If you are experiencing a new budding love with someone special, have established exclusivity with your partner, are planning your wedding, or already married, it is essential to place a premium on a regular date night and make a habit of it.
We all live very busy lives- some much more chaotic than others. With hectic commutes, juggling business travel, finding time to exercise, carving out time to see friends and family and keep things happy in your relationship..it can all seem very overwhelming at times. When you add everything up in our lives, it can lead to general “noise.” Putting date night off yet another week can stir up problems later on.
Really ask yourself if you putting the necessary time, devotion, open communication, and support into your relationship. If you haven’t been calendaring date night, ask yourself what brought you both together in the first place? Slow down a little and get to that special place. Sit down with your honey and be proactive to discuss literally calendaring “date night” each week. Take turns planning date night. Keep in mind that date night does not need to be complex or fancy. In fact, too complicated and high-end, might make you both give up on being routine about this.
When planning your weekly date night, simplicity is best but do make a point to look good for your honey. Try a casual new restaurant in town, see a film and go for an ice cream stroll afterwards, cook together and open a great bottle of wine, or drive out to the scenic coastline and breath in the fresh air. My advice would be to *really* look forward to the ritual in this personal couples time each week. It is your special quality time and that with your partner- no one else, no distractions, nada!
According to “The Date Night Opportunity” report from the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, “couples who manage to devote time specifically to one another at least once a week are markedly more likely to enjoy high-quality relationships and lower divorce rates, compared to couples who do not devote as much couple time to one another.”
The study also shares, “couples who spend more time together also report higher levels of communication, sexual satisfaction and commitment. Weekly couple time also offers both married and unmarried, cohabiting couples a chance to de-stress.”