How Much Of An Age Gap Is Too Much When Dating?

At Linx, we really don’t match young clients with “old” clients, although there are a couple of examples like this. Historically a lot of matchmakers will focus on older men and matching them to their bevy of young women. Huge age gaps can happen like 20 to 35 years plus in difference. Is that a bad thing? For many, age is just a number and relative in the grand scheme of life. If chemistry is there, why should age be part of the debate of being together or not?

Most of our successful matched couples tend to be less than 10 years apart in age. There’s more in common, more similar life experience, pop culture, music, politics, the list goes on. Creating a strong foundation is what we specialize in at Linx and a lot of that comes from getting to know each client during their interviews with us. So many people crave someone who is going to “get” them and much of this comes from shared experiences in life- education, similar family background, occupation, etc.

Society, depending on culture and location can either turn the other way when age differences are so apart, embrace it, or confront it. I’d be curious to hear your take on how much is too much when its comes to the age gap and dating.

I once dated someone 30 plus years older. It definitely did not go over well with my father. He absolutely would not tolerate another minute of it. My mom thought the guy I was dating was super cool and interesting- he was- but I had to call it quits because it just became plain awkward and uncomfortable the more I thought about it. When my father called into question this situation, it shed light on (at least for me) how strange others might perceive it as well. I guess I grew uneasy with the whole thing too.

A lot of people would have stood their ground, declaring no one can get in the way of true love. Good thing for me, this wasn’t “a love”, instead a really interesting guy to date at a time in my life when exploring these things was what I needed.

Sometimes we need to do something out-of-the box, a little naughty, against the grain, and just do it for our OWN experience. Sure I knew it was definitely different when I first accepted a date from him. It felt exhilarating, sassy, unconventional, and school girl-ish. The month or so of dating him was a grand time; old school courtship, flowers, champagne, gifts, lovely meals, and being driven home. There is something to what it means to be a gentleman and be treated like a lady. Although he wasn’t for me, it was a lot of fun!