest in this or do sort of a pre-date?”

On dates, guys wear flip-flops, shorts, and jeans. It’s what they wear to work, so they think it translates to date attire — just wearing their scrubby clothes. I wear dresses when I met these guys. They don’t put in that effort.

Guys who are successful, who dress up, are good-looking, and who aren’t socially awkward are a rare breed. And they know it. They have a ton of choices. They’re the type that’s always looking for a better option. There are some like that in Silicon Valley, but I find a lot in San Francisco. I’ve been on dates with guys you would say are the “whole package,” and while they’re with you they literally look at other women as they walk away.Mark Pincus

Guys in Silicon Valley spend lot of time on their career and don’t have time to devote to relationships. I’m a lawyer and I work a lot too; most tech guys I meet put in as many or more hours as I do. Sometimes when they have a deadline or are pushing out a product, for instance, they put in 90 hours. They typically say they would live at work if they could. A lot of big tech companies, like Google and LinkedIn, make it conducive to these guys spending every minute of their time there, with great perks like food and showers and the like.

The companies where they work promote a bubble mentality. There is an immaturity level that prevails — like they are trying to promote the idea that they are still in college. At Google they have Nerf gun wars. At work, their food is provided for them and they can, essentially, act like they are still in college. A lot of guys, even in their twenties and early thirties, have roommates even though they are making well over $100,000 a year. It makes it difficult to have a serious relationship.

There are two groups of guys. A lot of them are 23 to 28. They are into their career, and most are quite immature. And then there are a ton of early-forties guys who never married. They have waited and were starting companies and then they hit their forties and realized,”Now I’m ready to get married and have kids.”

These groups are the only two we get hit on by. Where are the early-thirties guys? We can’t figure it out. We don’t know where they hang out or what they do. Especially online, if a guy in his mid-thirties messages me, it’s a rarity. My friends and I are done dating anyone not in their thirties, and we don’t know where these guys are.

I’ve heard that San Francisco is known to be the number one city for gold diggers, but I haven’t observed that at all. It isn’t realistic, because if you live in this area you have to be able to make quite a bit of money — it’s very expensive. It’s actually the other way around: There are definitely very accomplished older professional women here. Older women are just picking up the 28-year-olds because they can. It is totally cougar central, and it’s hilarious.

Everywhere I go, it’s 23- and 24-year-olds. I’ll say, “You’re too young for me. It won’t work,” and they tell me, “I’ve dated older women, and it is so much better.” It’s pretty common. They’ll latch on to us, and they think, she’ll take care of me. They’re being taken care of at work, so why not be in a relationship where they’re taken care of too?

It’s so comical — to the point where when I go out, the first question is, “How old are you?” These younger guys try to persuade you that they really are mature, but they’re not. Some of them just latch on and are very persistent. It’s flattering, sure, but at the same time, it just doesn’t work.

A lot of guys have the mentality that they’ll wait and they’ll find the perfect woman. They don’t realize that relationships aren’t about perfection. At work, it’s all black and white. They say they love their job because it’s about fixing a problem and there is always a solution. They don’t realize that this isn’t how it works in real life.

Written by : Justine Sharrock for BuzzFeed

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Announcing our latest VIP search

Linx is excited to announce a new search for a 31 year old Caucasian female residing in San Francisco. Perhaps you are eligible, searching, or if you are attached, know someone who might make the perfect match for our client. 

Physically, she is 5’6″, feminine with sexy curves, and keeps active with intense gym workouts. On the surface people might judge her as a whip smart, successful female in tech. For those in her inner sanctum, IQ meets EQ. Our client has a magnetism about her, coupled with being extremely down-to-earth, warm-hearted, open-minded, and funny too.

Although young, our client is ready for love now and wants to be able to connect emotionally with her match and build a life and family together one day. We’re not going to fabricate things, she works a lot. That said, she is ready to dial it back (some) and create a strong foundation with you built on monogamy, trust, and passion. Outside of work, she’s a true foodie and super knowledgeable about wine as well. Perhaps you would indulge her and share in this passion with her?  

