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Dashing tall, dark, and handsome surgeon seeks match 27-37….

iStock-486286880 copy.jpgOur client is a handsome and athletic 6’2″ Caucasian gentleman who was raised in San Diego. This very youthful and energetic 45 year-old has brown hair, olive skin, green eyes, and quite an athletic physique. He moved to Silicon Valley after living in San Francisco for 6 years to be closer to work but finds himself visiting friends and absorbing the fine arts of San Francisco often. 

He graduated first in his class as an undergraduate and was jointly accepted to both UC Davis medical school and USC film school. After a tough decision he feels very lucky to be so in love with his career as a surgeon and spends time every year in various locations in Africa and Nepal teaching and performing surgery.  In this exchange he provides the free surgery and in return these thankful patients rejuvenate his perspective on life and fill his soul to the brim. He also takes time to teach Stanford residents and trains international fellows. 

Outside of work he has a very full life but looks forward to making room for a partner and relationship. He finds tranquility in both the mountains and the ocean. Mountain passions include hiking in stunning locations such as Africa and the Himalayas, mountain biking around the Bay Area, snowboarding around the globe (including a back-country trip to Antarctica), and rock climbing in Yosemite valley and Tuolumne meadows. The sea provides surfing enjoyment and he loves reconnecting with friends and nature in places like the Mentawaii Islands. Luckily he has a lifestyle oriented work situation with a great many vacation weeks per year so he has ample time to both travel and enjoy these activities. His adventurous spirit once took him rock climbing at 17,000 feet to the top of mount Kenya where he unexpectedly spent a frigid night shivering under the rope which served as his only blanket. He now prefers to not torture himself and others and happily moderates the intensity of these sports so they can be enjoyed with others as sharing the fun of these activities with others brings him great joy. 

Beyond these interests our client loves the art world and has a background in fine arts. Both photography and painting have been passions since college and he is not only a published artist but has had gallery shows. Still, he considers his best artwork to be his beautiful and brilliant 4 year-old daughter whom he amicably shares custody with his ex-partner. 

His best suited match is between 27-37 years old and keeps an active, healthy lifestyle. She’s mixed race, European, or Asian American with a well-toned physique and a glow that can only come from a healthy lifestyle and positive attitude. Friends would describe her as passionate (work, life, and goes after life with zeal), intelligent, tenacious, caring, trustworthy, and responsible. He is looking for a partner with an adventurous spirit so together they can squeeze as much joy out of life as possible. If you know anyone who fits this description, please refer and nominate your friend or yourself by emailing Amy at amy@linxdating.com 

Remembering Why I Do This…

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This year is off to a phenomenal start with so many couples in committed relationships. Today, I just received an email from my 60-something male client about his lovely Linx match and their recent engagement!

They both came out of very challenging divorces and the process shattered their respective self-confidences and frankly their hopes of ever finding love again. Yet, these two people believed in me, and this incredible process, enough to sign on and allow me to do what I do best – work my magic!

They each had a couple of introductions and then met one another pretty early in the process of our matchmaking lifecycle.

Exactly one year from their first date in Silicon Valley, they got engaged at a romantic restaurant in Europe. His email sharing the joyous news today brought tears to my eyes. THIS is exactly why I do this. I am very grateful and so humbled to get to change so many lives.

“I am writing to report to you some exciting news:  We are engaged to be married! We took a trip to Europe over the New Year’s holiday and I proposed to her in a romantic cafe! 
As you know, we met about a year ago and have come to realize how well we connect at every level. She is a lovely human being with a big heart, along with amazing intellect, worldliness and curiosity! We are the best travel partners! 
Most importantly, we are deeply in love, full of mutual respect and admiration! I have never felt about anyone like I do about her! Every moment has been wonderful, despite the baggage and issues we both bring to the relationship. Being with her makes everything easier! There is a lot of mutual support!
We are looking forward to many years of love and happiness together!
P.S. Just like you said, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. But so worth it!” 
Why stay on the giant hamster wheel of volume dating to endure more nights of swiping to meet a match?
Have you considered working with a matchmaker?  One of the biggest value adds is meeting people who not only are extremely exceptional by nature but who have been vetted.
Vetting in today’s era of modern dating is essential.  Anyone in the dating market should watch the recent series on E! about John Meehan and Debra Newell, as it should give EVERYONE pause about apps and online dating.
Without a shadow of doubt, hire a professional who’s not only the best in the industry but has earned her stripes being in business for 16 years!
Email me: amy@linxdating.com to learn more

5 Star Linx Testimonial

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“I’ve been a Linx client for the past year and a half — and I have nothing but positive things to say about Amy & the team. This review is based on my actual experience as a (paying) client.

There are a few key things that you should know:

* BOTH men and women pay to be a part of the Amy’s network, so there’s a level of commitment on both sides that just doesn’t exist with other services. When Amy connects you with someone, you take them seriously.

