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Dreaming of the OC….VIP bachelor searches for his So Cal sweetheart….

We are over-the-moon to announce another VIP search!  Linx VIP’s are extremely committed to finding the love of their lives. Due to our scrupulous selection process of who we admit to become our next VIP client, coupled with it being 100% the right timing in their lives, they go off the market FAST once we find the right “needle in a haystack” match for them.
Currently, we represent an elite handful of VIPs around the world and majority of these clients are off-the-market and planning their future with their respective match.  Most of these success stories stem back to our clients first or second introduction and voilà our challenging job is done! 
Our new VIP is anything sort of exceptional and the Linx ladies know first-hand having flown down to Orange County to spend a day in his beautiful home and surroundings. What other matchmaker flies to visit clients and enters their homes? None. For the females reading, this should provide tremendous security and comfort knowing just how extensive the Linx vetting process is of our premier clientele.
So without further ado, our VIP gentleman is a savvy, handsome, successful, and clean-cut Caucasian gentleman. He is a youthful 48-year old and based in a bucolic, private golf course community nestled within the rolling hills of Orange County just a few miles away from the beach. Born and raised in Denver, he maintains a very loving relationship with his entire family including his parents as well as his 3 brothers and 3 sisters, all of whom still reside in CO. 
Physically, our client stands at 5’9”, has brown hair with flecks of grey, piercing blue eyes, sun-kissed tan skin, and a trim physique. His smile is bright and white, adorned with dimples, and his sense of style is relaxed, yet put together when not at work, and wears a tailored suit and tie for his job. Family, balance, stability, faith, and fun are some of the cornerstones of his life.
 
This candidate is the sort of man whom you can rely on. He’s incredibly confident, yet this confidence is tempered with an easygoing, fun-loving personality. He starts his day bright and early with his two beautiful daughters ages 9 and 11 years old over breakfast, giggles, and homework – both are straight-A students and love school! Once they are safe and off to school, he boards a plane for a short flight to Santa Monica where he morphs from “devoted, cool Dad” into “Executive” – the President of an investment management firm.
 
He’s been with this Tier 1 firm for over a decade and prides himself on running a very well-oiled machine that is grounded in the right processes and hiring of good people – all skills that he built over a lifetime of experience. Come 4:30pm, he’s heading back to the plane to be at home with the girls for a healthy and delicious dinner together.
 
Traditional, down to earth, and a Colorado boy at heart, our client relishes in any opportunity to be outside. He loves golf, skiing, fresh water fishing, hiking, the beach, warm weather, dining, his close circle of buddies, fast cars, and good red wine – pinot noir being a favorite.
You will find him to be extremely consistent, organized, and creative too! He designed and built his custom French-style home and would absolutely love to embark on a series of other real estate adventures with his dream woman scouting the properties and building from the ground up. To him, the process was very rewarding and finding a woman with an aesthetic flair would be the yin to his yang.
 
One of his huge passions is travel! He’s been all over Europe, to Argentina, regularly goes to Hawaii and loves islands in general (BVIs, US Virgin Islands, French Polynesia, Mykonos, Santorini), and Australia. Finding a match who would jump at the chance to travel with her dream man would be the icing on the cake!
Our client has experienced and witnessed some of the greatest joys and sadness of life. In 2017, he lost his extremely beautiful wife to a long, multi-year battle with breast cancer. Out of the darkness came a huge appreciation of commitment, being a loyal husband, being married, and being a devoted family man.
 
He’s had sufficient time to mourn such a huge loss and while he understands she will never be replaced, his heart, soul, and life have created the balance and room for someone extraordinary and very special to enter it. The Linx ladies spent considerable time with him recently and chatted at length with him in his beautiful, bright home about what he needs in a match. One thing that is very clear is that the single life is not for him!
 
His best suited match is between the ages of 28-40, Caucasian, Mixed race, or Latina, and with a natural beauty about her. She’s slender, with medium to long hair, a great smile, and a chic sense of style. She needs to be easygoing, patient, possessing of a sunny disposition, and to appreciate the simple things in life. While she might have a career of her own, this is not a requirement of our client. He’d welcome the opportunity to have his match be in charge of the home and family – yet she could easily have a side career if desired.
If you or anyone you know might make a wonderful match for our dream bachelor, please do not hesitate to contact Amy Andersen at: amy@linxdating.com.  There are absolutely NO FEES involved for qualifying candidates.
Thank you and let’s get this great guy successfully paired up! Happy Spring!

