My episode on 2 Chainz Most Expensivest airs July 24th- so set your DVRs. The episode is called “High End Love” 2 Chainz, with a little help from Wale, investigates whether chivalry is dead, or if it just moved to the web. Here’s a sneak speak
“I am writing to tell you that (name omitted) and I are in a committed, exclusive relationship! She is the love of my life! I am as smitten today as I was on our first date in January. Only now I know that much more about her and have fallen in love with this spectacular woman! She is adding so much to my life!
I have met her children and am off to a good start with them. We just returned from a fabulous one-week vacation and enjoyed every minute of our time together! She has invited me to join her later this month, with her family and friends, at her treasured vacation home. And we have a long list of things to share into the future.
We have agreed that we are perfect for each other – always comfortable together, discussing everything openly (including the hard stuff) and supporting each other during these times of change.
She is such a caring person, empathetic, listens so well, is flexible and accommodating. Yet she is also strong and voices her feelings and opinions to me. She is a hard worker devoted to her family, career development and charitable interests. So fun to be around such a motivated, interesting woman!
I want to thank you again for introducing me to her. You certainly saved your best client for me! Amy, thanks again for your very caring and professional support on this journey! I am very grateful to have her in my life!”
Linx is recruiting female “rock stars” 💫ages 27-34- think highly educated, dynamic, awesome career…serious WOW factor! 🚀
We are representing a handful of marriage-minded Founder/CEO bachelors VIPs who are looking for their needle-in-a-haystack match.
Absolutely NO FEES for qualifying candidates. Please email me directly: firstname.lastname@example.org
Thank you so much!
Amy and I recently talked to a client about conducting a VIP search on his behalf, and after our meeting, he sent us a short follow up email that simply said “I think it bears repeating that I am not interested in meeting anyone who has an embarrassing web presence.” Given that so many of our clients come to us as referrals, we don’t always do extensive web research on the people we meet, but in this case we knew it would be necessary. And this particular client had encountered an “embarrassing web presence” in a date in the past, so we wanted to be exceedingly careful while conducting his search.
While we weren’t shocked or surprised by anything we discovered, the truth is that most of us have a stray picture or article or comment floating around that we’d rather forget or can’t control, and none of us wants to be Googled or judged by a potential date before meeting. The concept of net neutrality in no way keeps the web itself from being a rather ruthless place – and humans are all too inquisitive by nature – so when you do have control of your web presence, you need to do everything you can to keep it clean and respectable. You should keep in mind that even if we introduce you to the best man or woman in the world, it’s all but guaranteed that someone in his or her life will Google you at some point… and you don’t want to be blindsided by the results.
So how much is too much? How do we know when captured moments of our past might be damaging our future? Where’s the line between private and public, and how do we stay on the right side of it?
Beware of Pictures with Girls
This applies to both men and women, actually. If you’re a guy, do NOT have public pictures of yourself surrounded by seemingly single women. You might think that it makes you seem like a stallion to your friends, but it makes you seem like a player to strangers. And that’s really not an impression that you want to make. If you’re a woman of a certain age (basically any age north of 27 or so) avoid posting the sort of pictures you might have taken at a high school formal with the rest of your dance team. Yes, it’s nice to know that you have great legs, but posing sideways in a line of friends with a dropped shoulder while you lift the hem of your dress to show your thigh is not really going to attract the right guys into your life. In fact, if you’re over 40 it’s a really good way to keep them far, far away.
Stop Double Fisting
I don’t care if it’s a bachelor party, a football tailgate, or an opening night at the opera – having two drinks in your hands is having one two many. It might be a great picture of you and your friends, or maybe your abs have never looked so good, or maybe you’ll never again be able to wear that dress, but two drinks exceeds the allowable Linx limit. If you need to provide a backstory to keep a picture from being embarrassing, then you simply need to hide the picture. Your friends might think it’s funny, but your date’s friends will probably not. This also applies to any pictures where you are drunk, vomiting, doing a keg stand, engaging in a chicken fight in a pool with someone of the opposite sex, or are passed out.
Close Your Legs. Seriously.
Again, this applies to both sexes. For some reason, guys seem to love to point at their packages, to grab themselves, to turn a pool noodle into a giant phallus, and to generally call attention to their favorite part of their bodies. It might have been part of a dumb prank or a great vacation, but it’s not smart to make pictures like that available to the general public. It’s always possible that you’re managing a Jon Hamm or Justin Theroux-style situation, in which case that part of your body needs no help drawing attention to itself, but don’t purposely make it the star of any picture. Ladies should remember to be just that – ladies. Unless you’re squatting at the top of KT-22 and this is the only evidence of that accomplishment, or you were an Olympic gymnast, we don’t need to see how flexible you are.
Exes are a big “Oh No!”
So let’s assume you’re quite prim and proper… public drunkenness? Never! Revealing pictures? Absolutely not. Poses that aren’t age appropriate? Not on your life. Believe it or not, you might still be guilty of photographic crimes. At first blush it doesn’t seem like it would be much of an issue, but if you still have lots of public pictures with your ex, it can signal that you’re not over your last relationship (and for someone who doesn’t know you’re single, it can make you look like a cheater). A lot of us don’t even really think about what’s visible on Facebook or Instagram or Tumblr, but if you’re serious about looking for a new relationship, you need to digitally box up your last one – to the best of your ability – and put it out of sight.