* Amy’s screening process is extremely thorough. She really dives into what you’re looking for, really gets to know you, and really puts thought into the folks she connects you with. She asks questions that cover both the superficial and deeper down (say what you will, but both matter in dating!). For example – one of the getting-to-know-you tasks is to assemble both a scrapbook of photos of people (anyone) you find attractive AS WELL AS photos of people you’ve dated. Amy wants to see the spread between what you imagine you want and what you’ve actually shown attraction to — that’s key and clever.

* Everyone uses her! Critical mass / network effect is so important with a matchmaker — you can be confident that you really are getting into a pool of like-minded people. I signed up after independently asking 3 different friends (guys and girls) how they met their significant others, and all said “Oh, this awesome matchmaker named Amy Andersen.” So the network is great.

* The Linx process saves a ton of time. The social proof begins right at the start — Amy tells you that you’re going to like this person. Amy tells the other person that they’re going to like you. Neither of you are going to flake (or face the wrath of Amy). You know the other person is vetted. They know you’re vetted. This literally saves weeks in the traditional dating process of un-returned texts/calls, cancellations, changed-minds, etc. You can be assured that at least the first date is going to be a good one. And if there’s no chemistry, well, so be it, but that’s up to you 🙂

Anyway – that’s it. It’s worth the $$, it’s worth the time.

(PS – I ended up dating the FIRST person Amy set me up with for a year. So there ya go.)”

Cinematic Greatest Kisses of All Time

On this holiday, enjoy TIME Magazines greatest cinematic kisses of all time. They left out some of my personal cinematic favorites (Sixteen Candles, Romancing the Stone, Something’s Gotta Give to name three) but still a great montage.

Meet the Love of Your Life in 2014

As a “curator” of Silicon Valley’s and San Francisco’s most desirable eligibles, clients often ask me what they should do, in conjunction with Linx, to meet people. First of all, I love this question because it shows me that a new client, for example, is being super proactive about putting (him)herself out there.

In running Linx for over a decade now, my philosophy has always remained simple and to the point. In order to find the love of your life, you must pursue multiple channels simultaneously to maximize the likelihood of meeting a pool of like-minded potential matches from whom you might then find “the one”. I am astounded by close-minded matchmakers around town who claim that they are the “only” good resource to meet people or that their clients don’t need to work hard in order to meet the love of their life. This is completely bogus.

Creating your own luck is an art. My mantra is that everyone is a work in progress and many times this means working on oneself through coaching, strict fitness regimens, etc. and it also means putting yourself out there intelligently. Luck is truly where preparation meets opportunity.

The intelligent client of Linx knows that in order to substantially increase his or her odds of locating that so called “needle in a haystack match” you must utilize numerous approaches and that goes far beyond working with one, two, or sometimes even three various matchmakers.

So it is 2014… a great way to feel connected is through a common hobby or interest – this has always been one dimension of the Linx methodology. Many clients love to learn and to push themselves intellectually and/or physically and are always taking some sort of class outside of the scope of work. It could be anything – one client recently took a mixology class in the Mission district in San Francisco with other aspiring mixologists who mingle, shake, stir, and sip their new creations. Taking a class like this can be a fantastic way to meet dynamic types and what an easy way to “break the ice” – over homemade cocktails.

A hot spot for a girl looking to meet a potentially active and athletic Silicon Valley guy could be rock climbing gyms. This is how a lot of men burn stress and do something that improves their state mentally and physically as a serious challenge. In fact, if I were a single girl on the market, I would get my tuchus into a boxing or rock climbing gym hasta pronto! I’d make sure to wear nice workout clothing, be groomed, and have a great “can do” fun attitude.

I’m a big believer in disrupting your current lifestyle if you are not seeing the results you desire in your personal life. Get out there. Start a co-ed book club if you enjoy reading and want to increase your odds of chatting with the person next to you that happens to be eligible and a life-long learner. A match could be made! There should be ZERO excuses to meet people. There are thousands, frankly hundreds of thousands of eligible men and women in the Bay Area. Everywhere you look can be a potential opportunity.

I know you can make 2014 the best year of your life for finding your match. You can start by emailing me today amy@linxdating.com and learning more about Linx and allowing our niche dating and social network to help you in more ways than one. Not only do we represent countless extremely high caliber men and women of all ages (20’s to late 60’s typically) but we go far beyond our core competency of pure matchmaking. We offer tons of preparation techniques for our clients (wardrobe consultation, fitness training, revolutionary techniques with private date coaching), on top of a long list of luxe concierge services, to complement your journey with Linx. We are the only firm out there that is ultra-personalized.

I can proudly share that I have personally interviewed EVERY client of mine in 10 years (with exception of one due to being ill) and spend considerable time getting to know everyone. Linx clients know they can call me at most hours of the day (or night) on my personal mobile and with the click of a button I am always here for them over email. Catch-up coffees, breakfasts, or dinners are par for the course with our clients as these are such ultra personal relationships that go far beyond that of matchmaker and client. Many of my clients have truly become my friends and, for that, I am extremely thankful. So what are you waiting for?