I just picked up a copy of ELLE and discovered some new fashion sites to browse. One in particular piqued my interest called Closet Rich. A site coined as “Curated Fashion Resale.” As I am always thinking about how my clients can look fabulous for their exciting dates and at the same time appeal to the ever visual male creature, the notion of curated resale, isn’t a bad one…especially if you like designer and a little trendy on a budget.
I am totally new on the site but did notice one little sort of annoying thing as a potential customer. A lot of cute things my eyes zoomed in on are “sold out.” A site as such should constantly replenish sold out pieces with new inventory. Please note, I have not purchased from this site, so cannot speak to the experience. Anyways, here are a few date appropriate items I found for you readers.
This could be super cute with fab black pumps and simple Kate Spade gum drop earrings…some bangles…and a little clutch.
This is a cute look for date two or three. Pair with chic flat boots for winter. Perfect for a casual day date where you are doing something like a farmers market stroll with coffee or sightseeing together.
Red white and blue long sleeve button up dress
Condition: Great – one front button missing, reflected in price, see image for detail
$75This is sold out but a super hot dress, right? Love the strappy elastic back and white skirt by Alicia and Olivia. This is a great first date dress. Pair it with any color fabulous heel- think bright pops of color like yellow, pink, green…anything really and a fantastic pashmina with a little subtle sequin embellishment or with an edgy leather jacket. Remove jacket or pashmina when you sit down for dinner. He will be drooling with hopes of a second date when you wear this! Also the back lends itself to the perfect place for his hand to touch your skin walking down the street.
Announcing another amazing Linx couple who is newly engaged! Both are in their mid 30’s, Ivy League MBAs, execs, and extremely dynamic people. He popped the question a little over a year after their very first date in Aspen right after Valentine’s Day! They have a wonderful love story and are in the midst of a lot of exciting planning now. Her ring is one of the most stunning and dramatic sparklers I have ever seen. I called it her “ice cube” on her finger as it is that impressive. Lucky girl! Perhaps they will get married in Aspen?
They had both dated a lot on their own before coming to Linx. He was VERY skeptical of Linx before he became a client (even though he was referred in by a former client and trusted source). This gentleman had been in one very bumpy relationship that sort of took the wind out of him, had worked too much, didn’t have any balance in his life, and made excuses along the way.
The day of his meeting with me, he cancelled, sharing, “I lack the time for a relationship and don’t have the interest to move forward.” Was I initially disappointed? Absolutely. Being in business 10 years now and having a deep insight into humans in general, I knew there was much more to the story than that.
I knew I could help him – it was only a matter of shifting his focus and giving him the clarity he needed. Luckily, he agreed (with quite a lot of doubt and huffing and puffing) to simply “take a meeting” with me. We shared stories and instantly clicked, talking for over an hour at my office.
At the end of the meeting, he said something along the lines of, ok what is next, how do I sign up? I had been a catalyst in restoring his faith in love and helping him see that his bar should be set high (to stop dating ‘down’) and to aim for the stars because he is worth it and I knew I could help him.
He took the plunge and did Linx, hit the jackpot with introduction #3, and 13 months later from the time he joined, proposed to a woman who radiates beauty inside and out. He just wrote me, “life is great. :)” This is just one of the many stories of clients that I have seen over the years at Linx.
Today I received an email from a smart young woman who cancelled her appointment with me as part of our casting week mid week, next week. She said she is tired, in a dating slump, not in a good mental place, and just drained from putting herself out there on dates with “nothing to show.” I told her I can SO relate to that frustrating feeling and sentiment. The honest truth is she isn’t ready at this EXACT moment. I believe if she takes some time off, she will have the mental agility and freshness needed to take a leap forward in the right direction. As they say, it is all about timing!
I brought a brilliant- yes literally- brilliant young woman into Linx today as a new client. 25 years who who went to college at ten years old! When I was ten, I was still convinced a monster was under my bed at night and I obsessed over My Little Pony and my Pretty Cut & Grow! I was definitely not focused on selecting the right college courses and fretting over advanced calculus!
We also met with a young Silicon Valley engineer today who needed some date coaching. My husband sat in on the meeting to speak guy-to-guy…hoping that might sink in a little bit more for our client. It did. My husband’s sage advice was (and this can absolutely carry over for women when you date):
1. Show empathy on your date. Try to get at the essence about what makes your date tick.
2. In preparation for your date, channel something (this could be anything) that makes you laugh and feel giddy! Carry that energy into your date. Lead with that light hearted, carefree spirit.
3. Stop being mechanical and going through the motions of being on a date. When you let go and dance through the conversation, it will flow much better. My client explained he felt tripped up and stressed when the waiter was late to take the order. I told my client I want him to try to work on a feeling of lingering through the date. Be so enraptured by your date you don’t even NOTICE if something is wrong. When my husband and I had our very first date- get this- the waiter took 2 hours to finally take our order. We laughed, smiled, and rolled with it. We were so engrossed in one another, we didn’t care for a second.