Single in Orange County, CA?

 

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The Linx team is conducting screenings in Orange County, CA next week! If you are single and searching for the absolute love of your life, please contact Amy at amy@linxdating.com ASAP to see if you qualify for a complimentary mini meet and greet with the Linx ladies.

New Year, New Resolutions: 7 Ways to Make 2019 Your Year for Love

 

iStock_000027212743Small.jpgIf you’re ready to make 2019 a year of unforgettable connection, I want to give you the best chance of success. The road to love does involve some work; it’s more than just taking risks, it’s also about letting go of the habits that hold us back. To get your 2019 started right, follow these 7 tips to simplify and expedite your path to a meaningful, fulfilling love life.

 

  1. Ditch the lukewarm arsenal of safe bets.

If you’ve been dating, chances are you’ve met some great people but, as great as they are, just aren’t a great fit for you. If you’ve accumulated a collection of “friends” and have found yourself “staying in touch” late at night or spending all your precious free time together, it’s time to cut the cord. Every moment you spend with someone who isn’t your match prolongs the wait for the right person. Harsh? Yes. Necessary? Absolutely.

 

Example: As much as I should love having a glorious, no strings attached relationship, I’m going to try my luck at finding something serious. I want you to know that you didn’t do anything wrong; it’s just that I’m planning to try something new. Wanted to make sure you weren’t left wondering what happened.

 

  1. Let your on again, off again relationship rest in peace.

If you broke up, the relationship is, well, broken. If you have separated or called it off, and are thinking about trying again, ask yourself: “What has actuallychanged?”

Loneliness summons all types of uncomfortable feelings—like regret—while also only allowing you to see the good times and forget the reasons that led to the break-up in the first place.

 

Don’t let these lonely feelings fool you into trying again with someone you were certain wasn’t right for you or someone who was certain you weren’t right for them. The relationship isn’t right, especially at this time, so give yourself the space to grow.

 

  1. Leave the ghosts of your past where they belong: the past.

Heartbreak is a part of life. If you’ve looked for connection, you’ve experienced the pain of losing it. Spending time discussing the ghosts of relationship past will only allow them to keep haunting the future. Each time you choose to relive the happy moments of a past relationship or rant about where an ex went wrong, you resurrect a broken relationship from the dead. Give your new relationship every opportunity to thrive; keep the ghosts at bay.

 

  1. Evaluate how much you want a relationship. Align your behavior accordingly.

Just because you are single doesn’t mean you are seeking a relationship; behavior is the only true indicator of what you truly want. I say this—as obvious at it seems—because so many times people want a relationship but do not do the work to be in one. If you want to be in a relationship, get matched, say yes to new people, make a move. Do something! It might not feel good, but it will prove that you are actively pursuing your personal goals.

 

  1. Refuse to negotiate the red flags.

If you like someone, it’s easy to let the feelings of infatuation cloud better judgment. Instead of making excuses for someone else’s error, re-claim your power by making very intentional mental notes.

 

If your date, for example, is going hard on the drinks and you find yourself unimpressed or concerned, you can try one of two approaches:

 

  1. I have noticed that my date is drinking beyond what makes me comfortable. I am choosing to note this for now. If it happens again, I will choose to be with someone who makes me feel less concerned.
  2. I am uncomfortable with my date’s drinking and have decided that I want to be comfortable. I choose to move on.

 

Every time you make an excuse for someone, you are stripping away your ability to make a choice. Once you break the habit of being forced to accept to being able to choose, you will feel much more aware of your standards and much less open to people who don’t meet them.

 

  1. If the present fulfills you, don’t let the future stress you.

Have you met someone who makes you feel fantastic? Get familiar with those feelings and let yourself experience them totally! Too many times, I have seen clients sabotage happy, functional relationships in their efforts to “know where it’s going”. Sometimes, the most challenging part of a blossoming relationship is allowing it to unfold organically. If you do find yourself pushing for answers early on, consider the source of your fears and giving yourself time to sort them out before they jeopardize your next connection.

 

  1. Discover what makes you most magnetic.

Whereas people have their preferences when it comes to physical looks, no one argues with the allure of a happy person. That happy energy—the joy of genuine contentment—is universally attractive. Discovering those things that make you feel alive—cooking, hosting, fixing, building—whatever it is, will help you broadcast something special. Cultivate your own happiness and let that new energy work for you.