Our client seeks a match who is between the ages of 25-45 of any ethnicity. You keep active, healthy, and balanced in your life. You’ve got a full life, amazing passions and creative hobbies that keep you stimulated and have so much to offer someone. Maybe you’ve done the online dating thing and perhaps have had a couple of serious relationships.
 
Like our client, this is “your time” to get serious. When you visualize your future, you can picture a true partnership on equal footing. You want kids, in fact…maybe you already have one at home (but would love another). You’re a non-conformist-type who has the courage to do what YOU want versus what society or family dictates. You lead your life with integrity, have a burning fire in your belly to excel at whatever you do professionally, are deep and not afraid of a philosophical debate, intellectual, and friends would say emphatic and caring. 
 
If you or anyone you know is interested in this very unique opportunity to see if you qualify to meet our client, please email me ASAP at amy@linxdating.com. There are zero fees involved. 
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Valentine’s Date Scenario II: Adventurous and Quirky

hope you enjoyed the outfits our friends at Tog + Porter put together for my ‘Over the Moon For You’ date.  This next date I gave them is for a very different couple, dating scenario and relationship status. This young couple is on their second date, so while booking a date on Valentine’s definitely indicates a strong mutual interest, it’s best they keep things light and fun. Adventurous_Quirky

He takes his match to the House of Air trampoline park in San Francisco for some jumping around for this Valentine’s Day. Her hearts aflutter with the date invitation, but what does a girl wear for something so sporty and active? He suggests cocktails and sushi in Cow Hollow to follow. She wants to be perceived as low maintenance and wants the transition from bouncing around at the park into dinner date to be smooth sailing.

They are in the early stages of dating, so she isn’t at the comfort level of fully being herself and “requiring” 20 minutes to freshen up back at his pad post park romp. She knows he will probably be in a freshly washed hoodie and jeans but doesn’t want to dress like a nerd too. One drink leads to two, two to three and tummies full with delicious sushi.

She makes a bold move inviting him to her home for date three to cook together. She’s never been one to “ask a guy out” but it’s 2013 and for her, there are no “rules.” He accepts and leans over for a kiss! She loves how quirky he is and he loves how confident she is. He tells her he thinks her outfit is super cute and was impressed how low maintenance she is compared to other girls. She nods and grins.

Before they can help find the perfect outfit for this young lady, the stylists at Tog + Porter said they would need a little more info about her. They wanted answers to all the questions they’d ask in one of their face-to-face Skype style consults. What’s a normal day look like for her? What’s her budget? Style goals? Of course, I would know all of this about any of my clients, so I rattled off a plausible profile.

She’s in marketing by day and typically opts for casual skirts, trousers and day dresses. Her budget is more J Crew than Neiman Marcus and up to this point, she has relied on her mom to take her out shopping for a lot of her wardrobe since her salary is rather modest.

Her date is a super lax “Silicon Valley geek” coder type who opts for Zuck-like hoodies, jeans, and flip flops pretty much every time she has ever seen him. He’s cute but she never thought she’d be so into a guy so laid back in his style. She needs to look cute yet super comfortable doing her lemon drops and channeling her ‘perfect 10′ Nadia Comaneci moves.Adventurous_Quirky_Option 1

Flying high doesn’t mean you have to leave cute and flirtatious at home. We love the feminine fit and flare of this adorable peplum jersey top paired with easy and memorable red straight leg pants and notice-me shoes. Since we know this client is budget conscience, we’ve broken down the total cost of the look: Peplum Top: $59, Maria Pants: $98, Sam Edelman Flats: $105, Bijouterie Bracelet: $25, BCBG Handbag: $98. Total cost: $385.

This second look is more relaxed in an effortlessly sexy kind of way. It’s based around an off-the-shoulder tunic sweater in a breathtaking hue paired with dark skinnies and an easy on and off bootie, topped off with a touch of glam. Wearing a tank or cami underneath is a good idea, just in case you break a sweat doing toe-touches. And even if the tunic never comes off, a peek of lace never hurts.Adventurous_Quirky_Option2

 

Again, they’ve broken down the cost of each item like they would in any T+P shipment: Wide Neck Tunic Sweater: $79, Multi Stone Necklace: $39, Paige Skyline Straight Skinnies: $169, Lace Cami $23, Dolce Vita Ankle boot: $159. Total Cost: $469.