You can’t control what conclusions someone else might draw from pictures of you, but you can try to control which pictures they can see. So if you’re trying to move forward with your life, make sure you aren’t being handicapped by your past… or your friends, for that matter. Take the extra step of doing a “photos of…” search on yourself on Facebook, and request that your friends hide anything that might be unflattering. Getting into a great relationship really is a team effort; we know that better than most. So make sure that your friends and family are doing their part to help you score the guy or girl of your dreams.
In the meantime, be respectful of your potential Linx matches and KEEP GOOGLE OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP- no offense Larry and Sergey ;). When it comes to digging up dirt on a harmless stranger, it’s important to follow the Golden Rule; do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.
I’ve been getting a lot of clients asking me lately “Amy how did you know we would hit it off like this?” That to me is really one of the kindest compliments I could ever ask for!
It’s hard to say exactly how a great match actually works. Yes, there is a science but so much of what I do is art….it is that 6th sense…a gut instinct and pure intuition. Remember I take huge pride in personally getting to know every member in Linx. I take copious notes, I try not to miss a beat, and I really pick up on the little things often in our client meetings & new client interviews that they might not even know themselves… in other words, the nuances. THAT is one of the major aspects of what makes joining Linx so special compared to the slew of online choices.
With that being said, matchmaking is a leap of faith. It is about having my new client put trust in me that I have carefully listened to who they are and what they seek in a match and on the flip side, having trust in my client that he or she will best represent my network when dating in the real world. I wish I could be a puppeteer orchestrating the perfect outcome for my clients. Unfortunately, I am not a magician, nor can I promise marriage.
One of the downfalls to this business is when clients put tremendous pressure on themselves to find someone. The bar can be so high but the clock begins to tick at such an accelerated speed that everyone senses the intensity prevailing. That can lead to disappointment and expectations that are simply not realistic. On the back end, behind the scenes, we can feel a sense of a ship that is slowly sinking….like a Titanic feeling where the air starts to run out, weights are tightened on our ankles, and slowly…slowly…we submerge into the depths of the ocean. Sorry for the visual.
On a happy note, what I can promise for a client is access to a narrowly tailored pool of individuals whom that person wouldn’t have the chance to meet otherwise, thus increasing the chances of finding love. There isn’t an exact science to this process and, for some overly analytical and risk averse types, it becomes impossible to offer them any explanation that will be satisfying. At the end of the day, how do you make sense of all of that?
TheNest.com (the sister site to The Knot for newlyweds) approached me to come up with the best matches for some of Hollywood’s hottest single celebs like Johnny Depp, Rihanna, etc. They choose a couple of my matches for the story on TheNest.com and the rest I thought I would put up here so you can read about some of my fun celeb match ideas and why!
Although Chastain has said in the past that she doesn’t date actors, that doesn’t mean she wouldn’t. I chose Aaron Eckhart, who, like Chastain, seems more into his craft than fame and has proven his talent in indies like Thank You for Smoking and blockbusters like Batman, could be the exception to the red-headed starlet’s rule. Jessica is an actress of great depths and attended Juilliard, so I think Eckhart would make a strong match for her. With an old soul like Chastain, the age gap works in Eckhart’s favor, too (she’s 36 and he’s 45). Fun fact, they’re both Bay Area, CA natives (her Sacramento and him Cupertino). Pretty picture perfect next to one another too don’t you think?
Although Julianne Hough and Ryan Seacrest’s breakup seemed to catch even the love pros by surprise, I think Hollywood’s hardest working man needs someone a little older. Julianne Hough is 24 years old and Ryan is 38 years old. I would match him with January Jones, who’s 35, blond (which he seems to go for) and seems very classy. Come to think of it, Jones and Hough kind of look like they could be related…perhaps a good evolution in his dating.
He needs someone who completely understands his royal obligations, is extremely poised, classy, and with an impeccable track record. She needs to have strong family values and be someone to shape Prince Harry into the marrying type versus the party boy image. A great match would be Charlotte Casiraghi who is 26 years old. This beauty is fourth in line to the throne of Monaco. Her maternal grandparents were Rainier III, Prince of Monaco, and Grace Kelly. She also is the official equestrian “ambassador” of Gucci. Prince Harry and Charlotte would not only share the similar royal family background, be close in age, but also a lovely common passion of all things equestrian.
Katie needs to step out of the Hollywood scene for dating and date a strong leading man who is not only deep and intellectual but very cute (and frankly a better age compared to her ex Tom). Uber entrepreneur extraordinaire Jack Dorsey founder of Twitter and Square would make a great match for Katie. They both seem approachable and what is so nice is that there would always be tons to talk about considering they are in completely different industries. They’re also a good age- she’s 34 and he’s 36. She already has the child and most likely he would appreciate that biological pressure being removed so they can really enjoy getting to know one another. Certainly if they did have children together, their babies would be gorgeous and smart to boot!
You can check out more matches here: http://ideas.thenest.com/love-and-sex-advice/sex-questions-advice/slideshows/fake-celebrity-couples.aspx?page=4
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