How to find her and make her yours!
Silicon Valley has thrived from men and women leading with their cerebral intensity. When it comes to matters of the heart, that intensity doesn’t always translate to finding love!
I advise our male clients to get out of your head! When dating, it’s very easy to get stuck in your head and having a million thoughts and questions running through your head i.e. “Is she into me? Should I ask her out again? Is she enjoying the date? What is she thinking?”
Remember that this takes away from you being fully present. When you are on a date and thinking about how to get to that second date – just be frank. If you like her, let her know. If you want to see her again, let her know. It’s really a lot simpler than you think – so, get out of your head, be present and man up to the dating challenge of actually not playing games. In other words, tap into emotion. How are you feeling? Women are looking for a man who is not only very smart from an IQ stand point but who has at least some self-awareness and EQ.
Beyond this guys, while on the date, you must be attentive. This goes along with getting out of your head. When you are fully present, you are engaging in the conversation, picking up on signals, paying attention to details of the conversation, making eye contact, being aware of your body language, and complimenting her.
I am always astonished at the number of men who feel they don’t need to pay a compliment. Yes you do! These women make an effort leading up to the first date. She might get a nice mani & pedi, buy a cute flirty dress, and take dating seriously. A compliment disarms a woman, puts her more at ease, and creates a recipe for potential romance.
By getting out of your head and being attentive to your date, these are the baby steps towards achieving your personal goals at landing the woman of your dreams.