Like what you see? Let the stylists at Tog + Porter help you look your best for any occasion. If you want help with your Valentine’s Day outfit, be sure and sign up ASAP as time is running out. Similarly, if you are a guy who wants to totally outsource your dating, ping me. I’m happy to be your romantic concierge 

Still struggling on what to do for Valentine’s? Did you read Date Scenario I for a classic night out on the town? Also, stay tuned for Date Scenario III: My House for Dinner. Coming Soon!

This week at Linx and Out-N-About

Another busy week here at Linx. We are gearing up for a huge week next week with a zillion fab candidates meetings seeing if they have what is takes to meet some of our clients. As we only have 20 minutes or so with each candidate, we need to come up with some super targeted questions to quickly capture if they have that secret sauce that makes up our next sort of Linx member.

I‘ve helped some clients out who are in tough situations this week. One in particular where her Linx beau is under a lot of stress. His stress is causing their relationship a lot of friction and it is definitely putting significant tension on it. We discussed how to remedy this in an effective manner. They’ve been together a long time now and are a beautiful match that is absolutely meant to be. I feel this “test” of the relationship will only make them so much stronger in a marriage. No relationship is perfect. Everyone experiences crap. It is how you deal with it, talk openly and honestly about it, and manage to get past it as a couple. Don’t bottle things up. At some point you are bound to “boil over.”

We screened a great candidate yesterday and are conducting interviews today. One guy and one female. Just found out about another super successful Linx match. Both relate to one another as they each have children. The children and commonality of shared background are the necessarily pillars that cement this sort of potential relationship. Some people who have kids feel very unsure of how or when to bring up such an important part of their lives in the dating game, especially if their match doesn’t have kid(s). This sort of makes this extraordinarily easy from the start. They both “get” it and “understand” one another. The trials, joys, happiness, frustrations, and responsibilities that make up being a parent.  San Mateo-20130129-00816

We love how clients transform at Linx. Today we interviewed a young software engineer who is quirky, intelligent and came to Linx to help him progress with his dating life. When he initially came into the office for his screening, we felt he needed some date coaching and he agreed. San Mateo-20130129-00812

Fresh gorgeous flowers this week at Linx. 

When we first met him he could hardly even calm his nerves being in female company. He was struggling noticeably trying to focus on our meeting.  Since then we have really helped our new client on several other occasions for date coaching. His transformation has just been amazing. What we admire so much about him is his commitment to self-improvement. He wants to find the right girl and wants to fall in love. After date coaching we decided the next natural step was to become a client.

Seeing him today was like meeting an entirely different person! He was so relaxed, at ease and just so excited to get out there and start dating! I can’t say enough how excited I am for him and so proud of his willingness to take these steps in learning more about himself and being prepared to date. The only thing left is a little wardrobe consultation we’ve set up for him next week and then he’s all set! Way to go!

We continue to get a boat load of girls submitting information to meet VIPs. Just tonight alone, my inbox is flooding. Men of Silicon Valley and beyond do you hear that? To the single gentlemen out there, email us! Linx is a hotbed of incredible, high caliber members.

Random topic. So tonight after work, I ran to Staples in Menlo Park off of El Camino. I make mental notes of crappy customer service in life and those folks who really “go the extra mile” when shopping. I’d like to give a shout out to the hard working guys at Staples. Thank you for helping me tonight! I brought in a paper shredder (yep we are big into shredding documents at Linx as you can imagine!) that failed on me today and started making terrible noises and then went kaputt on me. I rushed over there to exchange it and one of the operations managers at Staples took time to repair it on site for me. He plugged it in, he somehow managed to pull the stuck papers out of it like the incredible hulk and then cleaned it out. Who does that…especially when he could of pressured me to just buy a new one for $59.99?!

