Day: November 20, 2012

Silicon Valley Dating | Startups Silicon Valley on Bravo

If you live in the Bay Area and are involved in the tech or entrepreneur lifestyle, chances are you’ve been glued to Bravo’s new show produced by Randi Zuckerberg called Start-Ups Silicon Valley. Like anything in life, there are the haters and there are those who love it. I’m enjoying it, particularly as it is bringing some fun and lightheartedness to the Valley.

Tonight was Episode three and the reality cast exposed audiences to a level deeper with the grittiness of start-ups and the emotional pangs of being a founder (for some broke, frustrated, sleep deprived, annoyed, loveless, etc.)  In true reality tv fashion, the show also does a great job at exposing the personal lives of each member (all are single and there is a lot of cross-pollination of cast members. Think hot tubbing, partying together, boozing, hook-ups, jealousy, temper tantrums, etc.)

The female cast members are strong willed, outspoken, and sometimes very unfiltered! These characters (Hermoine Way, Kim Taylor, Sarah Austin) also do a good job showing young females audience views that women can go into tech, be start-up founders, and create a lucrative roadmap for all women out there. Silicon Valley needs a show featuring some founders in their 30’s and 40’s who’ve really been through multiple cycles, failures, and triumphs. I was shocked to read everyone expect Ben Way and Kim are under 30.

The Valley is so small, I often see acquaintances on the show and in tonight’s episode a patron of my Linx Dating “Link & Drink” networking event. Tonight was Ethan Anderson who was giving professional advice to Kim Taylor at a cafe in the city. I was thinking “hey I recognize that guy, oh yeah, I recruited him to be at one of my events.” (he attended back in 2010 at The Rosewood Hotel).  Yes, I do recruit people for my events where I will email them, invite them, and hope the show up. In fact, one super handsome guy I recruited (founder type) attended one of my last events and ended up meeting his now wife from my event! Pat on my back, thank you….

Tonight had cast member Dwight Crow chat with Kim Taylor in Palo Alto over wine (that she ordered). Dwight, honey boo boo, you gotta order the drinks next time. Don’t let a girl order drinks for you/her). 

Dwight, like so many tenacious founders lives and works out of his tiny Mountain View apartment trying to build his company. He’s cute, quirky, and clearly very smart- yet he doesn’t have a penny to his name. Does this matter when it comes to finding the love of your life? How important is it to find a guy with a nest egg or if there is no nest egg, with a decent salary? I’d be curious to get your honest thoughts? Dating an entrepreneur is one of the most challenging types to fall for- I know as I am one and I married one! That said, being one the wild ride of being an entrepreneur in the Silicon Valley has been the best decision I have ever made professionally. One could argue starting with nothing and building together can make a couple strong right? Send me your thoughts….

Tonight, Sarah Austin uses a terms I’ve never heard before called “date cheating.” She ends up splashing this hottie Jay she has one date with a cocktail when out with friends (yet in his mind it had been an uber casual evening and they were just “hanging out”) when she discovered he has been out with her quasi-rival Hermoine Way that night before for a “real” date.

First of all, I always thought that the purpose of dating is that you aren’t committed to one person till you go exclusive? Being single is about having freedom to date whoever and whenever, right?

My advice if you really like someone is to have a few more people in your back pocket. It makes dating so much easier versus weighing everything on that ONE person. A girls gotta get out there and kiss a lot of frogs. She also has to be busy, have a life, and not put all her freegin’ eggs into one basket.

And on that note, the featured song is Ru Paul “Supermodel.” Work it girl….

Two minutes after posting this and tweeting this my post was favorites by KimTaylor. Love how quick people respond with Twitter, FB, you name it!

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Finding Love during the Holidays!


We had an incredible client come into our office recently ready to focus on finding the love of his life. He is truly one of our favorite “types” here at Linx – think brainy Silicon Valley exec dressed casually, successful yet super down-to-earth, charismatic, globally minded and with the kindest heart ever. 
This guy is in his 30’s, having spent most of his life working on his stellar education and building his super impressive career. This is “his time” to find “the one.” Time is a major factor for him- from not only working long hours but frankly not wanting to spin his wheels with random dating avenues out there.  Beyond this, he is trusting of our ultra-personalized approach and I am that confident he will enter each Linx introduction with the purest open heart and intentions. No games, no hidden messages, no not calling back. If this type of guy is into you, he will let you know and not waste anytime. Like a lot of of “gems” of men, he was referred in by a very trusted source that I know very well and admire. 
These kind of men are the marrying kind and for women it can sometimes be a little tricky to create a substantive lasting connection beyond the first date. Our typical Linx male client is so intellectual that looks only go so far. There is real depth there. In other words, their dream girl is someone who will need to inspire them, challenge them and push them in all directions. She must be driven and independent yet have a firm grasp on the concept of togetherness – having that warmth and compassion to build a strong foundation for a loving and lasting relationship.  Together, they will make a dynamic team and without one another, able to exist but perhaps not be at the fullest capacity they were put on this earth to be.  
Where do guys like this hang out? It certainly varies according to individual but in their free time outside of the grind think: book stores, game night at a friends home,  indoor rock climbing gyms, lectures, continuing education classes, on airplanes (since they travel so much), dinner parties at friends, soccer fields, gym, etc. What this means is you must get out there to increase your chances of finding love this holiday season! Be merry, have fun, and do something different! 
The song selection for this entry is “Without You” by the one and only Mariah Carey

Holidays at Linx

Linx is glittering with holiday accents. We’ve gotten into the Christmas spirit here in a big way. One of my favorite decorations is a handmade tree from Horchow that stands about 4 feet tall on a zinc antique pedestal table in our office. The tree lights up the room with her silver twig branches, opalescent pearl beads, and sparkling ornaments I hung on it. Candles twinkle all around it on the table next to photographs of some of our Linx couples. 

There is a very old fireplace in our office too which is filled with large candles on sparkly bases with red and silver ornaments on the floor of the fireplace. As a non-funtional fireplace, this provides the ultimate way to light a room up and create a magical look without polluting the air! Candied faux berries fall gracefully over the fireplace with two handmade stockings ready for santa on either side. Vintage shabby chic-esque books, painting, stocking holders, and paper ornaments saying “peace” and “hope” line the mantle. We receive an over-the-top floral display every couple of weeks from the city and this weeks arrangement stands about 5 feet tall with orchids, red berries, and many other colorful branches.   Such a beauty!