 

If you’re intent on making the magic happen this year, consider outsourcing some of the work to the professionals. I receive dozens of new clients who want to meet people beyond their traditional circles. Get in touch! Maybe I’ve just added your next match to my rolodex.

 

I’m sending you best wishes for happiness and love in 2019!

Warmly,
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Amy Andersen
Founder & CEO
Linx Dating LLC 

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Here’s what the science says about coming on too strong…

How often has the following happening to you:

Your great date has suddenly disappeared.

  • You always initiate contact with the person you’re trying to see.
  • You’ve heard “I’m just not ready” or “I think we’re moving too fast” within the first few dates.

If this sounds familiar, you’re probably coming on too strong. This type of oversharing can be attributed to the misalignment between how someone sees themselves versus how others perceive them. At University of Texas, researchers applied the self-verification theory to explain why people continually overshare. In an effort to get people to view them the way they view themselves, some people reveal too much too soon–overly personal details, traumas, and strong feelings.

To feel happier, people want to be viewed the same way they view themselves. The person who comes on too strong believes he or she is putting your anxiety at ease by confessing their own feelings. That person believes he or she is providing important information you need to have right away, because he sees himself as a romantic or someone in love. If the feelings are unrequited, or incongruence happens, the self-verification theory notes that the oversharer will experience a negative outcome.

People who come on too strong tend to keep doing so, because they believe–on a fundamental level–that they are doing the right thing and when incongruence strikes, it’s especially debilitating because it jeopardizes the way the person sees himself.

So, how do I know if I’m coming on too strong?

Take a minute to evaluate your date’s responses. Did your date ask you lots of questions? Did (s)he initiate kissing, touching, or contact of any kind? Did (s)he propose a time or place to get together again? If not, slow down the pace until you see reciprocal positive signs that invite attention.

But, what’s the problem with telling someone how I feel?

There’s nothing wrong with sharing feelings, but it’s in your best interest to apply some objective, non-emotional thinking to ground you. For example, it’s been two dates, and you’re feeling very interested. Understand that the other person involved only knows you as much as he or she has experienced with you to that point. That person won’t know that you’ve turned down countless dates or are hard to get; they only know that it’s been a short period of time, and that’s all it took to win you over.

Without having had to “earn” your affection with positive behavior or sufficient time to show you who he or she really is, the other person won’t be able to figure out a legitimate reason for you to have such strong feelings.

When someone says too much too soon, it suggests an immediate need to fill a void versus a well-considered, intentional selection based on someone’s unique character. Just as you wouldn’t want to feel like your partner could be with anyone, and that you were just the first to come along, you shouldn’t give any reason for the person you’re dating to feel this way.

So, when should I express my feelings?

There is no “right” time to voice strong feelings. The only “right” thing to do is to try to understand what your true motivation is for doing so. Are these strong initial feelings stemming from a place of neediness? Has it been a while since you’ve met someone halfway decent? If you feel a sense of urgency to share the love, spend time figuring out the why.

 

Exclusive Linx Event November 15th

Linx is hosting a private exclusive networking mixer on November 15th in Menlo Park. Invite only and a who’s who attending from the Bay Area and Los Angeles as well.

This event has incredible sponsors involved and is about dynamic networking, conversation, and meeting like-minded professionals, many of whom are single and searching. Linx events are legendary and are not to be missed.

If you are single and would like to be considered as a guest of this cocktail party, please email Amy amy@linxdating.com

 

2 Chainz and Wale Meet the ‘Cupid of Silicon Valley’ aka ‘Shorty’ ;-)

My 2 Chainz Most Expensivest episode is finally here! 2 Chainz has his own thoughts about the service, aiming a suggestion at the viewers who might be on the lookout:

“If you ugly and got low self esteem, you better get you some money. There ain’t no ugly billionaires. Billionaires is cute […] Get yourself some money and for the low price of half a million dollars, you too can buy yourself a wife.”    

Love how Chainz called me ‘Shorty’- I think my business card needs a new title! And yes Wale, I think there needs to be an HBO special about this too!

 

2 Chainz Most Expensivest sneak peak….

My episode on 2 Chainz Most Expensivest airs July 24th- so set your DVRs. The episode is called  “High End Love” 2 Chainz, with a little help from Wale, investigates whether chivalry is dead, or if it just moved to the web. Here’s a sneak speak