Another manager raced around the store looking for these special clear folders that we are obsessive about in the office. These folders store Linx client information neatly and after many attempts, I simply couldn’t find them. I asked for help and this manager came to the rescue. He couldn’t find the ones I needed but did manage to find a style that was a close runner up. Only caveat is the packet was rainbow colored and I needed all clear. When I expressed my disdain to this runner up being multi-colored, he literally took it upon himself to open many multi-color packets in order to remove the one clear folder in each 6 pack. Who does that? Thanks Staples for being so helpful!

It reminds me of the times when there is absolutely no customer service. There’s one women’s clothing boutique on Chestnut Street in MP that gave me the utter heebie jeebies with hands down poor service. I had never been in there and a best friend of mine always raves about it. Randomly a few weeks ago I walked in and I was the only one in the little high-end ladies boutique. Not a single customer but me. The lady at the cash register looked me up, looked me down (yeah ok… ok, I was in my workout gear and hadn’t planned to shop) and she didn’t say a peep. I looked at the price tag on some of the items, 1K fur bolero, 2K this, 4K purse. I was thinking, child, in this economy AND with online shopping so totally efficient, you best be friendly to those who enter your store. I have no time or interest in thus I will not return there. Or the one time….(no no, not at band camp) in Palo Alto 4 (yep 4) of the sales girls were TRYING ON CLOTHES and parading around admiring themselves in the mirror. Really? Eeek. Not good. So I like to acknowledge those special folks like my new friends at Staples who stand out from the crowd!

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Marshall….the Linx mascot…can this boy be any cuter? Marshall is going to be passing out special puppy Valentines to his best guy and girlfriends at the puppy park soon and mommy is making his friends pumpkin and peanut butter homemade biscuits as Valentine gifts. Yeah I know, I’m totally obsessed! 

 

Are you a Match? | Recruiting!

This week we are looking for eligible candidates for the following clients of Linx. This is a random sampling of a few male clients we are currently focusing efforts on.  If you might qualify and/or know anyone who is eligible and searching for that elusive chemistry, ping me asap amy@linxdating.com. Please mention the profile that sparks your interest and why you might make a perfect match.Stanford-by-gellert.varga-at-Flickr

CLIENT ONE:
 
Our client is in his late 30’s, Caucasian, 6’0″, athletic and very active working out at least 5 days a week. He is very cute, fit, and has a full head of brown hair. Extremely well educated (including post graduate), he is a leader in his field. As an executive at his company and serial entrepreneur/investor, he works a lot and throws his passion into running his ultra successful tech company. Confident, charming, optimistic, happy, well rounded, and social best describe this Silicon Valley based gentleman. He is a total monogamist and is ready to find the love of his life. Religion wise, he is Jewish and while he embraces all religions, would love his match to be open-minded to embracing Judaism in marriage (not to say his dream girl needs to convert for love). 
 
Our client needs someone who is truly ready for a relationship and a non-game player. This client works a lot and at the end of the day wants to come home to someone who will pour her all into building a loving and passionate relationship. She is not someone who can only see her man every other week because she is on the road for work 24/7 or dating like 15 other guys. You are in your 20’s to 30 max. Why the age range as such? He wants a few babies and to not have to rush into planning for this with pressure. You are petite/slender, fit, pretty, natural, keep healthy, and radiate a wonderful happy aura about you. You are warm, social, classy, sincere, optimistic, generous, very loving, and family-oriented.  
 
Our client loves the Silicon Valley and desires living here. Although he considers himself a citizen of the world (traveled to over 65 countries!), his entreprenrial roots are here and hopes you will build a happy life with him here as well. tumblr_le7ozxYeOl1qbvoj8o1_500
 
CLIENT TWO:
 
Our client is in his late 20’s, Caucasian, stocky (buff) in his build and works out with a trainer to keep active and balanced. He’s super cute, stylish, and Italian in heritage. Extremely well educated from a top university for undergraduate, he was an early employee at a well known tech company. What we admire so much about our client is how down-to-earth, fun, and the sort of guy’s guy who is up for pretty much anything, anytime. He’s quite social and loves maintaining great friendships with a lot of his college buddies. He enjoys entertaining, travel, concerts, sports, football, and much more. Although he is young, he is looking for someone to compliment his already amazing life and establish a loving relationship where good communication is paramount.
 
