Day: December 5, 2013

Intangibles

This year has absolutely flown by at such a ridiculously fast pace that, at times, it is very hard to keep my head above water!

I feel like I say this every year but this truly has been the busiest year ever for us at Linx. So many happy couples, countless new clients (quite a few high profile individuals), incredible press (generated proudly with no publicist or PR agent), fascinating creative projects, and much more.

This week we are conducting screenings for one of our Silicon Valley VIPs and are super excited to be meeting a select handful of lovely women who have qualified. Our client wants us to be able to really determine if each “finalist” has that “it” factor and obligatory intangibles that are required for the long-term.

We help our clients define their list of intangibles when we first talk to them about their ideal match. To give you some sense of the depth we go with our clients, I want to take you through a simpler but illustrative exercise that aims to prepare you for 2014 regarding your hopes and personal goals. Start now and get ahead of the curve. tumblr_lvj0spreen1qhz76vo1_500

Take an hour in the next couple of days to write down (on a piece of paper) the top 5 intangibles that your dream match would have.

You might now be googling “intangible.” Go ahead and Google it to see what comes up as step one. Step two in my exercise is to think about people that you have met in your life that really just STOOD out and nearly *zapped* you like a thunderbolt because of their chemistry/energy… their magnetism that drew you in, somehow, some way…for whatever reason. tumblr_m8twxeTdbR1r4d8ljo1_5002

As you start to think about this person, do not limit my exercise to be about someone towards whom you have necessarily felt romantic. Instead, create a neutral slate where this person could be literally anyone you have ever had the pleasure of getting introduced to whether for business, academics, friendship, through your travels, family, volunteering, etc. For the purpose of this exercise I do think it is helpful to choose someone of the opposite sex. So if you are a female think about any man who somehow impacted you even on the smallest level. And for the men reading, think of any female (again this does not have to be romantic) who left an indelible impression (even if a very distant one). If your mind is leading you to your mom or dad, that might be telling.

If you are having trouble thinking of that person, take a break and come back to the exercise. Frankly you might have your “a ha” moment when you are least expecting it….driving to work, shopping for weekly groceries and all of a sudden you have your person. Excellent! Once you have selected one or maybe more than one person take the piece of paper and pen and begin to write down what you think were some of the qualities that impressed you the most. Why has this person left an imprint on your life? Was it that he/she was particularly gregarious? Compassionate? Curious? Sharp? Tender? Loyal? Devoted? Analytical? Ridiculously funny? Creative? Spiritual? Family oriented? Tenacious? Decisive? Nurturing? Stocksy_txpc00193e7nd1000_Small_23845

Once you have penned your list of, say, 5 adjectives that stood out, you are well on your way to creating the core ingredients that you need to find in a dream match for the long haul. These essentials are most likely the intangibles most key in your dream match. Even if you didn’t realize it until now, this could be what you have been missing in the search for the love of your life. It is very hard to find all of those qualities in one person so I’d like for you to extract just TWO that you cannot live without. Once you have two intangibles, keep those super glued to you as you date.

This exercise is also designed to focus you a bit more to better vet the men/women you date (especially if you are doing high volume online dating in conjunction to everything else you are doing to meet people). If you can tell he/she does not have those TWO intangibles from the start…move on. In conclusion, by doing this exercise you will start dating with a heightened perspective and keen awareness that most do not have. You are officially ahead of the curve and on a fast track to a bright 2014.

‘Tis the Season

With the holidays in full swing, I wanted to do a quick post for a fabulous pie that we made over Thanksgiving. This was such a hit and I recommend it for any dinner party you host or need to bring a dessert to. It is so easy and a nice twist to the traditional apple pie thanks to marzipan and the crunchy crumb topping. We bought the pie shells at Draegers for efficiency sake and doubled up the ingredients for two pies. As an option for guests we offered vanilla bean ice cream and insanely rich dulce de leche sauce to pour over the top (a lovely gift from my client.) Pure bliss!

Serves 8

Time 25 minutes to assemble ; 50-60 minutes to bake

INGREDIENTS

1-7 oz box Odense Almond Paste
1 unbaked 9″ pie shell, chilled
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 cup uncooked oats
1/2 cup light brown sugar
1/4 cup chopped almonds
1 teaspoon cinnamon, divided
6 tablespoons cold butter, 1/4″ pieces
1/4 cup granulated sugar
5 baking apples, peeled, cored, sliced

TOOLS & EQUIPMENT

Wax paper
Pastry cutter

DIRECTIONS

Preheat oven to 375°F.
Shape Almond Paste into flat disk. Roll out to 9” disk, between 2 sheets of wax paper.
Press disk into bottom and up sides of pie shell. Refrigerate.
For topping combine flour, oats, brown sugar, almonds, and half of cinnamon. Cut butter into mixture until crumbs are formed.
For filling mix sugar with remaining cinnamon, toss with apples and pour into pie shell.
Spoon topping over apples. Bake 50-60 minutes or until golden brown*. Here is a video of the pie…please disregard the boring music.
* If top is browning too quickly, loosely tent with foil.
IMG_7710 IMG_7705IMG_7709 My rolling pin was a bridal shower gift from my aunt. All the guests signed it and wrote a message on it. After everyone signed it, she shellacked the rolling pin. Such a clever and creative gift for the bride-to-be. IMG_7707IMG_7708IMG_7712IMG_7714 Look at that perfect crunchy delicious top! And the smell….oh my!