His match is in her 20’s, any ethnicity, petite, super bubbly, and feminine. Friends would describe her as sweet, family centric, confident, affectionate, and maybe a little traditional. Our client loves his job, so you should be happy what you are doing with your job. He’s not very tolerant of girls who hate their gig and never seem to do anything about it. If you are Catholic or Christian, that is the icing on the cake. Like him, his match is just a chill, fun, easy going girl with very low drama in her life. She’s independent yet ready for a leading, masculine guy to compliment her wonderful life. silicon_valley
CLIENT THREE:
 
Our client is in his mid 30’s, Caucasian, fit, toned, and 6’3″. He’s sporty and active, working out 5 days a week on average. His sense of style is a little more conservative…definitely not the Etro or John Varvatos type. He is very well educated including having his MBA from a good local university and he works in technology (like a lot of our clients) and is an executive at a public company. He’s a responsible sort of guy, living and working in the Silicon Valley and already planning for the future as a proud homeowner. He was raised Catholic and would like to bring Catholicism into his marriage and family one day. Our client is shy by nature and more on the introverted side. The right girl will have the ability to make him feel comfortable and relaxed to simply just be himself without any pretense. 
 
His match is Caucasian, cute, and active. She is late 20’s to early 30’s and family oriented. She can visualize getting engaged and married in the next 16 months or so! She has a job but her job doesn’t define her entire world and she can imagine not working one day and being a stay-at-home with the children. There is a feeling of fulfillment that our client would achieve in having the role of “breadwinner” and having his wife manage all domestic duties and responsibilities. His leading lady is social (would enjoy planning all social things ), be friendly, very nurturing, and have a loving heart. She’s a good girl, maybe had one, two, or three boyfriends but not a slew of ’em.
 
 


This week in perspective

This week has been incredibly busy for us at Linx.   Yesterday we had screening appointments and interviews. Today I am catching up on zillions of emails and gearing up for a busy day tomorrow with prospect screening (one gorgeous girl flying up from LA to meet us, amongst other great candidates.) Rumor is the CNN piece that was filmed in December should be airing at the end of the month as well.

Amidst all of the client appointments, I spend hours each day contemplating how to respond and subsequently responding to a lot of the intense emails I get. Linx clients know they can speak to me about anything dating-related and often do, in a very private manner. poets-love-letters-2fb287a0597e9e01
I take each email I receive seriously and try to give each one my undivided attention and careful thought. It’s funny when a lot of finance types of friends or VC clients ask me how I will “scale” the business. I explain it is precisely this nature of the business which makes it virtually impossible. I can’t farm out my emails to some virtual admin in Sri Lanka or just hit the delete button on these. These emails require MY knowledge, history of the client (and often their match) and my expertise in helping them outline a good strategy.

Not every email and phone call I receive are peaches and cream, happy go lucky….they concern real, everyday things that can cause turbulence (sometimes light and passing quickly, all the way to intense and persistent) along a couple’s journey of discovery that determines whether or not they are meant to be.

Sometimes a match just is not meant to be after the couple really gives it their all. Sadly, in some cases, one gives it their all or really wants it to happen but the other just isn’t feeling it, so it burns out. This causes confusion, anxiety, frustration, and sometimes a feeling of hopelessness.

This is a business of real human emotions, after all. You all are putting SO much into this process and really do give it your all. Sometimes we both realize in our emails and phone call strategy sessions that chemistry can’t be manufactured and you can’t force something that just isn’t meant to be. That is hard to grasp and often requires taking time off from dating to just breathe and get a balanced perspective back.

If this is something you have experienced, I encourage you to write a reflections list of what worked in your past relationship and didn’t. In other words, those characteristics that you would like to see repeated again and those that would be best to avoid. modelcasting-560x373
On a separate note, the demand to meet “VIP” clients has really sky rocketed in the last 6 months. My assistant and I are hosting a casting day February 7-8th in Palo Alto to screen the women who have submitted their information to our company over the last few months. This casting opportunity is a way to come out and meet the Linx ladies and to see if each girl has the right look and personality to be matched to our VIPs. It’s been so popular that this event is now officially sold out! As such, we will be doing another mini meet and greet casting day in mid-March.

And on the VIP note, with Valentine’s around the corner some prospect VIPs from Oct-Dec 2012 timeframe who needed to “wait” and “see” if they wanted to do Linx have resurfaced and are joining in the next few weeks. Exciting times for all.

I keep bumping into Linx couples out and about which I love! It happened again this past Saturday at a restaurant in Los Altos. My former client and his wife literally jumped up with excitement and surprise as they walked by our table and I shouted their names.

In closing, we will also be posting some fabulous and flirty looks for Valentine’s with the help of our friends from Tog + Porter in the next week or so.
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Puppy pic from when Marshall was on his way home from the SPCA

Silicon Valley Date Coaching

We are a lifestyle business and offer our clients and friends of Linx a wide range of auxiliary benefits beyond our core competency, matchmaking.

I get a lot of requests from Silicon Valley callus-thumbed engineers looking to get some assistance in techniques to get the girl.

This week we worked with one young gentleman who is such a sweetie and conduced a simulated date in a Menlo Park based restaurant. This mock date helped him with many techniques we had practiced at our office.

A lot of these guys  either don’t have the dating experience (so the thought of going out with a cute girl terrifies them) or they simply don’t know what to say beyond talk of Settlers of Catan, Rails, IRC, AI, and MUDs.

In SV geek culture, that talk is commonplace at work and amongst buddies over video games but when it comes to understanding women and dating them, we teach these guys to best position themselves to get the girl.San Mateo-20130109-00750The actual mock date in Menlo Park

The truth is these guys are exceptionally gifted and very smart. They just don’t always see that they are capable of interesting conversation beyond their comfort zone. Often, they are so knowledgable about a wide range of topics, it simply means helping them pick and choose from topics to cover in the early stages of dating so they are perceived as interesting and passionate.

We also help them with a lot of flirting techniques and commanding control of the date. In other words, not shrinking with doubt in their chair, instead maintaining confidence throughout the entire course of the date and being the so called man.

After 4 sessions in our office, our client was ready for his mock date this week. He absolutely rocked it and made such progress. He felt incredible about himself and those initial nerves that were extremely present in our office date coaching sessions were totally gone on the actual mock date. I moderated his mock date and provided a lot of feedback in real time. These services we offer are beyond invaluable. Where could anyone ever get ‘on demand’ feedback like that in real time?

I’m so proud of this young guy who is now going to totally breeze through his real-life dates and actually have fun! What a small investment for something so huge in life. He overcame jitters, doubt, pessimism, social anxiety around women, and not knowing how to flirt at all. Now he’s actually excited to start dating and hopefully meeting his dream girl.

Linx Evolving

At Linx we are change agents and trend setters. We believe in the importance of marching to the beat of your own drum and constantly evolving as a human. In dating, it is healthy to recognize that dating is a skill and often a learned skill. It is also important to admit that you can always improve. By that same token, to recognize when it is time for a small change. As small as a new hair cut sometimes or a candid conversation with a married friend to learn how he/she approached dating back when. Getting additional inputs and data points are so important to achieve the goals that you want to achieve in your personal life.

Today I made the slightly impulsive decision to paint part of my office. Change is a healthy thing and a source of future inspiration. I had been wanting to paint my white desk in my study a crimson red lacquer for a big change but after consulting with my painter who I have known for years, we agreed to paint part of the study in a deep red wine color with a satin finish. Here he is priming the nook with a grey paint before he begins coating the walls with red. If you don’t prime  a wall with a grey paint before you do a color like red, you will be very sorry he told me. A grey primer allows for less red coats on the wall. I can’t wait to see the finished product! San Mateo-20130110-00755